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Re: I Usually Expect To Communicate with my Boyfri
You call him your boyfriend?
You call him your boyfriend?
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Ramindra
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Re: I Usually Expect To Communicate with my Boyfri
With regard to "getting the boot", why do I suspect that he has already given you "the boot"? He seems to be giving you lots of overt messages that he is not as interested in you as perhaps he once was.
With regard to "getting the boot", why do I suspect that he has already given you "the boot"? He seems to be giving you lots of overt messages that he is not as interested in you as perhaps he once was.
Re: I Usually Expect To Communicate with my Boyfri
It's time for a heart-to-heart with Mr. Busy. Good luck with this, and I hope it resolves to your satisfaction. Either way, you definitely deserve answers.
I'd have to agree. He is not acting like a boyfriend anymore. He's acting like someone who has broken up with you and forgotten to tell you.
It's time for a heart-to-heart with Mr. Busy. Good luck with this, and I hope it resolves to your satisfaction. Either way, you definitely deserve answers.
Xenos Morphe
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Re: I Usually Expect To Communicate with my Boyfri
No offense intended but you seem to be really needy and high maintenance to me. I've never played World of Warcraft, but if my boyfriend liked it so much I would. Be a fun way to connect long distance and show some interest instead of criticizing his hobbies. I'd say back off and give him some space but it may be to late for that. I sincerely hope it works out for you two.
No offense intended but you seem to be really needy and high maintenance to me. I've never played World of Warcraft, but if my boyfriend liked it so much I would. Be a fun way to connect long distance and show some interest instead of criticizing his hobbies. I'd say back off and give him some space but it may be to late for that. I sincerely hope it works out for you two.
silentalk
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First of all I have to say I don't think that you're needy. The way you feel is normal, and I'd probably feel the same way, maybe even worse.
But this confuses me. At first I was going to ask the same thing atomw7 asked: you call him your boyfriend? But then I accidentally came across your thread where you mention that WONDERFUL letter he wrote you. It was soooo romantic. The way he acted when you told him that you didn't feel the same way about him could only be the reaction of someone in love or with a HUGE crush. Now, something might have changed. I'm not sure, but I'd say it could be that he fell out of love.
One more thing. I had a bf a few years back. He used to play this PC game all the time except when I went to his place. He was addicted to the game, but he'd leave the PC and spend time with me without me even asking. His younger brother said that he'd leave the game ONLY if I or his best friend were there. A game is never nearly as important as the one you love. Yes, you should give him space, but if he prefers the game most of the time, he doesn't deserve you.
First of all I have to say I don't think that you're needy. The way you feel is normal, and I'd probably feel the same way, maybe even worse.
But this confuses me. At first I was going to ask the same thing atomw7 asked: you call him your boyfriend? But then I accidentally came across your thread where you mention that WONDERFUL letter he wrote you. It was soooo romantic. The way he acted when you told him that you didn't feel the same way about him could only be the reaction of someone in love or with a HUGE crush. Now, something might have changed. I'm not sure, but I'd say it could be that he fell out of love.
One more thing. I had a bf a few years back. He used to play this PC game all the time except when I went to his place. He was addicted to the game, but he'd leave the PC and spend time with me without me even asking. His younger brother said that he'd leave the game ONLY if I or his best friend were there. A game is never nearly as important as the one you love. Yes, you should give him space, but if he prefers the game most of the time, he doesn't deserve you.
KennyD
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Re: I Usually Expect To Communicate with my Boyfri
COMMUNICATION ; Honest, down home Talking ... Try It !
If isn't receptive to it ..then he really isn't your b/F anymore ....
The ONLY way for a relationship to WORK is for BOTH persons to talk to each other and let each other know how they feel etc ... if you don't do that ... Look elsewhere ..
COMMUNICATION ; Honest, down home Talking ... Try It !
If isn't receptive to it ..then he really isn't your b/F anymore ....
The ONLY way for a relationship to WORK is for BOTH persons to talk to each other and let each other know how they feel etc ... if you don't do that ... Look elsewhere ..
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Re: I Usually Expect To Communicate with my Boyfri
I'd say the best thing to do is talk to him, just like the others said. You might hear something you might not like, but at least you'll hopefully know what's going on.
One more thing, when you talk to him, remind him of the letter. Ask him if what he felt was true, and why it changed.
I'd say the best thing to do is talk to him, just like the others said. You might hear something you might not like, but at least you'll hopefully know what's going on.
One more thing, when you talk to him, remind him of the letter. Ask him if what he felt was true, and why it changed.
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Hey Volcom,
Mate, sometimes things do change quickly in a realtionship and its hard to figure out why. There can be no signs or warning but all of a sudden things change - its the way some guys work.
My guess is that your bf had a bit of a fright with either the holiday you shared or at some other time. All of a sudden hes realized that this life he wanted to lead with you is real... and my guess hes either frightened or trying to figure out if this is what he really wants.
In reality this has nothing to do with you. The old saying "be careful what you wish for" often rings true when part way through a relationship one or the other realizes that there are commitments, obligations and consequences to that realtionship. Ideally these things should be fun and initially they are, but when someone starts to feel like other parts of their life are suffering thats when they pull back.
Its a balancing act Volcom... somehow you guys have to learn to balance the lives you had before and the one you share now. You need to talk to him quickly and sort this out because once this mind set takes hold that his life is suffering because of his commitments to you its too late.
Both of you guys need to find a way to share some time but also have the freedom to live part of your life the way you used to. Being in a relationship doesn't mean monopolizing each others time... but the initial rush and thrill can make it seem that way.
Sadly though mate if you leave this unchecked I think it will fester away and be the end of your realtionship. Its time you talked openly and frankly the way you have here and that the 2 of you figured out how to commit to each other without closing off the rest of your lives.
You deserve happiness and a realtionship that fulfills you and completes you Volcom. If your bf cant provide that for you in a way that you are happy with, you owe it to yourself to move on. You are worth both love and happiness.
Hey Volcom,
Mate, sometimes things do change quickly in a realtionship and its hard to figure out why. There can be no signs or warning but all of a sudden things change - its the way some guys work.
My guess is that your bf had a bit of a fright with either the holiday you shared or at some other time. All of a sudden hes realized that this life he wanted to lead with you is real... and my guess hes either frightened or trying to figure out if this is what he really wants.
In reality this has nothing to do with you. The old saying "be careful what you wish for" often rings true when part way through a relationship one or the other realizes that there are commitments, obligations and consequences to that realtionship. Ideally these things should be fun and initially they are, but when someone starts to feel like other parts of their life are suffering thats when they pull back.
Its a balancing act Volcom... somehow you guys have to learn to balance the lives you had before and the one you share now. You need to talk to him quickly and sort this out because once this mind set takes hold that his life is suffering because of his commitments to you its too late.
Both of you guys need to find a way to share some time but also have the freedom to live part of your life the way you used to. Being in a relationship doesn't mean monopolizing each others time... but the initial rush and thrill can make it seem that way.
Sadly though mate if you leave this unchecked I think it will fester away and be the end of your realtionship. Its time you talked openly and frankly the way you have here and that the 2 of you figured out how to commit to each other without closing off the rest of your lives.
You deserve happiness and a realtionship that fulfills you and completes you Volcom. If your bf cant provide that for you in a way that you are happy with, you owe it to yourself to move on. You are worth both love and happiness.
Diodorus
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Re: I Usually Expect To Communicate with my Boyfri
Happy upcoming birthday,,unless it's already past.(I didn't check the thread post dates) In which case hope you had a great one.
Happy upcoming birthday,,unless it's already past.(I didn't check the thread post dates) In which case hope you had a great one.
thisisinteresting
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Re: I Usually Expect To Communicate with my Boyfri
Dude. You cannot complain about someone playing WoW for four hours a day. You're lucky that anyone you know who plays the game only plays it four hours in a day.
Dude. You cannot complain about someone playing WoW for four hours a day. You're lucky that anyone you know who plays the game only plays it four hours in a day.
evil_danger
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Re: I Usually Expect To Communicate with my Boyfri
There is something wrong, as its been said it sounds like hes left the relationship and just didn't tell you.
He does sound like hes one of those people who like to keep themselves to themselves, if I were in your situation I would stop making the effort to talk to him and let him come to you, which he should do if there is anything of him left in the relationship.
As for you friend getting involved, thats not helping anyone, if I was in his situation and I had a partner, the last thing I would want would be their best friend in my face claiming there was a problem, it would make me feel embarrassed that my personal life was being spoken about. Fair enough you're allowed to talk things out, I actually spent today listening to my best friend moan about her boyfriend (also a close friend of mine) but the last thing I would do is go up to him and say "yo, I hear your not talking to your girlfriend" or words to that effect.
Basically hes not responding to conversation or contact of any sort, step back, let him come to you and go from there.
Good luck and hope that things work out for whats best for both of you.
There is something wrong, as its been said it sounds like hes left the relationship and just didn't tell you.
He does sound like hes one of those people who like to keep themselves to themselves, if I were in your situation I would stop making the effort to talk to him and let him come to you, which he should do if there is anything of him left in the relationship.
As for you friend getting involved, thats not helping anyone, if I was in his situation and I had a partner, the last thing I would want would be their best friend in my face claiming there was a problem, it would make me feel embarrassed that my personal life was being spoken about. Fair enough you're allowed to talk things out, I actually spent today listening to my best friend moan about her boyfriend (also a close friend of mine) but the last thing I would do is go up to him and say "yo, I hear your not talking to your girlfriend" or words to that effect.
Basically hes not responding to conversation or contact of any sort, step back, let him come to you and go from there.
Good luck and hope that things work out for whats best for both of you.
evil_danger
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Re: I Usually Expect To Communicate with my Boyfri
Sometimes it's the only way, I mean texting him isn't working, and it sounded like he was blanking you.
That was just how I read it anyway but still it probably wasn't comfortable for him when Jane got in his face.
Hope the talk goes well, hope he's got some answers for you.
Sometimes it's the only way, I mean texting him isn't working, and it sounded like he was blanking you.
That was just how I read it anyway but still it probably wasn't comfortable for him when Jane got in his face.
Hope the talk goes well, hope he's got some answers for you.
windgates
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Re: I Usually Expect To Communicate with my Boyfri
If I had a boyfriend that played WoW I'd get him to join my server and twink him out and get him in my raid so fast and get him as addicted as I am!
... (I'm sick, I know)
Seriously though, hes not treating you like a boyfriend should and I think you're making the right decision.
If I had a boyfriend that played WoW I'd get him to join my server and twink him out and get him in my raid so fast and get him as addicted as I am!
... (I'm sick, I know)Seriously though, hes not treating you like a boyfriend should and I think you're making the right decision.
silentalk
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Hey... it's okay...
If you don't want to break up with him, then you should consider what he wants to do. If he feels the same way, there's no reason to break up!
And Happy B day!
Hey... it's okay...
If you don't want to break up with him, then you should consider what he wants to do. If he feels the same way, there's no reason to break up!
And Happy B day!
Xenos Morphe
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Re: I Usually Expect To Communicate with my Boyfri
"They" say that sex is the best way to ruin a friendship. Good to hear you beat the odds. Coming out can put your life under a microscope to those you come out to. Some of them will never recover from it. Big changes either way. Belated Happy Birthday, btw.
"They" say that sex is the best way to ruin a friendship. Good to hear you beat the odds. Coming out can put your life under a microscope to those you come out to. Some of them will never recover from it. Big changes either way. Belated Happy Birthday, btw.
Re: I Usually Expect To Communicate with my Boyfri
man, it's like you've had the exact same stuff going on as i have the past couple of weeks, thought i was the only one who would go through stuff like that....sorry that things didn't work out....things didn't work out for me and my ex either.......
man, it's like you've had the exact same stuff going on as i have the past couple of weeks, thought i was the only one who would go through stuff like that....sorry that things didn't work out....things didn't work out for me and my ex either.......
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Martkell2007
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Why not just give him a little space? Sometimes that's all I want and every time ive had a boyfriend he freaked out when I didnt feel like talking to him ever day for an hour. Relationships are exhausting, esp when they don't "level off." Every relationship needs to level off or it will run itself in the ground, quick.
Why not just give him a little space? Sometimes that's all I want and every time ive had a boyfriend he freaked out when I didnt feel like talking to him ever day for an hour. Relationships are exhausting, esp when they don't "level off." Every relationship needs to level off or it will run itself in the ground, quick.