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I need some feedback on this situation

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Hey everyone!
So a few weeks ago I met a really nice guy and we started talking en texting and skyping for many many hours and when I asked him on a date, he immediatly wanted to so we decided to meet later this week at a nice bar.
Anyways the date was really really nice, we talked the entire night, and by the end of the night he toldbme that he doesn't want to talk to me anymore because he's falling in love with me but he has a boyfriend that's studying abroad.. Obviously.. I was falling in love aswell and now I don't know what to do because he says that he likes me and.. has fallen in love with me already but he doesn't want more contact..
I respect him and if that is what he wants, then so be it (unfortunatly)
But I really like.. Actually love this guy and I can't stop thinking about him..

Thanks for reading.. I'd appreciate any feedback :)
 
If he is falling in love with you the connection between him and his boy friend is loosening. I think you should wait a day or two and call and ask how he is doing. Or text. He is probably thinking of you as well. Let him take the lead. If he insists on no contact there is not much you can do.
 
Thank you Benvolio!
I really appreciate your commt and will definatly do what you said :-)
Is it okay if I keep you updated on this situation? (I don't really have anyone else to talk to about this since I'm not out yet..)
 
Welcome to JUB!

Follow Benvolio's great advice. ..|

Keep us posted on this thread.
 
Good luck. I hope he changes his mind, but even if he doesn't you have gotten a taste of what is right for you. More experience either with him or or others will give you the strength you need to face life head on. Best wishes!
 
Did he tell you he had a boyfriend before he accepted the date? If so...do they have an open relaitonship?

It could be awkward falling in love with someone who is in love with someone else...and pursuing it further. The reason...if you "win" his love...chances are you might never really trust him.
 
Whole situation sounds messed up. Why would he go on a date with you, tell you he's "falling in love with you", then drop the bomb that he has a BF somewhere out there and he doesn't want to talk to you anymore? My reaction would have been, "OK, thanks for wasting my time. Good luck to you." You can do whatever you want, but I'd throw this loser back.
 
Thank you all for responding
At the very beginning he mentioned that he HAD a boyfriend, but it didn't work out since his bf was going abroad.. At first I didn't see him as actual.. " boyfriend" material but he gave me signals that he really liked me and he even said things like: I'm so glad that I found you, I didn't know what to do with my friend abroad but you're here and I don't love him anymore blabla..

I haven't texted him so far, should I? And what should I say?
 
He texted me saying that if he didn't had a boyfriend, we could have had something, he also said that he wouldn't mind having my skype account added.. (Which I'm not to sure about)
The thing is, I think I was hoping for too much, maybe because he gave me hope.
Anyways, I'm getting over this and hopefully I'll find someone else soon!
Thanks for the feedback guys, I really appreciate it (I really really do)
 
If you want to get over him, let him know that it would be best not to contact each other. Delete his Skype account & phone number...out of sight, out of mind.
 
This. He sounds like a major flakeazoid. You're better off without him.

HunterM said:
If you want to get over him, let him know that it would be best not to contact each other. Delete his Skype account & phone number...out of sight, out of mind.
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Any discussion that starts with "I like you but..." is never good. And in this case, it's better that you move on.
 
Yeah you should have seen the flaky from the get go.

In my personal experience, guys who "fall in love," at the drop of a hat, usually fall out of love with equal ease.
 
TX-Beau said:
In my personal experience, guys who "fall in love," at the drop of a hat, usually fall out of love with equal ease.
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BINGO! Well said. Yeah...that's my experience as well.
 
I remember a guy we talked online and then on the phone for hours. We went on two dates and then he dropped a bomb that he was still in love with his ex boyfriend. So, I let the guy know I wish him well and told him it is best we not be in contact anymore.

Nobody can tell the OP what to do except the OP but he needs to decide whether it is worth it to get emotionally attached to someone who is already attached to someone else?
 
Well I haven't spoken to him and not planning to.
I'm getting over him and hopefully I'll find someone else later ;-)
Big thanks to all of u!
 
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