I really don't know who to talk to...

[gsdx]

I can't think of a single thing I could say to make it better. It will take time for that to happen.

Just don't spend the next two and a half years lost in the past two and a half years.

As Judge Judy is apt to say at moments such as this, "Put a period and move on."

 

[looseliam]

Gam zeh ya'avor.

This, too, shall pass.

 

[Telstra]

No one can "complete" anyone.
If you have a partner that is good but you have to complete yourself.

 

[Bradlee]

2.5 years,some of us have not one day,be grateful it happened at all.
Yeah,it sucks,but it will pass.Get out and do something new for yourself.

 

[gmoney]

He's saying things harsh on purpose to make it sound more finite. Yes, the relationship might be over, but you didn't waste 2.5 years. Learn from this and move on.

I've read your posts over time. You seem like a great guy. Someone else will see that too, when you are ready.

 

[DonQuixote]

Hey, Puff,
I think you've probably seen most of my mid-life crisis post in another thread we've both recently been to.

It can suck big time. It can hurt like hell. You want to crawl into a cave and hide, forever.

I had OCD complications for close to 10 years. But, I never gave up on myself.

Be brave. DON'T crawl into that cave. Force yourself into the world and interacting with other people. Find people you can talk to, share your pain with. Professional counsellors or non-Professional. Post here as you have, or PM people you've connected with in the past, or who sound like they might listen and be able to counsel/console you. FIGHT, FIGHT, and FIGHT some More.

I know, some people, maybe you included, poo-pooed my pep talk in the other thread. It's because I've been there, I've felt the bottom of the black pit of despair. I don't want anyone to even remotely contemplate a less salient option to fighting back.

Check out Neil (GSDX)'s Best Friends Play Hard and the "Redux" version - take a look at my posts against Neil's.

I'm passionate about life, even with all its potential downs. It also has potential ups. It's up to us to find the opportunities.

I've had similar PM's with some members on here, who shall remain nameless. Come, join us again.

There has to be a lot of places to go/do things in the Tampa area - it's a vacation haven - unlike my upstate community. Search your soul for what kind of activities you'd like to explore to find new friends and more.

 

[Seasoned]

Sorry this has happened to you. I want to be blunt, but not mean, so please understand that is not my intention. So you and your brother are both isolated and gay with a native culture that takes a hard line? Something has to give, otherwise you will be dependent on any partner for too much. You need to find more outlets. You deserve therapy if it is something that can help you. At some point you'll have to consider coming out to more people.

 

[gmoney]

Guys, give Puff a break! He's a great guy. Yes, he needs time to deal with losing a partner of 2.5 years, but he's here putting himself out there, and asking questions.

Just skim thru the posts, Puff and take time for yourself! I know the hurt of losing someone. It's tuff, but you will be a better man for the next one that is worthy of your love.

 

[Yooper]

I truly wish I could say something profound.

All I can say is:

 

[BRIOHAZARD]

There's nothing much more I can say that hasn't already been said.


So... I'll give you a hug instead.


*HUGS*






Oh, and a kiss.

*MUAH*

 

[hungrybrownbear]

Haha, my eyes are so red right now I look like a vampire

Crying a shitload helped.

vampires can be totally hotties ya know!

 

[rareboy]

The old guy is going to likely die long before you do.

 

[hungrybrownbear]

^you never know......

 

[operafan]

The 2.5 years gave you lots of things -- love, companionship, sex, some kind of security, etc. It may not seem like it now, but you will have gained a great deal from that relationship.

Let yourself grieve. There is a lot of pain there. After you have given yourself some time - not forever! - you will have to put yourself out there to find a new love.

 

[VICTORIADON]

I don't know your taste in music Puff, but, here, this is for you...

[ame]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Faf1ch7Q9XE[/ame]

All the best

Don

 

[DaddyBadger]

I'm sorry to read about the pain of your breaking heart. I cannot add much to the advice already given, except to remind you of a couple of things that may help it to mend:

Men are alot like busses; if you miss one, there'll be another one before very long.

It's ok to look back at the past, but don't stare.

Oh, and it may sound trite, but it's absolutely true; this is his loss .

 

[Triple G]

Do not feel worthless. That old partner is the worthless one as he has now demonstrated. You will get through this and be stronger for it.

For now all I have to offer is lots of

 

[MMMonsterBoy]

Don't feel worthless, I am sure you have a purpose outside of him. Time heals everything. Sorry this had to happen, feel better

 

[DonQuixote]

I'm glad you had some time with your brother.
I hope you do force yourself to get out a little more, do more activities -
something you like to do but haven't done for awhile, OR something
brand new and a bit challenging - or, how about volunteering somewhere?

Just something to help you focus on a fun/friendly activity for a couple hours here or there -- and maybe meet some people at the same time.

Take Care of yourself.

 

[G-Lexington]

It'll hurt for awhile. Let it. That's how you get it all out. And once you feel a bit better, you can work on going out and getting yourself some friends.

Lex