I used to be straight

[cincygay2506]

I was completely straight without a single curious thought about other guys, but when I was 21 I accidentaly viewed some gay porn and I was quite intrigued by it and after a few days I had sex with a guy and since the I have only been with guys and I'm 25 now. I think its weird I went 21 years without a thought about being gay and after one chance viewing of some porn it all came out....odd stuff...

 

[overthetop]

I was completely straight until about 19 when I had some sex dreams about men. Now I am into dudes and girls. Even though I still have only been with girls in real life, I would like to try it with a guy at some point.

 

[Female]

cincygay, how do you know your not bi?

 

[evanrick]

thats hot. do you wish you never saw it?

 

[blackbeltninja]

That's a very strange story. I think most of us had thoughts about it before seeing it!

I'm a little confused, though - how do you accidentally view gay porn? Someone put the wrong dvd into a box they loaned you, or what?

-d-

 

[biguy732]

Hmm...accidentally viewed some gay porn? Really, accidentally?

 

[alli-berri]

I have a similar story to yours, except I'm presently at an earlier stage. I'm twenty-one now, and have been bi for the last two years - and considered myself straight before then. I'd always hooked up with guys (since fifth grade!), but never thought anything of it. Finally, I had my "straight dream come true" - a threesome with two girls. It was pretty revolting, and without the Viagra I don't know what I'd have done! (Needing Viagra should have been a red flag to begin with.) I knew that something was up (well...), so I managed to schedule a hook-up with a guy that I'd always fantasized about - we were roommates three years ago, and I touched myself to him almost every night. I couldn't believe he agreed to spend a night together after being apart for so long, but let's just say I had something special to offer him as well... So the next morning, I immediately realized that it had fulfilled me sexually more than anything I'd ever known. His cock was so beautiful! Shaved, perfectly clean. It was a dream. Unfortunately, he no longer wants to get together I'd do just about anything for that boy again. But I'm discovering there's a big sea of hot, gay men out there to swim with.

I've opened up to my friends and family that I'm bisexual, but the less and less I think about women, the more and more I think about men - I have virtually no desire to be with women at the moment!

I was concerned that since it took so long for me to realize it - maybe it wasn't true. Maybe I'm straight and confused. But if I were straight, would I be compelled to suck cocks? Wouldn't I miss eating pussy? You seem to be pretty content with your decision, but either way rest assured that you're not the only late lane-changer - reading about guys like you is very reassuring for me, anyway

 

[cincygay2506]

uh the internet is filled with mislabled porn, i have never watched porn on anything but the internet

 

[alli-berri]

did you imagine what it would be like before you watched that video? perhaps even subconsciously, I mean.

 

[runner]

I was straight until I was in my 40's. Being dissatisfied with sex at home, I began to frequent video porn shops. There I sampled all the straight movies and then began to take a look at gay films too. Some of the booths had glory holes in them...and well, you probably know the rest. I discovered the joys of having sex with other men.

 

[bananas15]

Finally, I had my "straight dream come true" - a threesome with two girls. It was pretty revolting, and without the Viagra I don't know what I'd have done! (Needing Viagra should have been a red flag to begin with.)

No offense, but...what? You identify as bisexual? After reading that, I began calling you Liberace in my head.

 

[Kyanimal]

I knew I liked Guys since I was ... what? ... Conscious???

But, being a "Good" Preacher's Son, I did what was expected of me and ran around with all the girls. Besides, it was also the "naughty" thing to do!

Anything involving Human bodies was absolutely "Sinful", so, of course, THAT's what got my attention! However, I never had Real Sex until I was away from Home, at college! (And, it so happened that a Guy was my first successful "conquest"! )

But, I kept UP with, and thoroughly enjoyed more than my "fair" share of girls! (Nearly married five, or six, of them! ) And that continued into my late 20's! (With a few Guys thrown in, here and there. )

Though my story isn't like yours, my point is, no matter what our "normal orientation" might be, most of us don't fully realize it until we reach a stage where we're willing to fully accept it. Like a previous poster said, our true sexuality is something that we discover. (It just happened to take me a lot of Experimenting! )

If I were You, I wouldn't worry about it, too much. Be true to Your Heart, and, as "they" say, "Go with the Flow"!!

And, yeah! ... no matter what ...

Keep smilin'!!
Chaz

(My own first experience with two girls, also Preacher's Kids, and sisters, by the way, didn't require Viagra, which hadn't been invented yet. )

 

[alli-berri]

Though my story isn't like yours, my point is, no matter what our "normal orientation" might be, most of us don't fully realize it until we reach a stage where we're willing to fully accept it. Like a previous poster said, our true sexuality is something that we discover. (It just happened to take me a lot of Experimenting! )

Agree 100%

(My own first experience with two girls, also Preacher's Kids, and sisters, by the way, didn't require Viagra, which hadn't been invented yet. )

Sisters?? You dog, you.

No offense, but...what? You identify as bisexual? After reading that, I began calling you Liberace in my head.

Lol yes, I could see where this is sounding confusing.

I mostly maintain that I'm bisexual because there's still a large part of me that hasn't separated from his heterosexual identity.

I attended Catholic school as a boy grrr, and at the time only understood marriage/one's future to include a man and a woman, together, which always scared me (I once considered PRIESTHOOD to justify my never marrying a lady ). It wasn't until I was 17 that I discovered Queer As Folk, and SAW and FELT that successful, adult males allegedly lived together and had successful (or unsuccessful) relationships. And they were hot! That's when I knew. But coming out was a nightmare, and I was so turned off by my peers' negative response (my parents didn't even believe me), that I QUICKLY jumped back in the closet, and repressed any desire to come back out until now.

I hate to say this, but I can be something of a hopeless romantic. So many years of accepting women as potential lovers (but not necessarily enjoying the sex), has left me with little choice but to at least consider that one may come along and be a potential match.

Hence, as aforementioned, I have yet to be entirely separated from a heterosexual identity. Seven years of Catholic school and three years of straight-up repression is making "bisexuality" a very necessary transition phase, for me personally. I've learned that other folks can cast away their straight past much more easily, but me I'm taking it slow .

A note, I only put "bisexual" on this forum - many of my friends know me as a gay man. I've taken a gay friend's advice to "fake it until you make it" (I'm guessing something he picked up in AA), but on JUB I wish to make no attempt at "faking" anything. I'm in-transition, and completely OK with that!

 

[coldsweat]

I have a similar story to yours, except I'm presently at an earlier stage. I'm twenty-one now, and have been bi for the last two years - and considered myself straight before then. I'd always hooked up with guys (since fifth grade!), but never thought anything of it. Finally, I had my "straight dream come true" - a threesome with two girls. It was pretty revolting, and without the Viagra I don't know what I'd have done! (Needing Viagra should have been a red flag to begin with.) I knew that something was up (well...), so I managed to schedule a hook-up with a guy that I'd always fantasized about - we were roommates three years ago, and I touched myself to him almost every night. I couldn't believe he agreed to spend a night together after being apart for so long, but let's just say I had something special to offer him as well... So the next morning, I immediately realized that it had fulfilled me sexually more than anything I'd ever known. His cock was so beautiful! Shaved, perfectly clean. It was a dream. Unfortunately, he no longer wants to get together I'd do just about anything for that boy again. But I'm discovering there's a big sea of hot, gay men out there to swim with.

I've opened up to my friends and family that I'm bisexual, but the less and less I think about women, the more and more I think about men - I have virtually no desire to be with women at the moment!

I was concerned that since it took so long for me to realize it - maybe it wasn't true. Maybe I'm straight and confused. But if I were straight, would I be compelled to suck cocks? Wouldn't I miss eating pussy? You seem to be pretty content with your decision, but either way rest assured that you're not the only late lane-changer - reading about guys like you is very reassuring for me, anyway

Not once in that post did you mention that you might be gay. Only that you were straight, then you considered yourself bi. You say you have virtually no interest in women at the moment, only in men. Yet you still stay you might be straight and confused.


face it guy, you're gay.

 

[alli-berri]

ace it guy, you're gay.

OK... but when I'm good and ready!

 

[slnattak]

There was no gay or straight identities or labels back in the day. It was just more about natural eroticism. Of course society and culture will understandably encourage heterosexuality over homosexuality cause it's more concerned with the 'greater good of mankind' then individual pleasure. And most people prefer long-term companionship with females because females on average tend to be more nurturing and empathetic and caring.

I used to be straight too. But technically we're all just 'queer' and turned on by anything that's naturally hot- hetero or homo, our DNA relating to the bonobo a lot. I mean an animal isn't overly identifying itself it's just doing what its instincts tell it do. And that can be women and men sometime, or just men or just women sometime etc. Most human males are exactly the same way.

 

[mike_n_herrin]

OK... but when I'm good and ready!

labeling yourself one thing or another isn't the important thing here. it's that you are ok with whatever you decide you are attracted to and want to be with.

 

[conrad]

Why not just think positively? If you relate as a friend to another guy, fine; if at some point you confirm your feelings for one another in sexual activity, that's fine too. But think of it as one adventure on your journey into the fullness of your sexuality. You don't need a label to discover that love with both males and females can be real'

In my own experience the love that made the sexual communion possible has continued long after the sex ended. I loved that new guy in town then and I love him still. Together we discovered a part of our sexuality that we had never even considered before.

 

[Críostóir]

Everyone is different. I figured out I was gay when I started looking up the names all the other little boys were calling me in grade school. Then when I was 11, I sucked a dick for the first time!

But also, I'd been fascinated by other boys' asses before that...as long as I can remember. (Not that I knew what I wanted to do with them exactly, but I sure liked pressing my little crotch against them.) When I hit puberty this became an obsession. So I was not only born gay, but a top!

 

[bankside]

I think it is good when people find new adventure in their sex lives as long as they're smart about it. Congratulations on finding something to enjoy about men. Men! We're pretty awesome aren't we?