I screwed up

[JackFTwist]

Listen,I know I fucked up. I DONT deserve any sympathy, trust me, after all the shit I did.... (did i mention, I killed my ex's dog? [yeah, on purpose])
ALL I WANT TO KNOW IS: if someone else fucked up this much, if they were ever able to get back with the one great guy they lost?

whatever else, that was so far over the line of decency - no, he will not take you back. I'd check on some school counseling services to get your head together a bit while you are in school.

 

[StlKj]

This thread should be required reading for all guys on JUB who think the selfish abuser they love is going to change some day because he really loves them deep down.

 

[theFallenGod]

My question is if you know all of this and if you know that you made a huge mistake that cost you something dear to you...

Why aren't you willing to make these changes?

Why are you being so stubborn and pathetic?

Staying in this line of thinking you will never ever find anyone worth finding.... You may end up being killed somewhere along the road.

 

[rareboy]

ALL I WANT TO KNOW IS: if someone else fucked up this much, if they were ever able to get back with the one great guy they lost?

No. If I were you, I'd move to another city.

 

[Ohiospeedo]

Two pieces of advice which I sincerly hope you follow

1. Get tested for STDs - If you haven't already, then that is just plain dumb.

2. Seek professional help - Stalking, killing the ex's dog, having sex with numerous strangers, etc. All of these things are not healthy and you need to realize that you are on a self destructive path.

 

[TygreBryte]

You "don't plan on working"? Somehow, this makes me feel the most judgmental of all.h

Pull your own weight.

 

[rareboy]

Actually, I want to change my advice....if I were you, I'd turn myself into the police and ask for restraints and emergency psychiatric intervention.

 

[NCSU4EVER]

^Agreed. You need help.

Like it or not, you've got SERIOUS issues. You keep saying "Yeah, I've got issues", but I don't think you TRULY know.

When I first read your post I was feeling empathetic (with cheaters, with individuals who lie, etc). Now, I've come back to reality and realized that you're all the same. Just like I'd thought before.

Best of luck with your miserable, and largely hopeless, existence.

Good for your ex for getting away while he could.

Mike

 

[trawler69]

If my memory serves me correctly several months ago a really nice guy was on here describing someone exactly like you and how he had done his best and something about dog killing as well and how sad he was that he couldn't help this apparently psychopathic ex of his. This ex may not be you but it certainly sounds like it. The best thing this guy ever did for himself was to get away from his ex. I'm sorry but you have serious problems and I hate to say this but you are one of the few who really do need professional help and in fact I doubt if even they can change your dangerous behaviour. Your post and your reactions are quite frankly scary.

 

[CoolcuteFranzarg]

I called his work today a few times, finally he agreed to talk to me. He said that we should both move on with our seperate lives. He told me that he could only help me so much, but was tired of being around me. I told him I might be positive (i slept with that guy After the realtionship ended), but he just said he couldnt tell if i was lying because I lied so much to him. I asked if he would take care of me if i was, and he said that he didnt think it would work out. I think he is being a hypocrite. A few times during the week, he volunteers in that program that brings food to HIV and Aids people. He can do that for them, but not for me? Thats really rude. He told me he doesnt want to talk anymore, also that he had to get back to work. (I forgot to mention that I was the reason he got fired from his last job because I kept coming into the store and trying to talk to him.)I guess his "work" in the office is just too important to talk to me. He said he told the receptionist to not take any calls from me. He is acting really lame about this.

 

[StlKj]

I called his work today a few times, finally he agreed to talk to me. He said that we should both move on with our seperate lives. He told me that he could only help me so much, but was tired of being around me. I told him I might be positive (i slept with that guy After the realtionship ended), but he just said he couldnt tell if i was lying because I lied so much to him. I asked if he would take care of me if i was, and he said that he didnt think it would work out. I think he is being a hypocrite. A few times during the week, he volunteers in that program that brings food to HIV and Aids people. He can do that for them, but not for me? Thats really rude. He told me he doesnt want to talk anymore, also that he had to get back to work. (I forgot to mention that I was the reason he got fired from his last job because I kept coming into the store and trying to talk to him.)I guess his "work" in the office is just too important to talk to me. He said he told the receptionist to not take any calls from me. He is acting really lame about this.

Okay, either you are a liar and just pulling our chains, or you are severely mentally ill. Your behavior, if true, is so extreme that it puts you into potentially psychopathic territory. Your boyfriend can not help you anymore, because he's a psych student; you need a psychiatrist, and possibly a stay in a facility equipped to deal with you.

I urge you to get help, either for your mental illness or your pathological lying, whichever we are experiencing here. You are going to seriously damage either yourself or someone else some day if you don't get help.

 

[xterranx]

Okay, either you are a liar and just pulling our chains, or you are severely mentally ill. Your behavior, if true, is so extreme that it puts you into potentially psychopathic territory. Your boyfriend can not help you anymore, because he's a psych student; you need a psychiatrist, and possibly a stay in a facility equipped to deal with you.

I urge you to get help, either for your mental illness or your pathological lying, whichever we are experiencing here. You are going to seriously damage either yourself or someone else some day if you don't get help.

Don't give him the gratification of a response. Let this thread die.

 

[G-Lexington]

Don't worry about it. He'll come around. They always do, don't they?

Lex

 

[thewiz]

Don't give him the gratification of a response. Let this thread die.

I would have to agree with this advice. I can only hope that people read this thread and realize the predators that exist in the world and steer far clear of them. If this guy is for real, I commend his ex for having the intelligence to know what he doesn't want and I wouldn't offer any help either.

I first was sad for him; now I am totally disgusted.

 

[CoolcuteFranzarg]

Ok, thanks for all the help. Now I'm having a problem with dlist.com, I cant seem to log in or do much of anything. Is anyone else having a problem with this site or is it just a glitch for today. I'm kinda panicked now because Dlist is like the main site I use to have friends and find guys, so I really need to log on. Thanks.

 

[TygreBryte]

Wow, I just want to say, that when I said that the "not working" thing was the thing I felt most judgmental about, I had missed the part about killing the ex-boyfriend's dog.

That is now the thing I feel the most judgmental about.

 

[josher]

^^OR he's a psycho on the loose. Scary.