I told my ex-girlfriend

[Blk_Thickness]

I told my ex-girlfriend yesterday that I am Bi. I told her through a text message. I wanted to do it in person but she kept bugging the fuck out of me to tell her right then and there so I did. She left a voice mail on my phone and she was crying saying that she was hurt but she wasn't mad at me or anything. Later on she text me saying I shouldn't go down that path and that she don't think it is right and that GOD is 100% real and a bunch of other stuff. So I told her, "I know GOD is real" I also went on to say "My sexuality does not define me". So do you guys think she will get over it? or maybe telling her was a mistake?

 

[rareboy]

Uhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh.

Yes, I'd say it is over.

 

[jetsonboy]

Telling her was not a mistake, but there is a reason she is your ex. God may be 100% real, and so is your sexuality. Sex and religion are 100% incompatible.

 

[paul-dan]

Text message? Why couldnt you be a MAN and tell her in person regardless of how much she kept "bugging you? Some things should be told in person..and yes I think its over!

 

[HartfordGuy]

You did the right thing. You can't deny how you feel. Honesty is the best policy even if it means she can't deal with it.

 

[G-Lexington]

Will she get over it? Probably. Just don't wait around for her to do so.

Lex

 

[DonDon]

Telling her was not a mistake, but there is a reason she is your ex. God may be 100% real, and so is your sexuality. Sex and religion are 100% incompatible.

Sex itself and religion might be incompatible, looking at most of the religions we go by in this part of the world, but I know a lot of people who are very spiritual and follow their own paths who feel that their sex and sexuality have very close ties with their spirituality. Do a web search on tantric sex (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tantra and http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tantric_sex). And your sexual preference does not necessarily need to separate you from your religious beliefs, if that is something that is very important to you. Most of us scoff at organized religion because we feel they've turned their backs on us and excluded us. But for someone who is gay yet feels very strongly about their religion, there has to be a middle ground. It's not God who has turned His back on you, it's the people who run the churches. There are many fine gay churches out there where gay people today can worship and feel connected, if you so desire. I have a gay friend who has just been ordained as a minister, and while I don't belong to any particular religion, I'm very proud of him and happy that he is doing what he feels is his purpose in life.

Blk_Thickness, if your ex-girlfriend chooses to use a religious belief as a way to put you down, exclude you from her life, or try to change you then it's her loss. She's not looking at the bigger picture. She's letting someone else do her thinking for her. Don't let her make you feel bad about who you are. She'll come around and if not, move on. You're a better person than that.

 

[Blk_Thickness]

Well, I talked to her today and she said that we're still best friends and that she doesn't look at me any different. That is all I really cared about to be truthful.