I think the cat's out of the bag.

[JOHN B]

Piggy---you have the right to live as closeted (or not closeted) as you want. But you might be creating your own paranoia by worrying about "being found out." You are blocking yourself from living a full "gay" life by hiding yourself as you are. Plus all the energy it takes to keep "it" hidden. Live your life as if you own it.....'cause you DO! Being Out does NOT mean telling the kids stories in class about your Bar Adventures, or even talking about your life to other teachers. It just means living your life as "normally" as everyone else.......and just let others make their own (probably right) conclusions. What I am saying is we do not want you worrying yourself sick every time a situation like this comes up. You are worth more than that!

 

[okstatecowboy]

^^What he said. I don't keep things secret, but I don't announce them either.

You'd heard me talk about all the conferences the district sends me to. Well, if we're going to a location with a gay part of town, I simply tell everyone I want to explore the town on my own. Most people are cool with that; I've even had one or two ask if they can tag along. They've never once said anything negative to me when they find themselves in a gay bar or bookstore (non-adult ones!).

I don't think you have to worry about the woman telling everyone she knows or everyone at the school. You said she owns a gay bar, so she knows about being closeted and about being out.

mikey

 

[hermanding]

how is it going now piggy? has anything been said by anyone?
ding

 

[screwnutty]

Piggy, it's the age old story.....

I go to a gay bar, hang out, have fun. I run into another friend who I'm shocked to see at said bar. He in turn is shocked to find me there too. I get nervous...afraid of what he might say to my classmates in college etc. But then a friend tells me not to worry because if he tells anybody then they want to know what he was doing there too.

Same goes for this woman. She talks....something bad happens. You call up dateline and start a protest outside her bar. She loses bar. Don't let her have power over you.