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I should've made a move

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You two need to spend more time together. I have no doubts that he was looking for some sort of sign from you.

You don't need to go in for a full-on kiss. A light peck on the lips is all one needs. Well, not peck, long enough to let him know, if you catch my drift.

Or, next time you're watching a movie, casually snuggle up to him like it's no big deal. Snuggling is fun. =]

Hun, don't let this go! We've all missed opportunities and regretted it.

Thanks for keeping us up to date. Please continue to do so.

Good luck!
 
my advice is to find a guy who doesn't play games.

you'll be much happier, and get laid more.
 
Next time while watching a movie with him, lay down on his shoulder.
 
You have received some great suggestions and I do not think I would add anything else - except to say that you would continue to torture yourself if you never found out what could have been. I like the idea of leaning on his shoulder during the movie. I have done that with success. Good luck! :)
 
I'd just say, next time you two are at the door, just look into his eyes and slowly get closer to his face. His response will tell you the answer... either he'll look back into your eyes or he'll open the door. If it's the former... I'd say touch foreheads and then slowly kiss him. And then come back here and tell us about it haha.

Relax, you're young. If this chance doesn't work out, there will be others.
 
Soilwork said:
my advice is to find a guy who doesn't play games.

you'll be much happier, and get laid more.
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He himself seems to be playing games.
You have to know what you're about and go for it. You won't get much satisfaction in the closet.
 
One of you two is going to have to make a move, else you both are going to be miserable with this useless circle of movements where you both end up hurt in the end.

Just say the words "I like you"

On another note (I know it was a rant) please write in paragraphs :grrr:

(*8*)

So are you feeling better after writting that?
 
Good luck. No problem about the paragraphs ;)

So do you think you can do it? Or do you have a feeling once you look into his eyes you are going to loose all your confidence? (How cute is he by the way?)

If you need a confidence booster or a way to vent we are here.
 
I'd start by coming out to the girl who's your best friend. If you can't tell her, who can you tell? Then at least you'll have a friend to help you figure out what to do about this boy (or other future ones).
 
Well, I'm just going to chime in real quick and say from that last story, he kind of sounds like a jerk and isn't worth your time. But if you still like him, nothing's going to change that. And I guess it all work out in some way or other. But he does not sound like a quality person at all.

Things NEVER happen the way I planned. Everything is so unexpected and Im never ready for it.
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Dude, welcome to this thing called life. I've gotten to where I just don't plan b/c it never works out the way you think it should. And just floating is a lot easier.
 
A jerk he may be, but if he is harbouring the same feelings and being in the closet, it can lead to mood swings.

Invite him over for another movie. Turn the heat down so you two will have to get snuggly under the sheets.

Move in for the kill. =]

As much as it may seem easy to move away, it is an extreme measure. If things go south, I think you'll find you'll be a stronger person in the long run if you stay and battle it out.
 
This situation is so similar to what I have with my best friend. He knew I was bi for a while, but I ended up telling him finally how I felt about him. He gave me a vague answer, something about how he loves his ex-gf... but also how he couldn't stand to lose me as a friend. However, he still is giving me really mixed signals. I wanted to make a move on him so many times... but maybe now that he has closure on his ex, and knows I like him, he'll maybe act on it. He never said anything about not liking me, interestingly enough. I wonder if I would ever be able to ask him if he does...

So yeah, this guy is either into you, really likes you on the friend level, or is messing around with you. I would start by telling him you're gay, and then at a later time if he's cool with your orientation, tell him you like him more than a friend. Just be prepared for his reactions (which could range from him disowning you as his friend to his accepting you as more than a friend).

I'm still waiting around for my friend to give me some more evidence in one way or another... and I've told him everything...
 
Wow -- pretty intense stuff, dude.

I like the leaning on the shoulder idea. Another is, if you can get behind him without it seeming artificial, start a shoulder massage -- then follow any signals he gives! That's a good set-up for more contact once you're huddled/snuggled together watching a movie.

Good luck!
 

This sounds sooooo much like the beginning of another "Undying love for my best friend" thread ... so desertguy: PLEASE tell me you are going to follow through! I agree with jockboy in that he does not sound like he's worth it, but you need to resolve for yourself where he stands in your life and preserve your sanity in the process! ](*,)
 
It seems like a lot of people here have the same problem. I know i do. But now my friend lives like 400 miles away from me, and we only talk through AIM, so i dont think anything will ever actually happen. He's most likely straight anyways :-(. This comic totally embodies what it feels like though:

http://xkcd.com/c65.html
 
That's a darned powerful story there. People are always saying that friends will understand, and to be honest... but that isn't always the case, any more than families will always be supportive.
But the important part is that you be true to yourself. That was the key in darkskin's experience, the reason why he has no regrets. It may not eliminate any pain, but what it will do is shut off the agonizing, "Did I do the right thing?" questions that can tear you apart. So whatever course you take, be sure it's what you want to do, and move on without regrets.
 
Really emotional stuff here. Desert guy I wish you all the luck in the world. Drkskin, I am very glad you are able to be honest and forthright with your feelings. I like to be that way too. It is hard though because sometimes you push people away, not IMO because you come on too strong but becasue they don't know how to respond or they are uncomfortable with feelings. It still hurts though. Thank you both for sharing.
 
Shoulda, woulda, coulda, missed opputunities are a bitch.
 
Thinking of your getting close, and people looking at you.... there's a dude named Richard Feynman, won a Nobel Prize for some really important work in quantum physics, and also something of a philosopher. Every year he gives a lecture to a beginning physics class in which he asks, "So what do you care what other people think?" He says if he'd cared what other people think, he never would have gotten his Nobel.

Think about it.
 
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