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I think he's curious but not sure

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Basically, I'm interested in someone, we've become quite good friends. We drink together and have fun, and everytime we do, he insists that I fancy him and the other night, he invited me into bed with him because I was too drunk to get to my room. We slept each end of the bed.

Two nights or so later, he was drunk, I wasn't even drinking, and again, even though I could have made it back to my room, he asked me to sleep with him again. I turned him down and told him I could get to my room, but he kept asking me to sleep in his bed with him (but I didn't)

He's always asking me questions about being gay, we've had drunken conversations where I've said I would have sex with him if I could and it hasn't made him any less comfortable around him. We hug eachother all the time, when we slept in the same bed, he was only in his boxers and was comfortable with our bodies touching quite closely...

I'm pretty sure he's waiting for me to make a move, but I'm terrible at this. I'm pretty sure if I asked I could sleep in his bed again... But where do I go from there?

Thanks for the help :)
 
What? Are you waiting for an engraved invitation? :)

The question for you is what do you want? A one night stand? A fuckbuddy? A boyfriend?

And are you going to get what you want from this guy?

If you think that you can do the deed with this guy and still be friends, then accept his invitation to sleep over.

Anything else.... well, maybe it's time the two of you had an honest talk and came out. And then you can both decide where you go from there.
 
He sounds pretty curious to me. If you have told him you would have sex with him, and he invites you to sleep in his bed, that generally indicates something.

If you think you can fool around without expecting it to mean anything to him then I think you should just ask him playfully if he's trying to lead you on, or tell him not to start what he can't finish ;-)
 
Does he embrace his inner homosexual only when he's drunk? Or does he ask you to sleep with him when he's sober?

Maybe find out if he still wants to fuck you when he isn't wasted. Then you can be 100% sure of what he wants from you.

Other than that, yeah, he thinks you're hot and he wants your body. It's pretty obvious he wants to have sex with you. :)

Have fun and good luck! Keep us posted on what happens! ..|
 
Man you have to be brave and face rejection - it sounds as if it might be worth the risk. Snuggle close, see where it goes. Joe
 
Thanks for the advice guys!

I know it sounded pretty clear that he's interested, but when I say I'm bad at this, I mean I am REALLY bad. I have to tell everyone about it and then listen to what other people say all the time about things like this which probably isn't healthy and something I'm working on lol.

And to be honest, I'd be pretty content with just a one-night stand or a fuck buddy. But I don't think a one-night stand would end there. We live in dorms together, we're in close quarters all the time (we're at Uni).

And it seems that he 'embraces his inner homosexual' more when he's drunk, but even when he's sober he's asking me questions, smiling at me, giving me hugs etc... but when he's drunk, it's definitley more heavy.

I'll keep everyone updated anyway though :)
 
The next time you are in bed together and he is asking you questions, just casually start running your fingertips lightly over the hair on his balls. When he closes his eyes, slowly run your warm, wet tongue up the shaft of his hard cock. When you taste precum, you know you have struck gold. If he is uncut:D just tease it with the tip of your tongue. You can figure the rest out.

It sounds like he has done all he is going to do to let you know he is interested. The rest is up to you, buddy.
 
Well, since you apparently won't make a physical move, why not ask? Next time he asks you questions about being gay, assuming you're all alone, ask. "You ask a lot of questions like this. Are you thinking maybe you might be gay or bi, too?"

Lex
 
sixthson said:
The next time you are in bed together and he is asking you questions, just casually start running your fingertips lightly over the hair on his balls. When he closes his eyes, slowly run your warm, wet tongue up the shaft of his hard cock. When you taste precum, you know you have struck gold. If he is uncut:D just tease it with the tip of your tongue. You can figure the rest out.

It sounds like he has done all he is going to do to let you know he is interested. The rest is up to you, buddy.
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Wow, just that couple sentences turned me the fuckk on. Write erotica!
*great advice
 
godson112 said:
And it seems that he 'embraces his inner homosexual' more when he's drunk, but even when he's sober he's asking me questions, smiling at me, giving me hugs etc... but when he's drunk, it's definitley more heavy.
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HE WANTS YOU BAD.

Maybe you should be up front with him next time you two are alone and then give him what he wants-what you both want. :)
 
The other night I was talking with him and one of my girlfriends and he started stroking me on the leg so I don't think I need any more signs. Next chance I get I'm just gonna go for it I think. If it doesn't work out, I'll blame it on my stupidness (or drunkeness depending on which) :)
 
godson112 said:
The other night I was talking with him and one of my girlfriends and he started stroking me on the leg so I don't think I need any more signs. Next chance I get I'm just gonna go for it I think. If it doesn't work out, I'll blame it on my stupidness (or drunkeness depending on which) :)
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When you're not really sure, ALWAYS Blame it on drunkenness. That excuse has always gotten me out of pickles.
 
boiseboy said:
When you're not really sure, ALWAYS Blame it on drunkenness. That excuse has always gotten me out of pickles.
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Hahaha!

Well a little update.
We were watching a film together the other night just me and him and he was letting me rest my head on his shoulders and he had his arm around me and kept stroking my hair like.

After that again he said I could stay in his bed, which I did (we had both been drinking again) and we spooned in bed for a while and he had his arm around me but I was too fecking chicken to make a move. But I dunno if that's because I am genuinely and idiot or because I think it's best if I let him do things at his pace. He's never done anything with a guy before so I don't just want to jump in at the deep end with him...
 
LOL i don't know what more you need. Laugh and say 'dude when you stroke my hair you give me a boner!' At this point he should say 'prove it' and then you whip it out, tell him to do the same, and commence the game of tummy sticks! :D
 
godson112 said:
Hahaha!

Well a little update.
We were watching a film together the other night just me and him and he was letting me rest my head on his shoulders and he had his arm around me and kept stroking my hair like.

After that again he said I could stay in his bed, which I did (we had both been drinking again) and we spooned in bed for a while and he had his arm around me but I was too fecking chicken to make a move. But I dunno if that's because I am genuinely and idiot or because I think it's best if I let him do things at his pace. He's never done anything with a guy before so I don't just want to jump in at the deep end with him...
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I think what you should really be asking yourself is what's holding you back?

From what I've read so far you seem to lack a degree of confidence. It's obvious that there's something about you that he finds attractive.

He obvious trusts you, and enjoys spending time with you.

Maybe he's really curious, and keeps hoping that you'll make the move.

Maybe deep down you're being respectful of him as a person, and what might really be bothering you is that you might feel that you would somehow being taking advantage of him.

Your friend sounds like a friend I use to work with.

We used to hang out a lot after work, and as much as I really liked him, he wasn't the sharpest knife in the drawer. But he was sure easy on the eyes, in every way.

Anyway after several months of hanging out, and his throwing every kind of signal at me short of just getting naked and shoving his cock in my face, I some how found the will to ignore his signals.

Then one night after we had been out drinking, he whispered in my ear that if I wanted him, that I could have him.

Rather than start making out with him right then and there, I felt like we should talk about it first. :lol: Seriously!

He finally admitted openly that he had never been with a guy before, and he if was ever going to be with a guy that he wanted it to be me. So I suggested that we "make-out" for a bit and see if he was still interested after that.

After a while of doing that, he said that he didn't see any difference between making out with me, and making out with a girl.

With our clothes still on, I asked him if he typically got that hard making out with a girl?

He looked down at the bulge in his jeans, back at me, smiled, and said, "No."

That was all she wrote! :sex:

The next day we had an assignment together at work, and I was a little uncomfortable, and wanted to get his opinion on what he and I did together the night before.

I expected him to say that it was interesting, what I didn't expect him to say is whether or not we could do it again right after work.

So we became "fuck buddies," of sorts, and I began to really fall for him.

Somehow it got around to some friends of ours that we were "more" than just friends, and it got back to me that he was telling everyone that he was just experimenting.

I guess what I'm trying to share with you, is that we all have "needs." ;)

If you want this guy, and he's done everything short of coming right out and saying, "come and take me," go for it!

Don't jump his bones or anything, just see if he would be up to kissing you, or making out, and see if it goes anywhere from there.

If he freaks or gets a little weird, you can either blame it on the booze, or his apparent boundaries issues.

If on the other hand he's into it, just keep in mind that he's probably just curious, and experimenting. ..|

Good luck, and keep us posted. :D
 
godson112 said:
Hahaha!

Well a little update.
We were watching a film together the other night just me and him and he was letting me rest my head on his shoulders and he had his arm around me and kept stroking my hair like.

After that again he said I could stay in his bed, which I did (we had both been drinking again) and we spooned in bed for a while and he had his arm around me but I was too fecking chicken to make a move. But I dunno if that's because I am genuinely and idiot or because I think it's best if I let him do things at his pace. He's never done anything with a guy before so I don't just want to jump in at the deep end with him...
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this confirms that he is definitely curious. i know a lot of guys on here are saying to just go for it and nail this dude, but i admire you for letting him set the pace. im sure that makes him feel comfortable with you. id say take it slow cause alcohol is involved, so inhibitions are lowered. next time y'all lay in bed, why dont you face him instead of spooning. see if he goes for a kiss.:kiss:
 
We shared a bed two nights in a row now. Again, drunk. (that's university life lol). Not really making any progress we're both really comfortable around eachother.

He was telling me yesterday as well how he wants a fuck buddy but it was only afterwards I thought of the perfect things I could have said lol...

And interesting post texpatriot. I'm glad that worked out for you, I hope it does for me too :)
 
Since he knows you're gay and you've had open and comfortable discussions about it you shouldn't feel guilty hitting on him because it doesn't seem like it makes him uncomfortable. Even if you are totally misreading him and he wants nothing sexual (which is not the case, he definitely wants you ;)), it won't be a big loss if you make a move and he shoots you down.

Your next update better be good!
 
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