I think I am in love with my best friend...

[Fucker29]

I was gonna say for you to lay off the pipe but I restrained myself. Sometimes I tend to be agressive and an asshole.

You can't control feelings and the people whom you have feelings for BUT, depending on the situation, you may, or may not, act upon those feelings.

First of all, does he know you're gay?

 

[KaraBulut]

tell me what you think...

I think these things seldom end well.

 

[panda29]

yea...he knows that im gay...

Then let him know how you feel. He my feel the same!

 

[NineOfClubs]

^Exactly. Tell him how you feel.

End this once and for all. Or begin a great adventure.

Only by bringing it out, and discussing it, will you ever know.....

 

[thermodynamics]

Here's the thing...If you tell him you love him, and he really is straight, your relationship/friendship is over.

 

[backpacker]

He already knows you are gay and hasn't given you any indication that he's anything but straight. I don't think much good could come from pursuing something with him. Focus your efforts on gay guys who are available for a relationship. Once you have a guy in your life, your attraction to your friend should subside.

 

[relaxin13]

Here's the thing...If you tell him you love him, and he really is straight, your relationship/friendship is over.

Though I'm sure it happens, that is not necessarily true... I had an infatuation with a friend years ago. I told him how I felt in the most objective way I could think, and in doing so we were able to remain good friends.

If you do tell him, try doing so in a way that doesn't put tons of pressure on him. If he is straight, its gonna be awkward for a while, and it might be wise to put some space between yourself and your friend in order to calm down your attraction to him.

 

[thermodynamics]

Though I'm sure it happens, that is not necessarily true... I had an infatuation with a friend years ago. I told him how I felt in the most objective way I could think, and in doing so we were able to remain good friends.

If you do tell him, try doing so in a way that doesn't put tons of pressure on him. If he is straight, its gonna be awkward for a while, and it might be wise to put some space between yourself and your friend in order to calm down your attraction to him.

OK, you're the second story I've ever heard that didn't end in disaster.

In love with straight best friend...oldest and most common story here in the forum. It doesn't end well.

 

[EwanSF]

Speaking as someone who has actualy shagged thier best pal before, it doesn't work. It makes things incredibly awkward and our friendship was never the same after that. Concentrate yer enegies on someone else man.

 

[KingofFaeries]

I'ma say your just a hormonal teenager misinterpreting feelings of friendship and brotherly love from your best friend into OMG DUDE WE SHOULD GET MARRIED! lol.

Been there done that, and unless he's one of a handful of guys telling him isn't going to do anything but make him feel awkward around you. I was 'in love' with my best friend when I was 16. I talked to him about it, and I told him my doubts of the validity of that 'love' turns out it was indigestion =P just kidding, I was infatuated with him, because I was alone, and by seeing him around his girl friends I wished to be in their position, but I knew if I took the leap and actually tried to date him we'd end up hating each other. So I left it alone and now we're still best buds Even had him pretend to be my boyfriend in front of a really jerky homophobe

 

[lefingum]

Here's the thing...If you tell him you love him, and he really is straight, your relationship/friendship is over.

so what? If the person is a true friend then he wont end his relationship. There is nothing wrong about loving someone. I'm sure he wil undrstnd.

 

[lefingum]

straight guy+gay guy=relationship is like saying 2+5=19.

sory to say, i dont thnk so. Love is difernt from sex. Impotent people can also fall in love. Who knows, maybe his friend loves him. Or mayb his love will start aftr he sees how much his friend love him. For that the topic starter nids 2 open hs heart. Thats mah advice.

 

[relaxin13]

OK, you're the second story I've ever heard that didn't end in disaster.

In love with straight best friend...oldest and most common story here in the forum. It doesn't end well.

I think it all depends on the way in which one goes about telling a friend about their love. When I told my friend, it started with me telling him that I knew that falling for him was something I shouldn't be doing, as he was straight and we were good friends, nothing more. I informed him of the reasons why I felt like I should inform him, and worked through it from there.

It probably helped that I had had many sincere 1 on 1 conversations with my friend prior to this conversation, and that we had each been there for each other when they needed someone to talk to.

 

[lefingum]

Thanks relaxing for saying that. Gives hope for myself, as I am in the same conditiion as the topic starter.

 

[Jerry]

I know how difficult this whole thing can be. I've had plenty of straight friends that I was sexually attracted to, and it stinks.

I have a straight friend now and I absolutely LOVE him. He really is amazing in every way and I wish I could find someone like that to be with forever, but I know we can never be together.
He has no idea (that I know of) that I'm bi and I don't plan to tell him anytime soon. I know he's straight as an arrow and so it'd do no good anyway.

So for me, I've decided to just enjoy this awesome friend. He gives me nice warm hugs sometimes and we say we love each other, which is really nice. But that's about as intimate as we're ever going to get. That's ok though, love doesn't always equal sex. I love him and he loves me and sex has no place in our relationship.

But for the OP, things do seem a bit different because the friend knows you're gay. I think what you should do and how kinda depends on the guy you're talking to here. Without knowing his personality, it's hard to say how you should approach this

 

[lefingum]

I know how difficult this whole thing can be. I've had plenty of straight friends that I was sexually attracted to, and it stinks.

I have a straight friend now and I absolutely LOVE him. He really is amazing in every way and I wish I could find someone like that to be with forever, but I know we can never be together.
He has no idea (that I know of) that I'm bi and I don't plan to tell him anytime soon. I know he's straight as an arrow and so it'd do no good anyway.

So for me, I've decided to just enjoy this awesome friend. He gives me nice warm hugs sometimes and we say we love each other, which is really nice. But that's about as intimate as we're ever going to get. That's ok though, love doesn't always equal sex. I love him and he loves me and sex has no place in our relationship.

But for the OP, things do seem a bit different because the friend knows you're gay. I think what you should do and how kinda depends on the guy you're talking to here. Without knowing his personality, it's hard to say how you should approach this

Awww i wish i cud have a friend like that, whom icud love with my heart. I actually have one, who even knows that i am a gay. But the problem is that he is totally staright, and I have never met him, just talked in online. But i really hope one day i will have a friend whom i can love with my heart and say how much i love him.