I need some reassurance

[chorny45]

First, I'll say that I'm not out to anyone, so it's pretty hard meeting guys. (another post unto itself). I've gotten into the habit of meeting guys off of the internet (craigslist) to fool around with, but i'm pretty paranoid of only playing safe (condoms even for oral; no anal).

This weekend, though, I had a little to drink and I let a guy suck me off with no condom on, though I insisted he wear one when I blew him. We also ended up having sex, with me topping with a condom.

I realize this doesn't hold a candle to some other posts from some of your experiences, but this is all very knew to me, and now I am extremely paranoid of having caught something horrible. It's sort of as if I just opened a can of worms, and now the issues of STDs, HIV, etc. are real instead of being a worry for "those people".........if that makes sense.

Also, the guy insisted he was clean, and that he had only done anal once before. I took him at his word, cause he seemed like such a straight-laced guy; a 19 year old clean-cut military kid.

Anyways, I just hope I didn't fuck up my life.

 

[Blacksheep]

I wouldn't worry. Actually I would go and see my GP and talk to them about it. They can tell you all the risks and what not. Whilst you are there you could consider getting your Hep B shot. Then you can put your mind at rest and hopefully not worry so much.

As far as I'm aware there are things you could catch for the activities you described (not likely but the potential to be possible) such as HPV, herpes, chlamydia, gonorrhea etc. In reality you can get things whilst wearing condoms.

In my opinion it's probably riskier to be picking up strangers off the net than not wearing a condom during oral with the average person (well the average person who doesn't meet random people on the net for sex anyway).

 

[chorny45]

thank you both for replying. There was no frottage (I had to wikipedia that term) and I totally realize that meeting people off of CL is pretty stupid and dangerous. Though I really took this guy for honest when he said he had never met anyone online. Also, he's in the armed services and I know that they do blood tests when you enlist, so he was clean as of last year (because he's only 19).

Anyways, I honestly wouldn't be able to talk to my doctor about anything this personal, but I'm due for a physical in a few months so I guess I can just wait for my next routine blood test, and otherwise just keep my eye out for STD symptoms?

In the meantime, I think I'm done with sex for a while, period.

 

[Blacksheep]

It's strictly confidential talking to your doctor.

The STD thing is a risk but it isn't like you are going to catch something from every person you meet. I'm not going to say you don't have anything, but I will say you are at a fairly minimal risk (from the activity as well as how you describe him). Not to add to your worries but a blood test won't pick up some things (HPV and herpes)

I don't know what's going on in your life but it seems like you haven't or can't come to terms with your sexuality. I really think you need to chat with someone about it all. It doesn't need to be this scary and you seem really conflicted. Hang in there mate it will all be okay.

 

[chorny45]

thanks bud. yeah, i know i have other issues as to my sexuality, as i said in my original post... it could be a post unto itself. I just wanted to concentrate on this issue for now, maybe confront my sexuality when I move out of my parent's house.

Anyways, I see that I'm probably overreacting as to my impending doom. I just never thought I'd be in this situation.....I'm usually safe to the OCD level.

Thanks again for your advice and reassurance. I think I can at least sleep now.

 

[Blacksheep]

Glad you are feeling a bit better. Didn't want to harp on you, it's just that I'm cautious and stress about the possibility of contracting some form of STD, but you seem to be turning it into an Olympic event

 

[KaraBulut]

Since you're new to this- a general guideline for sex: Listen to what your new partner tells you about their sexual history and don't believe any of it. One night standss would never own up to truth: "I'm a big whore and you better bring a rock-climbing rope because you could fall in my ass and never be seen again"? It would never happen. They're just going lie.

You're better off assuming everyone is a ho and following safer sex practices.

You did everything by the book. Good for you. By using condoms for anal and oral, you followed the safer sex guidelines. You have little reason to worry.

Since you're now sexually active, you should get into a schedule of STD testing for as long as you are not in a monogamous relationship.

Hopefully in spite of your anxiety, you enjoyed it? 19 year old clean-cut military kid- sounds like a good time.

If you want to post about your other issues with your sexuality, stop in the Coming Out and Relationships forum for a chat.

 

[vulgar_newcomer]

This weekend, though, I had a little to drink and I let a guy suck me off with no condom on, though I insisted he wear one when I blew him. We also ended up having sex, with me topping with a condom.

IAlso, the guy insisted he was clean, and that he had only done anal once before. I took him at his word, cause he seemed like such a straight-laced guy; a 19 year old clean-cut military kid.

Anyways, I just hope I didn't fuck up my life.

I'm not knocking you but I like the part where you say you let a guy blow you then you also had sex. To me having my cock in another persons mouth or vice-versa is sex. Its extremely intimate, maybe more so then being a bottom. Really care what goes into my mouth, after all I kiss my Mother with my mouth not my ass.

While I have never had oral with a condom, and likely wouldn't unless I was drunk and talked into it because it wouldn't turn me on. However the risk is also maybe of getting Herpes or warts if the partner is active.

I guess you got to go with your gut feeling but you know because someone is a good clean healthy appearing person doesn't mean much when it comes to your health. Contrary to what one thinks regarding dirty sexual diseases most who have them are clean decent people not street punk diry junkies who just raped a nun living in the gutter eating filith out of the dumpster behind the book store.