I thought You Were Gay!

[Danugh]

So i have/had this friend from highschool, that i haven't seen in years until last week, at a party.

I was with my lesbian friend (from my vaginal connection). She was pretending to be my girlfriend.

So i am at the party and my friend comes up to me and we catch up. The girls went to the bathroom and he said to me,

"Hey man, don't take this the wrong way but i really thought you were gay when we were in highschool. (And he laughed)

I was stunned

"Why did you think that?"

"We all thought that"

"So why didn't you say anything to me about it?"

"You were my friend, i didn't really care, nobody did. It was ok, but i guess we were wrong huh?"

"No, thats not my girlfriend, she is my friend"

"So you are gay?"

"I am not into labels, but men fuel my tank"

We laughed.

"Hey guess what, you not going to believe this, but _________ is gay too"

"Yea right, are you serious?"

"Yes he came out to us 2 years ago, you two should reconnect"

"lol why, just because we are the same orientation? it doesn't work like that"

"No well i only mentioned it because i remember that he used to talk about you like he was interested anyways here is his number."

The girls came back and we chilled the rest of the night.

Wow, has something like that ever happened to you where, people around you know you are gay but say anything to you about it?


So anyways i called the guy and we caught up and he invited me over to his house and he looked so good, but then his cousin came over and his cousin, who is gay as well, was hotter than my friend. So here i am attracted to both of them but more the cousin.

So what should i do? The friend invited me over to see if we could start something together and here i am wanting his cousin.

Do i tell him i am not interested or continue with him so i can get closer to the cousin?

The cousin has a boyfriend but if i wanted him i could get him.

So what to do?

 

[Luminox]

Yeah....apparently quite a lot of kids back in highschool (which would be...last year !) thought I was gay ! And I idiot thought nobody could tell ! I mean, I'm not macho and butch...but I'm not effeminate, hip-swaying, wildly gesturing, squeaky voiced or with a funny accent...in other words I'm not a so-called "flaming queen" ! I'm just not all Macho McMachism !

And my best friend recently just "by the way" told me that she knew I was gay long before I told her....and I nearly bit her head off !! I hate it when people behind my back think stuff about me and I don't have the faintest idea...But now we're good again ! And she also told me that the rumor that I'm gay has been circulating for quite some time now...apparently I just hadn't realised...Oh, what the fuck ! Who cares ??

 

[interesting]

Yeah, apparently a few people think I'm gay too, in high school that is, I'd bet if I come out, some would just say "yeah, I figured"

 

[Blueyes]

people who dont know me tend to think that I am gay because i used to be a gymnast i guess and because they think im a pretty boy or something. my close friends have absolutely no idea its strange. i have only come out to one so far but i had to spend an hour trying to convince her that i wasnt joking

 

[puka-pride]

everyone is always shocked i am gay.. but whatever...

umm if your interested in both ur friend and his cousin and don't wanna hurt ur friends feelings then just tell him ur not looking for anything serious right now

 

[Eagle653]

lol what a great story about the party. For some reason, I think it's so funny when that happens.

Re the cousin...tread lightly. He has a bf and while there's no doubt you could "have him if you want him" is it worth it? You can make lots of enemies that way and, long term, it rarely works out. Think about it...if you can have him, so can some other bloke who's better than you in 2 months. You'd be heading into quicksand with this mess.

Take or leave the friend. If you like him and he's fun, hook up for what it's worth. But, be honest with the guy as to where he really stands with you.

Good luck. Thanks again for the great party story!

 

[Singularity]

I had the same thing, but during high school. I was out having coffee with a female friend from school and she was babbling about how her class was rumoring about me being gay. I was like:

"What are you discussing my orientation for? Is your class that boring?"

She looked at me and laughed and said:

"No, a few people of my class have noticed your mannerisms and they were just wondering."

I took a moment and then said:

"If you want to reduce me to my mannerisms only, then we don't have to discuss that any further."

We continued our kaffeeklatsch and never spoke of it again.

 

[pkacrotjs]

I had at least five close family friends (peers of my parents) pull the 'we knew' thing after I came out... pissed me off. If they would have been as supportive and accepting back then, my life could have been SOOO much different if they'd given me half a clue....

re: friend/cousin, I'm on board with averageguy....

 

[Neji]

It's disturbing when people do not have the guts to ask, yet talk about it behind your back. Kinda makes me wonder if people thought/think the same about me. Well I personally do not feel the need to bring it up as a topic of discussion unless the situation calls for it.

 

[willsp18]

When I told my friend i was bi, she said she kinda knew already. She was like i figured you were either gay or bi, and when i asked her why she never brought it up, she said she'd wait till i told her. I've told select members of my family, my sister and my little brother, only because their the closest to me, they were'nt suprised at all. But when it comes to the rest of my family i have to agree with Ragater, i really dont feel like i should bring it up unless i'm downright asked.

 

[recuerdeme]

Well, you aren't interested in the guy and the cousin has a boyfriend, so I'd say get lost.

i agree with this guy. Beat it dude.

 

[Danugh]

Ok so i made love to the cousin (he really is hot) but we decided not to enter into a relationship and not to mess around again.

I also decided just to be friends with my friend. We did jerk off though but that was that.

 

[Ninja108]

Gee, nice loyal boyfriend the cousin is. I wonder how his boyfriend will feel? Nice to know your ego got a boost, regardless of who it could hurt.