I need some serious advice

[Qwertykeyboard]

Im an 18 year old guy and only recently accepted that im gay, i recently got in contact with a man who was 50 years old, and regardless of age we both just click and understand eachother and when im with him, time outside of our little bubble just seems to stop, all my troubles are gone when im with him.
Iv known him for like no time but its like i know everything about him
But he was my 'first' and people say that u get attached to your first. I know none of my family will accept it and i know it probably wouldnt work out but i just need some advice. Iv been round to his a few times and cuddled and its just so amazing! He says he thinks the same of me and thats so nice to hear!

Am i taking things way too fast and should i cut it off or just see what happens?

I suffered with depression due to my sexuality and accepting it and being able to be myself around him is awesome

I really need some none judgemental advice :/


Please help

 

[Lifeafter30]

when im with him, time outside of our little bubble just seems to stop, all my troubles are gone when im with him

You just described exactly how I felt when I was popping 5 Vicodin ES tablets a night about 7 years ago. I really do hope that all drugs are legalized at some point. If you people at this forum board had known me back then, you would've known a completely different person. It's nice that you said that you both feel so comfortable around each other. That's what I hope to find in a gay center.

 

[Cormac135]

Im an 18 year old guy and only recently accepted that im gay, i recently got in contact with a man who was 50 years old, and regardless of age we both just click and understand eachother and when im with him, time outside of our little bubble just seems to stop, all my troubles are gone when im with him.
Iv known him for like no time but its like i know everything about him
But he was my 'first' and people say that u get attached to your first. I know none of my family will accept it and i know it probably wouldnt work out but i just need some advice. Iv been round to his a few times and cuddled and its just so amazing! He says he thinks the same of me and thats so nice to hear!

Am i taking things way too fast and should i cut it off or just see what happens?

I suffered with depression due to my sexuality and accepting it and being able to be myself around him is awesome

I really need some none judgemental advice :/


Please help

Just enjoy it for what it is, it may grow it may not, either way have fun,

 

[KaraBulut]

...Am i taking things way too fast and should i cut it off or just see what happens?

You have a realistic view of things- that your relationship satisfies your needs but it is not a relationship that would be accepted by your friends and family.

If this were not your first relationship or you had dated other guys or you had more experience in different types relationships, then it might be easier to determine whether it's a case of "this works for me" or whether "this is just a passing thing".

The issue is that this was the first adult relationship that you have had- it satisfies some things you want (like physical affection and someone you can relax and be yourself with). Most guys date more than a few people before they find the one that they settle down with. What you want and need from a relationship will change as you get older.

If you are happy and the relationship continues to be a good thing in your life, then keep things the way they are. But be realistic- your needs will change, his needs will change and eventually you both will move on to other things.

 

[Seasoned]

The only caution I have for you is trading one source of anxiety for another. If, because of your age difference, you're thinking you'll need to keep your relationship closeted, you've added a new stressor to your life. True, you have a pleasant oasis when you're together, but is that enough? If the two of you can't face the world together openly, I'd suggest you morph what you have into a supportive friendship. If you feel strongly that you're soulmate, the world be damned.

 

[mikey3000]

I say just go slow but enjoy it. Obviously he fills a need you have right now, so let it happen.

 

[sixthson]

Based only one what you have shared here, no one can/should advise you on what you should do. We have no idea of your family/home life growing up, what your relationship with your parents and siblings was like or even if you had anyone else in your life, i.e. a friend, who was supportive and allowing you to be yourself. This man might be your first on many levels--your first cuddling partner, your first friend to be supportive and understanding, or the first gay man you have known personally. Being so young, you could easily mistake that for love. For me, the huge age difference is a red flag, simply because you are just coming to terms with who you are.
If you care to share more, especially about your family and friends, it would help a lot.

In the meantime, relax, you are among friends here.