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I need advise with this guy... I really care about him

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Ok so I am official over my stupid ex! well, I have no choice because he is dating someone else and told me to move on lol. So I will not be deressed over spilled milk even though I really did love him from the bottom of my heart. He told me he cares about me but why is he dating someone else?!?!

So back to my story. This other guy I have known for over six years now. He is an AWESOME GUY! The sweetest guy and he has a HUGEEE heart! However, I do not know if he swings with guys lol. His best friend is gay though, I know that for a fact because I messed with him once LOL. I don't talk to his best friend anymore because he said that the guy I like is straight and he don't want to be out to his family or friends. I find this funny because the guy I like he came over my house a couple times and my mom picked up that he was gay lol. She asked if he was but I said no because he never came out to me. I did flirt with him a few times but he told me that he isn't gay or bi but I just still find something their with him you know? He isn't telling me the whole truth for some reason. Like now he has on his aim message he is in search of a girl but he never lasts with his girlfriends for some reason or another. He has been with 3 girls alone in this one year LOL. That gotta tell you something. Him and I connect very much but to me I think he is afraid of what his family will think of him. I am scared to admit I like him. I do not want to lose his friendship. He was in the hospital this month and I went to visit him. He hugged me when I left. He sometimes gets in like mood swings will he won't talk to me for a like a couple weeks and then he will talk to me out of the blue. Like now he seems upset and he won't talk to me. =(
I feel like sending him an email on how I feel but then I do not want to lose him. I am just stuck on what to do! =(
HELP! lol
 
Leave it alone. Take him at his word until he says otherwise. Enjoy his friendship and put your energy into someone else. You're looking at things that aren't signs and trying to make them into signs. The only sign you could count on would be him saying, "I'm gay and I want you." He hasn't said that, so quit it. If he knows you're gay and wants you, he'll let you know.
 
It's not up to your straight friends to be your rebounds. Take time to get over your ex, but don't try to drag your straight friends into bed to achieve this goal. That is, unless you'd just as soon lose them, as well.

Lex
 
^ What everyone else said.

Back away from your straight friend as bf material.

He was in the hospital this month and I went to visit him. He hugged me when I left. He sometimes gets in like mood swings will he won't talk to me for a like a couple weeks and then he will talk to me out of the blue. Like now he seems upset and he won't talk to me. =(
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He also sounds like a headcase. Who needs a three year old with a grab bag of emotions as a friend?
 
rareboy said:
Who needs a three year old with a grab bag of emotions as a friend?
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I do not get this remark. Please explain.

Yeah, you guys are right. I would just be getting myself into more problems with this guy. If he was interested or bi or gay, I think I'd see him more than I do. I will just leave it as friends and not bother to email him or write him a letter on how I feel. I think that would scare him away lol. There is more to the story, I just gave what was on my mind at the time.

I am glad I can get good advice from this forum! You guys are awesome. =)
 
^ Awwww. Thanks for making someone else's thread about your problem with me.

I tend to overthink things too much. :<
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Not from what I've seen so far. But one has to appreciate someone who apologizes in advance to avatars in case they offend or annoy them. Apology accepted.

Unfortunately, oftentimes the truth is the last thing we really want to hear. That's why I tend to compare reality to being slapped in the face.
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And one appreciates that your response is grounded in this perspective. You likely want to have everything sugar-coated.




But, Matt, Bi-guy's interpretation is correct. Your 'friend' is apparently behaving like an extremely immature and volatile child. Who needs the drama of someone who flies off the handle because of a mood swing and puts you through emotional turmoil. Just find better, more stable friends.
 
ahhhhh, got ya. I didn't mean to make him out to be like that though lol. He is an emotional person though and tries to hide it. It's cool though with me because I am like that as well sometimes lol. We really just talk on aim now. :-/
 
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