I Think I'm About Done...

[Sausy]

^Couldn't have said it better myself!Scott,you are a great person and full of so many positive traits,trust us on this...don't be too hard on yourself,don't look for reasons to give up....just take things one at a time and make an effort to build up your comfort being in social situations gradually,find a cause or point of interest that really attracts you and start from there.You have a lot to offer,you just have to start to believe in yourself.

 

[Soilwork]

Oh for crying out loud.. there's more to gay life than bars and community centers.

Join a gay baseball team or something.

But more than that.. snap out of it.

Stop being so down on yourself. EVERYONE has those feelings of insecurity and everyone has those feelings that everyone else is out of their league.

 

[SpankThePony]

Wow. That is freaky....

Why are there so many lesbians and bisexual women in LGBTs?
It's the same in my college too,

Anywho, I've not read many other peoples postes, but I'm going to stick in my responce now anyway.

I joined The LGBT for the first time this year after many years of wanting to but being to affraid
but I've been having a blast since.
I didn't start out in the IN crown and I still amn't but I'll get there.

I'm not the kind of person that screams Gay either, and I could definutly be dismissed into the catagory of that weird guy that just randomly started talking to me very esaly, but what the hell.
I doubt anyone will tell stories. I'm not that intresting. Few people are.

I Have been a few bars and clubs and I have found some I like and some I don't.
There all diffrent, just try them all till you find one that suits (in some places there only is one of corse)
I'm quite inverted and very reluctant to open up to people in most circumstances, particularly when meeting face to face, but I find it a hell of a lot easyer to talk to people when I know sexuality is not going to be an issue.
Heck, The more things you can be sure aren't going to become an issue the more comfortable you will be.
Going to these places where you meet other Gay men and women meens you not only iliminate sexuality as a point of potencial conflict but you create a common ground in one move

I have rather an unerving realisation about one of the ladies in the LGBT. She was raised a chatholic and have very strong catholic views, and she sais she cant change now because it's so hevily engraned in her, which is pritty contrary to my views on spirituality.
If it can't change it's brain damage, not belief.
but you get over these things.
She's great fun to talk to, and totaly weird. Makes me fell almost normal.

Don't go places expecting to hook up. that puts you under too much preassure.
Just go to have a good time. Talk to people who talk to you, as I do.
If you stick with the LGBT eventualy you will get into the "In" crowd and they will chat with you about the things that you find intresting.
Either that or you can have some of the best arguments ever
I know I have.

Things take time and effort.
If you don't put in the effort,
If you are not prepared to face the possability of failure,
If you complain about how hard it is to get what you want,
If you cant be bother to put in the time and potencialy have to start over,
Then you are scrued (or more likely never going to be)

Just take a chance, or give other people one.
You might get lucky.

 

[Croynan]

Scott? What am I going to do with you. Don't make me drive all the way up there to spank some sense into you.

First off... there isn't a damn thing wrong with you. You are a handsome, cute, funny, bright, articulate and intelligent guy. So what if you're not some freakin' Adonis. Nine times out of ten they're dumber than dirt and equally shallow. You are a young man with a lot going for him. Don't worry about making "connections" at this point in time. Worry about doing well in school, about making new friends (both gay and straight). I would bet real money that when you stop worrying about making "connections" the right guy for you will come around.

Secondly, no more of this "sitting around" talk. The world would be a brighter place with your participation. I expect that you will be a mover and shaker just by how involved and passionate you are about the things that are important to you. Trust me when I tell you this, wallowing in your own pity will get you no where.

You're a good guy. Hell, you're a catch in my book. Take heart my friend. I truly believe that you are on the cusp of good things.

What a superb posting this is Scott. GL247 thanks for sharing it with all of us.



eM.

 

[irish1]

Except Soilwork.

I'm in the same boat, Reaper. We should start our own group!

I have quite a few gay, lesbian and bi friends right now...Just no one to date. And Kingston is very small so just about everyone knows everyone. If someone is dating so-and-so then everyone knows. It's sort of daunting/intimidating.

But, I think that for now, especially if you're recently out like me, you should focus on friends first, then dating.

All of this is completely contrary to my blog I posted today (yes, I started posting here again)...But, it's always easier to give advice than to take your own. :/

LIFE is daunting and intimidating!!

Guys, you have received some outstanding advice here...I can not improve upon it.

Like you, I was a very shy college student, always waiting for someone else to make the move.

Suggestion: Just make the first move. I don't care if it to make a new friend, or to ask someone on a date. Gay or straight, it is so scarey to make the first move, isn't it, and GOD FORBID someone should turn you down; mon dieu!!

Look in the mirror, smile, and go outside. There are lots and lots of really nice people out in the world, with a smattering of jerks.

Yes, you'll take your lumps, just like everybody else.

When you fail, you will have actually succeeded, because you lived; you went out the door and took a risk.

To sit and wait on the sofa is not living.

Let us all know how you do. (more hugs are here if you need them!)