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OK, So I need advice on how to cope with a guy..

First of all, We met on a chat room, we're both 20, both gay. He's out, I'm not. He's had relationships, I have been with men but have not had a relationship.

Well, we've been chatting about a month to 6 weeks now, we've agreed to go on dates and really get on together. I have no car atm, so we haven't met yet. But we do speak 24/7 literally. We text, use messenger, Facebook, phone calls etc. We're kind of inseparable in those terms.

I thought we were on the way to beginning a relationship. He makes references to us being together when we're older or what we'll be doing during the summer next year, and even said on an FB status 'my bf is awesome' which i assume he means me but i never asked about it(I know hes not with anyone else). So I got impression he feels same way.

However, today I told him about a guy I used to meet for you know what texting me. I got confused as he told me to go for it. Maybe he was testing me, I dont know.

But then yesterday he disappeared for a few hours, he didn't reply to texts and was offline. He told me he was asleep but he never signs offline when he's asleep.

I'm not sure what to think. I'm either being paranoid or he's got sick of waiting around and met someone else. But he was talking to me all day today. I really like him and due to his influence I'll will be out fairly soon.

Am I being paranoid or should I just trust him?.
 
I reckon you're just thinking too much into it... Probably utterly harmless old chap :)
If you know eachother so well, you may as well just drop a wee hint into conversation asking why he didn't reply quicker :D

Tom
 
maybe he's feeling the exact same way you are about your relationship, so when you mentioned the other guy texting you, he got jealous. he might have said to go for it as a test, like you said, and he might have signed off to show you he doesn't need to talk to you 24/7 as a sort of passive aggressive manifestation of that jealousy. it doesn't make too much sense that he'd distance himself from you because he's jealous of this other guy (you'd think a normal person would try and get closer to you), but i've definitely done something like this before. it's silly, but it might be what's happening.
 
I dont think he's losing interest, but I'm worried he may be meeting exes or something. I mean 6 weeks is a long time to wait for someone who you don't know you're actually going to like. And when he mentioned a boyfriend on facebook the status was quickly removed as if it wasn't meant to be there. And I was too nervous to mention anything about were he went or what he meant by his status cos we're not a couple. He could think I'm coming on too strong. I think I'll just go with the flow and see where it goes. I'm getting myself all worked up. I kind of hope he was jealous cos' then i know he's definitely still into me. :)
 
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you did not mention how close you live to one another - is that an issue?:confused:

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we live about 10/15 miles from each other. Far when you've no car and need to take 2 buses.

xx
 
If you really want his affection, then two busses and 10/15 miles should be no obstacle. I say set a date, hop on that bus, meet him, and let whatever you want to happen happen. I met a guy and was scared to death the first time, but i did it anyway, and we have a great relationship together. We are both married but still enjoy both sexes to the utmost.
 
Just letting you's know I sorted it. We're a couple now. I was being paranoid. I'm happy. Thanks.. Funny story though, The day we became official my ex hook up buddy text me saying he missed and loved me. :O But thats a hole other kettle of fish.
 
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