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I think I fell in love; help me forget him!

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Huhmm, interesting case indeed, actually this happens a lot with me, although generally I convinced myself that there was a remote possibility that the guy I like is gay. I'd say you are either like me, because you feel like you've known him so much you might pick up on very random things that he does to convince yourself that there is a remote possibility of being with him because you really like him. Or however, it could actually mean he's interested and wanted to keep going by hanging out.

I'd say if he wants to hang out, go for it and explore your emotions. If you really are falling for him like you said you might be (I think you are), then for the time being, get to know him even more just as friends and be content with that for now. Make an effort to hang out with him more and consider him only as a really good friends, and hopefully make friends with his friends, then maybe you can get an insight on to his sexuality. But if he thinks you're straight, then once you are comfortable enough talking to him like you guys are brothers, asking him straight on shouldn't be that hard if you become close enough to him.

I strongly encourage you not letting him go and forget about him like you've done in the past with others, for all you know, this rare opportunity might never surface again, and you'll be looking back at it and kicking yourself for it. If I was in your position, I would try to pursue him and make him one of my best friends.

Whatever you choose to do, I hope that you won't have any regrets over your decision (*8*)
 
Does he know you are gay?

What I would probably do is drop hints and see what he says. Tell him it seems wierd not rooming with you anymore - see how he responds. Talk about how well you two got along - see how he responds.

I would sort of test the waters and just see if he feels the same as you
 
That "...happiness with being single..." may likely have its limitation for you. [mine did after nearly four decades of telling myself its ok not to act on being gay].

What do you want from life? I suspect like most of us you want to give & receive love with another human being [gay or straight]....time to figure it out & go for it!
 
ah Bromance.

Next time, carpe diem.
 
Well you asked if we've been through anyting similar so I'll give you a brief rundown of my little experience.

Met him sophomore year, had a huge crush. Rumors of him being gay then he dated my best friend. so school went by my crush subsided but never evaporated and eventually he dropped out senior year. mostly due to him hanging with wrong crowd, who happend to be gay people kinda.. so he came out. so college starts and what do you know we start hanging out. me and my friend went to same college and since they knew each other from dating and i was their friend mutually we all started hangin out. he actually stayed in my dorms for a week or two. it all came to a head when he finally moved out of the dorms since he had been staying with me or my friend for about a month and he left. one day he says i'm in your area i'm gonna stop by. the moment he walked into my work cuz i was working... he lit up something inside me and i knew that i loved him. so i figured. damn i've never had a girlfriend i pretty much know i'm gay, so i came out to my best friend and told her the situation eventually all of my little group knew and that i "loved" him. so i finally decide about a week after my realization that day to tell him. so i text it. and he says we need to talk in person. so that night he comes over and we talked..... it was the weirdest most vulnerable moment in my life to admit face to face that you love someone. so it got weird, he was flattered but didn't know what to do, and neither did i. so eventually it build up and i was always making jokes and finally it hit me. he didn't feel the same way. so i let him go and told him everything. how i knew he didnt feel the same and that we should just move on, or rather i should. so after that we stoped talking regularly. before my whole stunt we had been really good friends talked about anything he was gay i was "straight" we were great, and now i hear from him maybe 1 every two months. i've since come to realize that it wasn't love at all or not for him at least. it was a love for everything he was that i was not. he was openly out and lived the life i didn't have, he was promiscuous and really just the opposite of me. thats what i loved, sure we did have some things in common but i projected my feelings for his lifestyle at him and that was dishonest.


so in response to your situation. MAKE ABSOLUTE SURE THAT WHAT YOU FEEL FOR HIM IS THE REAL THING BEFORE YOU TELL HIM ANYTHING. my problem started with me being hasty since i thought "well damn i never make a move and i dont want to go my whole life regretting this so i'm going to tell him" which in reality was not a good thing to do. it really did hurt our relationship as friends which i really didn't want to do to begin with.

hope that helps
 
oh one more little thing. the whole time i could never just place one thing on the reason why i liked him.... everyone would ask, What do you see in him? and i had no response.

i liked to fool myself by thinking "the moment i put my finger on what it is i like in him is the moment it will all end"

and since he was promisuous like i said, everyone was really shocked that me, a prude who's never been kissed, was in love with the group slut, haha. but yeah eventually after it all ended i did finally pinpoint what it was like i said earlier, it was the love of everything i was missing in my life not him.

and really the physical attraction thing is kinda important to a degree, sometimes i found him very ugly and other times i thought he was the cutest thing in the world. but it was all skewed because of the basis of my feelings towards him so...

hehe sorry to add another paragraph:D
 
sure anytime, glad to help someone who's in the same situation i was in.... it seriously killed me at the time struggling with whether letting the moment pass and possibly regretting it my whole life or breaking out of character and telling him everything... like i said, my problem was being hasty

when your in the moment it feels HUGE all of it and your feelings but you have to wait for the initial surge of emotions to subside to your regular state so that you dont regret acting on something false
 
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