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rainman256
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I have to tell everyone.
I told my sister about me being bi (at the time I thought I was bi...but I think I'm leaning more towards being gay the more I think about it...but that's a tangent right now).
But tonight I came out to my parents. I had been planning it out for a while, and I had decided today was the day. I was going to do it a while back, but then my grandma got sick and passed away, then I got super busy, then (insert more excuses here)...
I went over to my parents tonight to pick something up, and I thought tonight would be a good night. The sooner I said something, the better off we would be. This was my biggest hurdle to date. My sister told me not to worry about it, but it was hard for me to do. All day, I had rehearsed what I was going to say. When I left work and I was driving over there I was practicing out loud. Over and over.
When I got there, they were both watching TV, and the house was quiet. My dad offered me a beer, and I gladly accepted. The TV was turned down a lot so we could talk (that's normal...or they'll just turn the TV off). As we were talking, I was getting more and more nervous. I couldn't chicken out. I had to do it tonight.
There were a few silences where I could have said something, but I was really nervous. Finally, I said it.
"So, can I tell you something?" I paused for a moment. "Something that I struggled with...and I'm nervous as hell right now...but something that I struggled with...is that...I'm bisexual. And I don't expect you to accept it right away..." Then I looked up and they were both unphased. They hardly flinched. My heart was pounding. I thought it would be easier for them if I said I was bi instead of gay. Looking back now, they would have reacted the same way regardless. Then I continued, "It's something that I had to share because it's a big part of my life, and I just can't keep it a secret and hide it anymore."
Then my dad said, "You know, we will love you regardless. You'll always be our son no matter what and we will support you in anything you do. And we in no way think any less of you -- we love you." My mom then stood up and hugged me and said, "I still love you!"
It was awesome. We talked about it for a while, I told them a little about what I went through when I was struggling with it and coming to terms with my sexuality. "You should be able to talk with us about whatever is on your mind," my dad said.
We talked a lot tonight. It was an incredible night. I am very glad I said something tonight. As I left I hugged both my parents, and they both said, "I love you." It was one of the best nights. I'm glad I did it.
I'm pretty sure they said other things, I remember something about being proud of me, but I was really nervous and don't remember everything.
On my way home I called my sister and told her, and she almost started crying when I told her what my parents said and what they did. It was nice.
This was the biggest barricade I had built up in my mind. In the movie, "Anyone and Everyone," one of the guys who is interviewed said, "Once I came out and told them, I could now commit myself fully to a relationship." Now I know exactly what he means. Before I told my parents, I was afraid to fully commit in fear that they would find out. But now -- it's okay.
I am very glad I came out tonight, and it's been a great night. Actually, it's only been a few hours
I told my sister about me being bi (at the time I thought I was bi...but I think I'm leaning more towards being gay the more I think about it...but that's a tangent right now).
But tonight I came out to my parents. I had been planning it out for a while, and I had decided today was the day. I was going to do it a while back, but then my grandma got sick and passed away, then I got super busy, then (insert more excuses here)...
I went over to my parents tonight to pick something up, and I thought tonight would be a good night. The sooner I said something, the better off we would be. This was my biggest hurdle to date. My sister told me not to worry about it, but it was hard for me to do. All day, I had rehearsed what I was going to say. When I left work and I was driving over there I was practicing out loud. Over and over.
When I got there, they were both watching TV, and the house was quiet. My dad offered me a beer, and I gladly accepted. The TV was turned down a lot so we could talk (that's normal...or they'll just turn the TV off). As we were talking, I was getting more and more nervous. I couldn't chicken out. I had to do it tonight.
There were a few silences where I could have said something, but I was really nervous. Finally, I said it.
"So, can I tell you something?" I paused for a moment. "Something that I struggled with...and I'm nervous as hell right now...but something that I struggled with...is that...I'm bisexual. And I don't expect you to accept it right away..." Then I looked up and they were both unphased. They hardly flinched. My heart was pounding. I thought it would be easier for them if I said I was bi instead of gay. Looking back now, they would have reacted the same way regardless. Then I continued, "It's something that I had to share because it's a big part of my life, and I just can't keep it a secret and hide it anymore."
Then my dad said, "You know, we will love you regardless. You'll always be our son no matter what and we will support you in anything you do. And we in no way think any less of you -- we love you." My mom then stood up and hugged me and said, "I still love you!"
It was awesome. We talked about it for a while, I told them a little about what I went through when I was struggling with it and coming to terms with my sexuality. "You should be able to talk with us about whatever is on your mind," my dad said.
We talked a lot tonight. It was an incredible night. I am very glad I said something tonight. As I left I hugged both my parents, and they both said, "I love you." It was one of the best nights. I'm glad I did it.
I'm pretty sure they said other things, I remember something about being proud of me, but I was really nervous and don't remember everything.
On my way home I called my sister and told her, and she almost started crying when I told her what my parents said and what they did. It was nice.
This was the biggest barricade I had built up in my mind. In the movie, "Anyone and Everyone," one of the guys who is interviewed said, "Once I came out and told them, I could now commit myself fully to a relationship." Now I know exactly what he means. Before I told my parents, I was afraid to fully commit in fear that they would find out. But now -- it's okay.
I am very glad I came out tonight, and it's been a great night. Actually, it's only been a few hours
