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I need to share this with someone. I came out to my parents.

The letter is something to be thankful for. Your father is starting from a position of love and trying to be understanding. He makes sure to emphasize that you will always be loved and respected.

Sure he might be a little misguided in his thoughts about trying straight sex to possibly "cure" you. But what he is saying is at least honest and it is probably coming from a place of ignorance on the subject. This is a great chance for you to explain to him through your words and actions that being gay is not a bad thing. You are happy as you are. When your fathers learns that the fears he had through ignorance are unfounded, then he can grow too!

Be thankful, and do what you can to reward him for trying his hardest to make you feel loved and supported in being yourself.
 
I thought your dad's letter was sweet in its own way. Of course, I don't accept everything he said - I do not believe for one moment that being gay has to be less fulfilling
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I'm amused that everyone who responded here has something along these lines to say about DavidNY's dad's response. I think if straight people actually understood the physical, social, and emotional aspects of being gay, there would be a hell of a lot less discrimination towards us, no? It would be ideal if people didn't believe it was a choice, or anything less than basic human physiology; but at this stage I'm willing to just take unconditional love. It's no different than religion. I don't agree with a lot of people's views on God and religion but it doesn't stop me from loving them, even if they think I'm going to hell...
 
jab182 said:
oh man. I never heard this before, but I am the third born, and I am gay!
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Im the 6th born...Im gay, I havent told my parents, another family member is gay, do you think they'll be shocked? i wonder if they know of this "STUDY"
 
Have you ever had sexual intercourse with a woman? You must try it if you haven't. I think the real test to find out whether you are gay or just being gay is to have a few sexual encounters with some women who are nice to you. Not whores who'll rob you of your money and love, but someone who can give you love. Today, that shouldn't be too difficult! Try it and let me know. I think the real litmus test to determine whether you really are a lifetime gay person or not is to try being straight sexually and see if it repels you. That's the test - does it repel you? If it doesn't, then think again before you brand yourself gay.
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Dear Dad,

Have you ever had sexual intercourse with a man? You must try it if you haven't. I think the real test to find out whether you are straight or just being straight is to have a few sexual encounters with some hot guys who are nice to you. Not man-whores who'll rob you of your money and love, but someone who can give you love. Today, that shouldn't be too difficult! Try it and let me know. I think the real litmus test to determine whether you really are a lifetime straight person or not is to try being homosexual sexually and see if it repels you. That's the test - does it repel you? If it doesn't, then think again before you brand yourself straight.

Oh and by the way, I don't love you and mum any less because you're breeders. How else would we get homos, anyway?

Oh, and stop calling me Tutu. It is so gay.

Love and kitchies back at ya,

David
 
Hey guys,

As much as the third born thing is interesting (very actually - maybe its worth a thread in hot topics), please keep this thread on topic... this is a pretty special area on JUB and your responses to David are equally important!

Thanks fellas!

Oh... and David... Congrats with your mums response mate! Awesome! Now, when you get home dont go into your shell... get em talking and set your Dads mind at rest!
 
David, I'm happy for your that your mother's response was so positive. I hope you have a good home visit.

Rareboy, sometimes you crack me up so hard.
 
We have all been given a most ungrateful task to (re-)educate our own parents, and receive little or no award ourselves for all that good effort.

All was good with your folks' responses to your coming out. I would not get upset here at all.

However, you want to slowly help them understand that being gay is nothing inferior to being straight, by any stretch of imagination.

With almost half of the marriages ending in divorce in some European countries, with children spending every other weekend with their dads, and quite a few of those dads practically at the brink of bankruptcy due to all kinds of alimonies and expenses they have to cover; with loneliness, isolation and lesser chances to start your life anew (you have got kids, rite???), many heterosexual men actually live a far less fulfilling and comfortable life than my BF and I do.

Your folks sound like great folks. Give them the chance to adopt your point of view or at least, grow up to the point of being able to consider it with open minds.

For my part, and I like exit strategies above all and everything, I'd keep on saving my pocket money, just in case. You can always burn it later on...

Ever so often, even the nicest people, prone to using nicest and softest words turn into bullies of the worst kind, if the game is not ending the way they want it.

I am pretty sure that this is NOT the case with your loving and understanding parents. However, strategic reserves are a must these days, notwithstanding.

SC
 
You have some really awesome parents who love you. As others have said, they will need some time to adjust to the news but I think they have accepted you. You should be prepared to have them asking you a lots of questions, some will be silly, but it will help them with becoming more comfortable and understanding. You are very luck to have such great parents.


BTW, your Mom's email was great. Make sure you hug her extra when you get home from school
 
Congrats on having such awesome parents. I think it worth saying that if your Mother is religious then she is a very good religious person and should be an example to the homophobic people who call themselves religious.
 
When I told my mom she had a similar response, only in a lot fewer words. She just asked me "Are you sure?" I think she needed time to accept it just as much as I did before I came out. Hopefully it is the same with your dad, he just needs a little time to accept it.

You should try and educate your dad first, explain to him how sexual attraction is not a choice and you cannot choose to enjoy sex with a woman. You might even want to consider Rareboy's approach, suggest that your dad try being a fag for a little while to make sure that he isn't one.
 
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