I need help with this guy...

[dpnice]

Get on with your life.

You don't need to forget him nor ignore him if finally he gets back in contact. But I would leave him alone to cope with his own problems as I am certain that you probably have some of your own.

Keep him in your memories as it is possibly the best place for him. Go out start enjoying life without worrying and find someone who is ready to commit as you seem to be.

Good luck!

 

[rareboy]

so if you were nice enough to read through all this story, what do you advise me to do? he is obviously in denial and he wants to lie to himself and he doesn't want to talk to me because I'm going to "keep advising him" telling him what's right. and he obviously doesn't want to hear whats right...

Move on. Don't waste your time with him.

 

[Nonimus]

To be honest, he's probably thinking "This guy is so up his own arse he can brush his teeth from the inside"

Youtube or not, you sound like a self-conceited wanker - and i mean that in a caring way darling, i do!

Take rareboy's advice - fuck it and move on

 

[justjw]

Yep, agree with all posters above : back off!
He máy seem the perfect guy in your eyes now, but why then has he blocked you and told your friend he’s ”straight” now, and tried to hit on her?
“Perfect guys” don’t do that!

Forget him!
Or rather: don’t “forget” him, “remember” him, so you’ll know exactly what to do when you encounter another one like him, in years to come !

You have to move a lót of rock to find your diamond, and this guy is a piece of rock, he's nót your diamond!

 

[Croynan]

he has basically told you all you need to know about him. it almost sounds as if he changes his sexuality based upon which culture he is currently residing in.

what purpose(s) do you really think it would serve to try and keep in touch with him? what do you hope to accomplish by doing so? what exactly would you gain from trying to do so?

get a piece of paper and divided it in half the long way. title one column positive and the other negative. then start listing any and all aspects or elements of your relationship with this person and see which side of the chart they fall on. be honest about where you place each item. my guess is you can already determine the outcome of the exercise. but may be seeing it in black and white will help you determine what is best for you and in your own best interest.

eM.

 

[Croynan]

Yea I get what your saying... I know he is confused and stuff ... he was probably more open about his sexuality when he was in an open-minded country but now when he's there he just wants to be straight because it's easier but he can't....

I don't know .. because maybe i'm hoping he would come and live here one day??

you are 19, but you have not said how old he is. in all honesty given the immigrations policies of Canada, what talents does he have that the Canadian government would deem him as so kneadable to their country and its people?

i know. i am not dealing with wishes, hopes and wants - but rather trying to look at things in a practical and realistic manner so that you can make the best judgment call for yourself.

i think you need to be most selfish at this point and really consider what is truly best for your own well being and happiness.

you are dealing HERE with the issues of maturity and plain old ordinary COMMON SENSE. your own well being has to become your priority, as i see it.

i hope that nothing i have said has in any way been offensive and or hurtful, and if that has happened i do apologize here and now. and if that has occurred, i want you to report my posting(s) and have them removed from your thread.

eM.

 

[tomersh]

it's hard for him to admit that he is gay...or even bi....and the min he went back home it became 10 times harder to admit that.....so the only thing i think you should do is let him be....he needs time to figure things out....don't stay hung up on him but don't forget him......if he decides to contact you later on it's your choice on what should be done but for now it's out of your hands....try to move on and not get stuck on him for too long

 

[Shepherd 2]

Back off.
Give him time to journey out.
Stay in touch and offer support.
When the time is right celebrate
by fucking his brains out.
Shep+

 

[FabFairy]

The only thing you can do is move on. Tho I would suspect that his non committment has more to do with family than not wanted to become more involved with you.

 

[FabFairy]

He wanted more but his family kept getting in his way.

His stress stems from really wanting to be your Friend/Boyfriend and the family thinking that you are not right for their little boy wanting to take advantage of him whenever you can get your hands on him. It is not an that uncommon but is defined by nationality and upbringing.

Leave it alone and from what you have said he wants to come back to you in the future

 

[Lewis1]

awww buddy

i think he is scared of the emotional connection you guys built
because emotions and matters of the heart are alot more powerfull than just physical stuff

he seems like he may have been beating himself up for letting his emotions take over that he vowed that he was going to try to be "normal" and yeah thats deep denial and punishment if i may add

i hope he comes around tho

 

[Lewis1]

Awww That actually makes perfect sense ... Because at the beginning he didn't want to get involved and stuff but every time we would stop talking he would come around and want me... so I guess now since he is far away he is "back on track" with his original plan ..

ya I hope that too thanks

yeah geez i hate it when i hear stuff like that
i mean its crazy to deny your true feelings
even if he does find someone else i think he will most likely be thinking about you and what you guys had

but i can kinda see where he is coming from (in a sense)

yeah i think he thought that not being around you or in your vicinity would help him get over you so to speak and move on

i know hes thinking bout you though

 

[G-Lexington]

Maybe you should show him this video!



Lex

 

[texan_slant]

You seem confident in yourself (in a positive way), and intuitive enough to realize that he is bad news.

He sounds like a can o' worms that was opened - then shut. He took the opportunity, while conveniently outside of his nomal environment, to experiment, and now that he is back in his country, he's reverted back to his other life.

Don't hold yourself back for someone who isn't sure of himself. Sounds like you deserve way better than that.

 

[Lewis1]

awwwww you just keep getting sweeter and sweeter !!!!!!! Thank you so much , I wanna give you a hug now

aww i wanna give you one 2 buddy

 

[mac_twck]

He was your first love.

Losing your first love hurts like hell.

Let it go and have happy memories that you will replay in your mind for the rest of your life.

Look foward with the knowledge that you were loved and that you will be loved again.

Mac

 

[sheep]

Salaam
Someone said *It is better to have loved and lost than to have loved and won*. I think this is the best way to look at the friendship. You are likely setting yourself up for a big disappointment if you think this will go anywhere anytime soon. He has a slew of pressures on him. Btw Iran has gay life but its not in your face. My advice: if you get a new email addy, send it to him. Your head is screwed on just fine and u dont need a confused 17 y/o screwing it up. (that was one on each cheek)

 

[boy0boy]

hey age isn't always a problem..

i dunno with this whole situation.. it really reminds me of brokeback.... why spend your life yearning for someone who isn't kind enough to return it. You know people say your first love is whatever or whatever...

My first love became my first mistake... because it isn't love if you aren't loved back.