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Hey JUB.

First and foremost, I am still in the closet but i have a twin who is out. We share a lot of stuff from clothes, boxers, etc. He has a boyfriend who lives with us and today i found out that he's using my boxers. I obviously feel very uncomfortable sharing underwear with men other then my brother and when i confronted my brother about it, he got angry. I feel like it was my fault for confronting him about it. Dont you guys think it would be a bit wierd to be sharing underwear with your boyfriends brother?
 
I think sharing underwear with anyone is a bit weird. Buy your own, keep them in your own closet or dresser, and make it clear to your brother and his bf to keep their hands off.
 
Just stop wearing underwear. Problem solved.
 
Don't triangulate. Tell the boyfriend that apparently your boundaries are different than his and you do not share underwear. Twin or no twin, the only person I'd share underwear with is my partner. See? Different boundaries.

Don't go through your brother to relate to his boyfriend. It comes across as whining. Part of being a roommate is learning to live in some kind of harmony. That's the reason most of us give up that arrangement as soon as we are able. I wouldn't fight with the guy. I'd try to be pleasant and friendly while being assertive, meaning, not passive or aggressive.
 
Assuming the underwear is clean, I don't see the problem. But if you don't want to share, you don't have to.

If you don't mind my asking, is there a reason why you're still in the closet?
 
I think that your reaction is totally understandable,i dont mind giving a m8 a pair of clean socks if he has stayed overnight but underwear is i think a different matter. I dont think that i would share them even with my twin.
Though 1 of the other posters said it bang on ,dont go through your twin just
have a nice quite word with his boyfriend explaining that you do not feal comfortable with anyone else wearing your underwear ,you can even try saying that it is one of your little quirks and try and laugh it off if you think that it may cause problems but for what it is worth i totally agree with you. ..|
 
it's clothing, it's washable, it's not a sex toy. It's false squeamishness or modesty.
 
If someone started wearing my underwear, I would find their toothbrush and do horrible things with it. Period.

I think you're justified in your feelings, but remember that nothing happens without action. You've tried once, one way, it's time try another approach.
 
I think you are 100% right. Whatever you decide to do to end this situation I'll find it reasonable.
 
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