I Told My Best Male Friend

[Jjaberwaki]

Well see now im bi but ive had a thing for my best friend for like 3 years now...his name is Bryon and ive been thinking hes gay for a while...but some part of me always thinks that he is str8 so i jsut took a chance...and i wrote him a letter and i gave it to him since me and him went to the movies tonight...and we saw "Talledega Nights" funny ass movie...anyways when i was driving him back home....when he got out of the car...i gave him this note explaining EVERYTHING....about me being BI and not wanting this to tear up our friendship...and i told hi mto respond soon because i am anxious as hell....so tomorrow if he doesnt call me by like 2ish im gonna get the nerve to call him and say "So do u hate me now?" and start off the coversation like that...so yeah i will keep you guys updated lol...soon as tomorrow me and him talk about this...

-Josh-

 

[Motyrassy]

Good luck with this, but it was better to come out to him honestly and with no stops (such as in a letter). Hopefully he'll come to terms with this so that you two can share that relationship you always had before.

 

[ladygrey]

Be gentle.

Give him lots of time. Honestly. rushing it is a bad call.

Let him come to you, k?

 

[luminum]

Good luck :/ ::hug::

 

[confusedboy23]

Congratulations on finding the courage to tell him how you felt! It is the best thing to do (be honest) and a true friendship will always survive! Give him some time and space to take it all in because if he really was 101% straight, he would probably need a lot more time than just a couple of hours.

 

[looseliam]

It's always tough telling your best friend you have feelings for him. Especially if they're straight.

Take ladygrey's advice. Don't rush him. It might be tough for you, but imagine what he might be going through.

Best of luck to ya, hun.

 

[Jjaberwaki]

Well i told him and he accepts me thasthte good news....bad new

HES str8....it always hurts to hear this it does...and i really dont know how to get over him because i truely thought he was THE ONE because we were like tight and everything but hes str8 and i just dont know where to go anymore u guys know?

but id rather have him as my friend instead then not at all so i guess i will find someway to cope this but for now....it hurts thats all i can say lol i mean im happy that we are still friends and sad/mad because i know that we wont ever hae a chance so yeah i will keep u guys updated on this sisuation soon

thank you for ur support!

-Josh-

 

[looseliam]

I've been in the same boat. It gets easier with time. My feeling haven't gone away, but I can deal with them easier.

I'm happy things worked out for the better. It could have been a catastrophe.

Oh, and BTW: Welcome to JUB!

 

[lumberjack037200]

man.

i completely sympathize.
my best friend was one of those who was too cool. we are best friends, but we had long conversations that were funny but dirty, dare i say risque. and we would always make gay jokes. and then i came out to him, and that was too great. he was okay with it, but may be too okay. nothing changed, he kept making his dirty jokes and since i live in the northern part of arizona and he lives in the southern, he even made the comment, you can be jack twist and i can be enniss" referencing brokeback. at other times we would stay up on the phone very late, doing the "whatcha thinkin'...." well, long story short, i really thought he was gay [can you blame me], so when i confronted him about it...well we went through a rough time as friends. i thought it was unfair that he was "leading me on" when i guess he ...wasn't?

it is still very confusing. he's straight, looking for a girl, not me. but i'll be damned if we weren't to the tune of brokeback. lame comparison, i know but damn.

 

[Jjaberwaki]

Idk something about it....still thinks that he is bi but like hes not telling me the whole story...im not sure if he said he was str8 then i believe him a lil...but i still dont think im getting the entire story like i mean im thinking about him telling me that he's str8 (i can picture him saying that and actually meanining it) but then i can also image him telling me that hes bi and all that mess....idk it complicated...today i called him and wished him luck with him asking Victoria out lol...not to be all mean and mess...Hopefully she says no...IM SORRY im a whore i know i know lol...but still

And idk im still happy that hes my best friend..and more of afriend then he has ever been because now i dont have to hide anything from him...and i know hes keeping something from me...but i will let him tell me in time....if not im just gonna ask him sooner or later if hes at least bi ya know...so yeah he went to Cheerleading Pratice around 3ish today and he is gonna get back around like 6ish lol i think thats his shecule not sure...but yeah i wil lcall hi mabck then and ask him how things went...hopefully bad lol...well u cant blame me lol...but hopefully good for his sake ya know...well i will keep ya updated lol....soon enough things will tip in my way lol...maybe

-Josh-

 

[Roland00]

Never EVER call yourself a whore (even if you are one) the proper term is slut Whore is always a degenerate word, while slut is a compliment

 

[Blueboy369]

I think you should try a little reverse psycology. Most boys are curious about these things. Don't treat him like he's so special. Act like everything is totally cool (even though you're dying inside). Ask him for an update on his girl situation and then casually tell him that you think your ready to start dating too and you really could use his advice. Does he know anyone that he could hook you up with? As soon as he sees you hooking up with guys he might be a little jelous. Be totally cool and playfull with him and don't take anything seriously.Let things happen naturally. keep us updated.

 

[thermodynamics]

Yeesh. This sounds like me a little over a month ago. I finally got the nerve up to tell my best friend that I was at the very least BI, and that I had feelings for him.

Things were quite rocky between us for a couple of weeks, and we getting back to where we were about a year ago. I don't know if we'll ever get back to being the best friends that we were.

I don't know what it is, but it seems that us yet-closeted guys have a tendency to go for our best friends.

 

[Jjaberwaki]

But now man....we arent friends like he lied to me that fucker he was all like "Yeah im cool with it...and we are still really good friends" but now i wave at him in the hallway right and hes looking str8 at me and he just walks on by....so aparently i lost a friend a really really good best friend because we've just grown apart...so now im all emo right now....IM NOT CUTTING MYSELF dont worry i wont do that shit lol....but yeah i miss him...and we arent friends anymore like ok me nad him go to the Same College right....and his other friend Gil is there too and Bryon was sitting at my tabel looking for him i guess becuase he was looking around and everything right....and then he said "Oh gil" then got up and left me at the tabel....he didnt say bye or any shit like that so from then we dont talk or anything so yeah

The End to this Post me and him are a "WE at all anymore" so yep might as well drop it...need to try and move on lol....get it TRY lmao

-J.

 

[Riverrick]

This is when you need to stay around here, Jjaberwaki. Now is when you are going to need the support from the forum. So don't go yet.

Just come back and tell us how you're doing every day. No sense in being all alone with these feelings. It helps, really it does.

So we'll be right here waiting.

 

[confusedboy23]

You're not alone. Come back to us, and we'll be right behind you!

You sound really strong-willed and I am sure that this episode will not set you back but it will only make you stronger!

Keep it up but if you feel like you're tumbling down, call on us!

 

[offcentered1]

Don't write him off. Don't write him in as someone who will eventually be with you. He isn't the only one. He is your attraction, he is not your answer. If he can be there for you, that is great he is not there for you, whatever.