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I should have seen it all coming

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Some people confuse sex with love...
 
I'm sorry he has put you in this situation and you certainly deserve better. I just hope that people will start realising that feelings are not meant to played with. You have done all you can so don't look back. Be strong, and I know you will overcome it! Sometimes I wonder if my ex was the same as the guy you were talking about.....it's not a pleasant feeling to be left out in the dark, but I've found that with tears, I have been able to slowly but surely let go of the hurt!
 
Drop this guy, forget about him. You don't need the drama in your life.
 
OMG!!!!

You're scenario parallels my first *bf* in a lot of ways!

Your guy is not over his ex.

AND

Your guy is not willing to be the *bad guy* in your current relationship; and say, definitively, that it's over between the two of you. As he keeps you in the dark, is evasive and strings you along as he attempts to find out if his relationship with his ex is salvageable.

Meanwhile, when you make strides to distance yourself from him; he becomes more desirous of you?! And shows the passion and affection you long for, because he senses he might be losing you too.

:eek:

I've learnt from my experience that it's not good for your heart.

Be very weary of someone that is scared to lose you; rather than desirous to keep you.

Love, imo, shouldn't be motivated out of fear of losing something. It should be motivated by intense desire of wanting something special in your life.

Moreover, you have to ask yourself these simple questions:

Do I deserve respect? Do I deserve happiness? Do I deserve mutual affection? Do I deserve someone with integrity?

If you answer these, then you realize what you are NOT getting from this relationship.

And then you'll have to begin the process of simply coming to terms that this relationship is too challenging--if not improbable--to be sustainable.

That is of course if you don't like drama in your life.

Some people do :p
 
Ask him what's going on; his texts don't match. He seems to be pretending the text wasn't sent...

Get him to fill in the blanks before making any decisions.
 
Then tell him to break the habit. If he wants to be with you, then he cannot chase after someone else. I accept that he's confused, but if he has you, and is supposedly enamoured with the idea of living with you, then he should be able to sort it out, and if he doesn't... well then, it won't work.
 
Well, I hope things go well for you. I guess if it were me (and obviously it isn't) I would have to talk out all the issues here. I don't like letting things simmer in the background of a relationship. I guess for me I need to know where I stand and what is involved. I am sort of like a girl that way I guess. I think it is healthy to talk about things. Having said that, I feel that a very important part of relationship for me and probably other guys is physical.

What I mean is that if I don't have the physical part then I don't feel loved, but the sex isn't the only thing I want, sort of schizo, I guess. I hope all goes well for you, but I would suggest you talk things out with him, afterglow is a great time to share intimacy and feelings.

BTW I downloaded the It's time album, I love it. Elvin suggested it to me. Good luck!
 
Drop him. He has problems and is only dragging you with him... Don't let him do it. Let him handle it himself.
 
Honey, dont you see whats going around here? He's on a rebound from his ex. He wants to have sex with someone and he's found you. For fun,etc he fnds others but for sex he's got you.

I would say pull up your pants and run like crazy. Show him indiffernce. When he asks you to come to the bar, say no. If you feel like going go. but dont do it coz he asked you to.

Yu are a smart person dont fall into this guy's trap.
 
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