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...one of my best friends (a girl.) i sent her a really long email. its weird i had never thought on impulse before to tell her but i was hanging out with her and it just became unbearable to be with her knowing that id been lying about myself.

she sent back an email just saying like ," hey i read it. i dont want to talk about it on email or online. are we still on for wednesday...let me know..." it was kind of cold. shes a bit on the religious tip. I dont know what to expect Wednesday.

GOD I HATE BEING BI!!!!
 
I've read a bunch of posts by guys saying the came out over email or text or something like that. And granted, I am only out to one person, but I feel like it's something that should be done face-to-face.

I can't testify to what your friend said to you, but before you say she was just being cold, and being judgmental of you, think of it this way. You're telling her a very intimate thing about yourself. Friend to friend, maybe she wants to have this conversation in person with you. That might be why she said "I don't want to talk about it on email."
 
beatleshead said:
...one of my best friends (a girl.) i sent her a really long email. its weird i had never thought on impulse before to tell her but i was hanging out with her and it just became unbearable to be with her knowing that id been lying about myself.

she sent back an email just saying like ," hey i read it. i dont want to talk about it on email or online. are we still on for wednesday...let me know..." it was kind of cold. shes a bit on the religious tip. I dont know what to expect Wednesday.

GOD I HATE BEING BI!!!!
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Cold? Sounds like she had the good sense to know that this isn't something you talk about via email. Email is not the medium to use for important conversations.
 
EvilForce said:
Cold? Sounds like she had the good sense to know that this isn't something you talk about via email. Email is not the medium to use for important conversations.
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I agree.

It's also important to give people a chance to accept you before you decide that they will reject you solely because they have certain religious beliefs.
 
The first two people I came out to in the entire world were via email. Granted, they were in different cities than me (and each other) at the time, but I would have still done it that way had they been next door neighbors.

To me, I just wanted to them know; I did not want to "discuss" it. I wasn't ready to discuss it because I didn't know how to and didn't know what to expect. With email, I had control over my words and feelings and I was landing a bombshell of information on two longtime (straight) friends. They both responded very, very well and very kindly/graciously, and I got the sense that they, too, were glad to not be on the spot for an immediate reaction. The face-to-face, real-time discussions came later when they were used to it and I was used to them knowing.

I know it sounds kind of strange, looking back, but that's how I wanted to do it. Each on their own pace and style, you know.

Anyway, congrats beatleshead and good luck Wednesday! Let us know how it goes.
 
IT went EXEPTIONALLY WEll. she was asking me funny questions but they were honest ones so i just had to laugh off the absurdity. she was 100 percent supportive. i guess i was just scared when i read her reply. I was in happiness...only to return....

to the winter of my discontent. I was cooking dinner for the mom and dad and like my mom came home and was extra nagging...i just snapped and knocked everything over and went driving around for an hour. then when i got home they were waiting for me. my dad was generally concerned but she still had this thing in her voice that made me snap and i tried to attack her.

what do i do now? should i be taken away?
 
beatleshead said:
IT went EXEPTIONALLY WEll. she was asking me funny questions but they were honest ones so i just had to laugh off the absurdity. she was 100 percent supportive. i guess i was just scared when i read her reply. I was in happiness...only to return....

to the winter of my discontent. I was cooking dinner for the mom and dad and like my mom came home and was extra nagging...i just snapped and knocked everything over and went driving around for an hour. then when i got home they were waiting for me. my dad was generally concerned but she still had this thing in her voice that made me snap and i tried to attack her.

what do i do now? should i be taken away?
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LOL. No. My mother still can make me go insane. You're getting to be an adult now, and living with other adults that you aren't romantically connected to is difficult. You are finding out who you really are. You will change more between now and age 25, that it will amaze you.

I love my family to death, but I do prefer them to live at least 2 times zone away from me. ;)
 
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