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The last few days, I have been in a very complicated situation. I call it a complicated love triangle. On one corner, there's my friend in Maine that I'm trying to save up and go see as I'm dying to see him. Then on another corner, there's a guy who I went out with and actually had a good time and that I'm dying to see again. And on the last corner, there's me, trying to choose who I want to be with more. My friend in Maine says he's looking forward to my arrival, which won't be til either March or April. The one I went out with recently, well I can tell he wants to keep seeing me, as he keeps giving me some sweet comments. I really need help with this, as I have been trying to avoid all this.
 
Have you made a commitment to be exclusive with either guy?
 
Not sure I understand. Are you planning on moving to Maine?

A long distance relationship where you only see each other every 6 months isn't much of a relationship. The border is open both ways. Can he come see you?

Sounds like Maine guy isn't that serious yet, and you have 6 months to figure out what's going on with new guy.
 
Let me add a little something to my story...

My friend in Maine seems to be everything I wanted in a guy (long-haired, similar interests, doesn't just want sex), plus I've wanted to get away from here for so long. Yet, I've always said there's no one around here good enough for me, and this other guy comes along and he's funny and sweet. I just don't know who I want to try it with.
 
You should probably disconnect the idea of moving to Maine and this guy in Maine. That's a recipe for disaster.

Assuming that you haven't made any commitments to either guy, make the trip to Maine. Meet this guy and see if there's something there. Until you have that answer, there's really not any decisions that you can make regarding either guy.

But keep in mind those sayings about "The grass is always greener..." and "A bird in the hand, is worth two in the bush"... or maybe a bird in Sydney is worth two in Maine..?
 
Funny thing about love...it shows up when you least expect it. And you'll know it when it happens.
 
Sorry fella but i think this is one of those situations where the decision is going to
have to be all yours . Because either way i think that if it does not work out you can always say to yourself (i knew i should never have let a bunch of strangers tell me what to do) There was a lot of good advice given on the previous posts but that is what it was advice not instructions.
Having said all that i really wish you well as it looks like you will have to make some major life changing decisions in the not to distant future, good luck m8
 
Long distance relationships do not work (unless someone closes the gap) but deciding to move there before you've even met is just foolish. I could be anyone's soul mate online.
 
The Maine thing sounds like a bizarre pipe dream. Sydney is a huge metropolis, and you can meet any type of guy you want. If you aren't finding them, maybe you're just looking in the wrong places. Maybe look at a social club instead of a dance club or in person instead of online. You're only asking for trouble moving to Maine. What if it doesn't work out? Then you're stuck in a foreign country with no friends and not enough money. You might not be able to work legally yet. You have no idea how much trouble you could get into.

EDIT: I reread, and noticed it's Sydney, NS, which invalidates the huge metropolis part, but if your qualifications are "long-haired", looking for more than sex, and with similar interests, I think those are pretty easygoing standards (well maybe the long-haired is a bit superficial - you can just ask a guy to grow his hair out) and you can find that anywhere.
 
you can't move out to live with a guy you haven't even meet in person. Weight your options mate, see which one is more worth it.
 
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you can't move out to live with a guy you haven't even meet in person. Weight your options mate, see which one is more worth it.
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I believe that would be the whole point of the trip... to spend some time with him and see what he's like.
 
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