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I think I figured it out

Adam2299

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So I think I may have possibly figured out the meaning of a healthy relationship (big news for me, since I've never been in one).

I very recently got back together with a man I've been seeing on and off for a longggg time. We've had so much drama in the past (he's the "older" man I complained about on this forum before). But I have a feeling things are going to be different this time.

After a spending a whole night yelling, crying, and laughing with each other... I think we finally figured it out. We've both let our guard down (FINALLY!), and as scary as it is, I think it's a step in the right direction. We figured out that most of our "problems" we've always had with each other have more to do with our own insecurities than anything else. We're both incredibly stubborn, yet for some reason, the stars seemed to align at about 4:00 a.m., and we just spilled our guts out to each other.... and it was amazing.

Now it's like... we're not competing with each other anymore. We have nothing else to prove to one another. We've established the foundation of something that will hopefully become an extremely healthy relationship.... Don't get me wrong, we still have a lot of work to do. But I think we're finally on the right path.

I think the fact that we both have let our guard down is probably the most wonderful yet scariest feeling in the world... But it's what is saving our relationship :)

Just thought I'd share.
 
Oh, I suspect that there's more drama to come....but glad to hear that you are finally developing a more mature approach to relationships.
 
rareboy said:
Oh, I suspect that there's more drama to come....but glad to hear that you are finally developing a more mature approach to relationships.
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Thanks. I think that's the nicest thing you've ever said to me. haha.
 
You know we're all on your side and hope you will grow up to be happy....as well as gay.
 
Ha, you really wanna know the secret to any healthy realtionship.

This 19 year old boy will gladly share, and funny enough has roots in your problem.


Understand yourself as a person defined by your own terms and fully aware of your insecurities, strengths and nuances.

Because, one flawed unaware person entering a relationship is bad enough without it being double. And flawed or not: being flawed is human, ACCEPT and work around them or through them. The secret to a pair, begins with a healthy solo.

I suspect this honesty revalation was you two finally admitting your own insecurities and healthily working through them.
 
^ Are you sure you are only 19? That is one of the most amazing responses I've seen.
 
I remember this "older" guy from one of your other threads. That had some nasty drama that would have kept myself from ever making contact with him again.

But, if you feel confident it can finally work this time, I wish you the best. Keep us posted.
 
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