I need to get laid...

[Laufey]

Just find a random guy online and get it over with.

The first time doesn't have to be special, it's just sex. Don't let people lie to you

 

[sixthson]

It is not just sex to everyone.

I highly doubt the OP is ready for sex and I say that based upon what he has posted here.
He developed an emotional attachment to his roommate. Imagine the attachment he would have
formed if they had had sex, too.
There will always be people who can't handle random hookups because the intimacy of the act
causes them to feel something more than just sexual pleasure.

 

[bi-4u2]

Start dating, just saying you want to get laid will just attract guys that are after sex. Some of these guys wont care if it hurts or what they might be giving you.
You should date and if you find someone you want to be intimate with then just explain and explore each other's bodies. See what you like.

 

[rareboy]

It is not just sex to everyone.

I highly doubt the OP is ready for sex and I say that based upon what he has posted here.
He developed an emotional attachment to his roommate. Imagine the attachment he would have
formed if they had had sex, too.
There will always be people who can't handle random hookups because the intimacy of the act
causes them to feel something more than just sexual pleasure.

I'd have to agree.

Until the OP has come to terms with the neurosis underlying his unrealistic attachments and obsessions, he is not ready to get fucked.

I ask again of the OP. Have you made any effort to get some counselling.

Or is the idea to just start a new sad sack thread each day without really participating in it?

 

[GregKII]

I don't want to sound like an asshole, but you need to speak to someone professionally about your problems. People hear have given you considerable advice throughout your short posting history, and you're still posting the same sad threads. Please see someone.

Finally! Someone who feels the same way I do.

 

[MoufOfKhaos]

Repeating myself, since I sense a pattern.

I'm sorry man, but you keep doing this - you post something, and then people ask, implore, direct you to get help, you answer one or two people, then say you're going to work on it, going to change, going to go for it.

Then the next day, the next hour, you're back to posting the same sad shtick. I've all but given up thinking that maybe - just maybe - you're not an attention-starved whore looking to have all eyes on him, but a guy in need of help dealing with a new world. It would be nice to be wrong about you... but i'm a cynical ass these days, and you're falling into a code binary readers would orgasm over.

 

[wanker90]

Well, what do you guys want me to say. I've already said that I'm working on my issues, but it won't get better overnight. I've tried talking to guys at my university but I'm too awkward to keep a convo going. I'm not looking for attention I'm just glad I found a gay outlet where I can talk about my problems with like-minded people. Maybe I should get a blog and people will comment. I don't mean to bug you all with all my topics I just have a lot to say.

 

[ravenstar]

There's way too much pressure on people having sex before they're ready. Do it when the time is right.

Giving doesn't hurt a bit unless the person you're with isn't overly confident about teeth placement when you're dicks in their mouth. A little teeth action can be awesome, a bite however warrants slapping them over both ears after you've got your dick clear of any further danger.

Receiving depends totally on relaxed you are. First time I took a dick I was drunk as hell because I thought that would help me relax. It didn't. Considering the size of the guy I hadn't thought it would hurt. It did. I just wasn't prepared and frankly he was a shitty lover. He had less idea than I did. Don't just let him slam it in. Trust me, it's not like pulling off a band aid where fast is better. Slow is much better when you're losing your virginity. Take your time, relax and don't do what I did and just give it up to some random in a pub because I thought I had to have sex.

The second time was different. Well it was different in he knew what he was doing. It was still a random from the pub after a bender, but it didn't hurt much beyond the first few thrusts. Opened my eyes to a whole new world of pleasure quite frankly. I haven't had sex since and it was a long time ago now, but I'm much more open - if you'll pardon the pun - to being the receiver than I was previously.

Regardless of pain or not, you need to be ready. Sex can be fun and intense and stupid and messy and it's a situation ripe with opportunities to make a complete dick out of yourself. Just relax and go with the flow wanker. Learn about safe sex and regardless of what you see in porn - when you get around to watching it - play safe and have fun.

 

[AlmondMilk]

Counseling can give better feedback. You're speaking to someone face-to-face. Rather than just reading text, you get verbal and nonverbal confirmation from a live person. And honestly, I'm an awkward person. Sometimes I get indecisive with what to say. I blank out in mid conversation. Figuring these things out on your own is difficult. By going to counseling, I found some relief and comfort, and maybe you will too. It's nice when someone lends an ear.

 

[diamondstar]

Don't rush into nothing OP, but I wish you luck.

 

[Callum]

Well, what do you guys want me to say. I've already said that I'm working on my issues, but it won't get better overnight. I've tried talking to guys at my university but I'm too awkward to keep a convo going. I'm not looking for attention I'm just glad I found a gay outlet where I can talk about my problems with like-minded people. Maybe I should get a blog and people will comment. I don't mean to bug you all with all my topics I just have a lot to say.

It's OK. You're fine. They're just being drama queens as usual, and you're an easy target/excuse. That's all. Some of them have one-track minds. You're not breaking any rules, so don't let them talk you down. Some of us DO enjoy your threads, and I'm one of them.

It's not about 'being drama queens'. It's about taking some good, considerable advice across numerous threads and outright ignoring it, then swinging around again with the same song.

Again, hope the help you seek works. Internet message boards can only do so much for you. Incidentally, they can actually trigger your anxiety issues. Human communication has a huge non-verbal component and you aren't picking up on those cues sitting online all day. Just sayin'.

 

[diamondstar]

Well, what do you guys want me to say. I've already said that I'm working on my issues, but it won't get better overnight. I've tried talking to guys at my university but I'm too awkward to keep a convo going. I'm not looking for attention I'm just glad I found a gay outlet where I can talk about my problems with like-minded people. Maybe I should get a blog and people will comment. I don't mean to bug you all with all my topics I just have a lot to say.

I feel the same way. Sadly most people don't give a shit about what's going on in your life much less your head. I mean not to offend

 

[RaKroma]

Wanker, the more you post, the more I like you. Your topics always make me chuckle in a good way.

 

[refujiunderground]

fuck getting laid, you need to get paid.