I really hate being gay. Why? Because...

[Oden_grey]

Don't worry... no matter how much being gay sucks... you'll get accustomed to it... much like a scolding bath.

 

[Lostlover]

I am discriminated in every possible way;
Gay relationship is nothing but one night stands;
I haven´t found a loyal gay couple, although they never admit it;
Gay friends are just your friends when they can take advantage of it...
I am really sick and tired of all this.
I can see now why many gay people stay in the closet for their whole lives. I really don´t blame them because being gay sucks.
Sorry, but that is how I feel.

I unfortunately agree with you wholeheartedly. Our love for men isn't accepted and is only another source of discrimmination.

That's why I personally feel gays should feel some solidarity with racial minorities in this matter.

That's why it's mind-boggling when I read racist threads by gay/bisexual posters.

What you wrote about your experiences with gay people, I have personally witnessed. That's why I prefer straight friends, ones that aren't homophobes but seem to have a stable lifestyle versus the gay stereotype that you and I see in our lives.

 

[spearsfan20]

we are all here for you to support and listen to your thoughts. remember that part! but i really believe that you should never be ashamed of who you are. people who say that it sucks to be gay is totally wanting to feel miserable throughout their lifetime. when you learned that you was gay and you came clean to yourself without any deniable thoughts you felt the confidence to feel proud of who you are as a gay man. me and a lot of other gay men in this world are never going to experience a lot of sugar and spice in our lives. coming out to your friends and family is a huge stepping stone that takes time and strength. later on you will feel so much happier that you made the decision to do it. afterall, you start another chapter in your life when you can finally be yourself.

you must have had some vindictive friends in your life if you say that gay men will be your friends only if they can take advantage of you. i, too, have a few gay friends and they had never done anything to me. you're going to have to realize that there are stereotypical gay men out there that are diva-acting bitches. i hung out with a couple when i was in high school and one in college last year. they all wanted my cock and i wasn't going to let it happen. they were no good and i learned my lesson. but guess what, i had to change my surroundings and start over to find better friends who qualify.

i have a question for you. do you have any female friends at all? if not, try making a couple. girls are really great with gay guys and they can always hook you up with a guy who is single and looking and down-to-earth. i'm not saying for you to depend on your friends so much to hookup with their gay friends. you always need to have an outgoing personality to see some change in your life.

you will see a lot of change if you quit ranting on negative ideas or thoughts.

 

[Soilwork]

I really hate being gay cause I don't like being associtated with whiners.

now now, Duroc, you weren't much diffferent a few short months ago.

But that being said, I was just as hard on you as you were on him and it worked.

So, YOU GO GIRL.





Now hunky... stop whining. Life isn't easy for anyone, and if all you have is flakey gay friends, you need to hang with better people.

My gay friends have been with me through every hard part of my life, my gay friends have reached out to me when they needed help and I reached back.

I've been in TWO long-term committed relationships that have been extremely strong and wonderful. One has been for a bit over a year. One was for 13 years. A lot longer than a one night stand.

Where I live, being gay is about as out of the ordinary as being blonde. And about as ridiculed, too.

However, I've seen a lot of gay and bi people who feel so hard-done-by do a lot of complaining about how all gay people should have some big Kum-Ba-Ya festival, when they themselves seem to be the worst offenders when it comes to attacking other people.

Being gay is a big part of my life, but it's not what my life is about. Being a whiner isn't just for gays, you know.

 

[jockboy01]

where I am from, being gay is not socially accepted really, and I know none of my guy friends support it, so if they ever knew I would seriously question our friendships after that. It really sucks being gay, is it weird to feel this way, because I really am having difficult times being gay.

Unfortunately, it's not socially accepted in a lot of places. It is in a few. But my only hope for you is that if you do decide to come out that your friends might rethink what being gay means and you'll actually change their attitudes.

I recently heard or read a quote about how it wasn't the quiet and mild blacks who gained equal rights from society, but rather those that spoke out and were visible like MLK. Interesting thought really and quite true.

 

[soccerstud18]

I havn't posted on this thing for a long time, and I have been having troubling thoughts lately, really ever since i started college. I know I have some people I can truely talk about what is on my mind, thanks guys. i appreciate the support

 

[Un_Golfo]

Life is not fair when you are ggay, but it can be unfair also if you are foreigner, too short, fat, deaf or any difference... Just accept the reality and try to get the most of your life. And be careful who you choose to do the travel of your whole life, because good friends are what makes the difference!

Make the difference enrich you and your friends, and they will change their attitudes. And be happy, man!

 

[megustamyn]

It’s often helpful to look for friends in situations that are not about dating or sex. For example, many colleges and high schools have gay student organizations that you can participate in if you are a student. In many cities there are gay groups organized around interests such as sports, literature, politics, religion, profession etc. You meet people in a task-oriented environment and develop friendships based on common interests rather than physical attraction.

Being an older man, I’ve met a lot of good and bad people. Sexuality is not a determining factor for this.

I’ve been in a relationship for many years so most of our friends are long-term couples, primarily gay and lesbian. One male couple in my church has been together 39 years.

It is true that there is discrimination against gay people in many segments of society but things get better all the time. As a young man I never dreamed that marriage for same-sex couples would be the subject of public debate. Now, I believe that it will be reality in most of the Western world within my lifetime. I am also a biracial Latino living in an Anglo white dominant culture and have been discriminated against because of my culture and race. The problem is not that I am a biracial Latino; it is that there are many ignorant and bigoted people in the world.

One important lesson that I’ve learned over the years is to never be apologetic about being gay (or anything else). My partner and I are gay activists and appear on the local news frequently. We also get involved in many justice issues outside the gay community and we are respected in the larger community.

 

[DaddyBearLust]

I wish I was totally str8 myself. I'm glad I'm not the only one who feels this way.