I Want a Down-Low Brotha!

[BabiGayPimp]

There! I've said it. It's not polictically correct. It's not ethical. But it is what it is. All summer, I've been seeing hot black men on both sides of the border. And the sultry looks they sometimes shoot back sometimes give me pause.

I know, as surely as I know my own name that they would be up for some DL action if the circumstances were right. And those circumstances almost got right at a family reunion/picnic over the summer. I will have to tell about that brush burn some time. Talk about being "grazed by a bullet." Lawdy!

But seriously, I have no issue with keeping things undercover if the man has interests (and a reputation) to protect. I've gone that route before and would go again. Because it was hot.

I think if we want to operate in certain circles, we may have to make some compromises?

Would you be willing to be a dark man's secret (or a man's dark secret) if the getting was good enough?

 

[fetaby]

I think if we want to operate in certain circles, we may have to make some compromises?Key word, want.

Would you be willing to be a dark man's secret (or a man's dark secret) if the getting was good enough?

No.

 

[SilverWolf]

Nope. I'm not desperate enough to be some coward's weekend flame on the side while he plays "Leave it to Beaver" during the rest of the week.

Good for you.

And for your question, i'm not willing to go back in the closet with anyone from any color.

Well said Moe and Elegant.


I don't see the appeal in being some tight hole/secret for a "discreet" down low, closeted (take your pick) person to fuck whenever the pussy is not available.

And could I not see the appeal in having to hide our relationship to protect his "reputation" or relationship/marriage. Some things are more important.

 

[sixthson]

But seriously, I have no issue with keeping things undercover if the man has interests (and a reputation) to protect.

We all have reputations. The question is why would you want to be with someone whose reputation is based on a lie?

 

[LilBit]

I've never been with a guy on the DL, but I have been the "other woman." Never again will I be someone's sweet piece of ass on the side. If you want to be with me, then you have to be with ME, not me and your wife, or me and your boyfriend, or me and three flaxen-haired altar boys.

 

[BFizzle]

Go 'head, BGP.

 

[Nomenclature]

I don't see the appeal in being some tight hole/secret for a "discreet" down low, closeted (take your pick) person to fuck whenever the pussy is not available.

And could I not see the appeal in having to hide our relationship to protect his "reputation" or relationship/marriage. Some things are more important.

It's the "forbidden fruit" syndrome; it's something exciting and different for many people to be in a forbidden romance. Many girls who are "the other woman" love to fight for his affection, and feel like they're in competition with the man's "official" partner.

It can be same thing with gay men who see closeted men.



That, and many gay men grow up being attracted to the men they're around on a daily basis: masculine straight men. It's a fantasy that builds up in their head for years, so it's a sexual fulfillment for them to act on it with an average, masculine straight guy.

 

[geloge]

Maybe for a hook up but not for a relationship. After some years I got bored to be discreet.

 

[ChickenGuy]

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[BabiGayPimp]

I think some of us say things in the light of day that conceal what we practice in the dark of night.

When you see a dude looking at you like this one below, your principles will drop along with your drawers!

Honey, for this I will keep secrets and tell lies. Wouldn't you?

I met once a month with a dude that looked like this at a Toronto bathhouse, on and off, for about a year. And I LOVED it!!!!! I even liked hearing about his woman and their private issues. He was very considerate, but discretion was a must.

 

[SilverWolf]

I think some of us say things in the light of day that conceal what we practice in the dark of night.

When you see a dude looking at you like this one below, your principles will drop along with your drawers!

Honey, for this I will keep secrets and tell lies. Wouldn't you?

I met once a month with a dude that looked like this at a Toronto bathhouse, on and off, for about a year. And I LOVED it!!!!! I even liked hearing about his woman and their private issues.

Doesn't do a thing for me.
But hey, if this is enough for you to be someone's dirty little secret, go for it.

 

[Hot White Trash]

That man can have everything I own! Dayum.

 

[bankside]

I would......but.....

I have interests and a reputation to protect.

 

[LilBit]

Oh, dear. Apparently y'all didn't get the memo. BGP is allowed to tell us who we should and shouldn't be attracted to, but we are NEVER allowed to question his sexual proclivities.

 

[KindredKian]

I don't care how much muscle you have, how butch and tough you look or think you are.

If you're a grown ass man hiding your love for cock because you think it'll ruin your reputation, you ain't shit. Period. Take that and stuff it into a tank top.

I agree 100%.

 

[mbamike]

Would you be willing to be a dark man's secret (or a man's dark secret) if the getting was good enough?

Yes!

My current guy is a "dark man!" He is awesome!

 

[kayman23]

Uh, no. BGP, where I grew up that is ALL there was amongst most gay/bisexual men (but particularly of the black males). I grown to DESPISE guys like that with a passion. The paranoid, schizophrenic nature of those types gets old very quick because you see a grown ass black man tripping over some trivial bullshit. The whole concern over others' opinion of their personal lives is beyond juvenile and shows that he is a very weak person.

I want an open, honest, mature-minded black male that doesn't give a damn about others' opinion of him (except for the ones he love and care for).

BGP, if you haven't had a good, masculine black male in a minute do to your location (I presume is still Toronto) then you need to try to go somewhere in the everyday world or online on where black gay/bi males congregate. You sound like you are in dire need of a decent, masculine male for whom you can be with sexually...

 

[BabiGayPimp]

Well I have a full enough public gay life populated with the usual (out) suspects. Or maybe not. But, I don't see what's wrong with dabbling in a little discrete sideline with some of my (in) brothas who need love and are willing to give it, under certain conditions. Isn't love and sex a cluster of negotiations and compromises anyway?

 

[BabiGayPimp]

Oh, dear. Apparently y'all didn't get the memo. BGP is allowed to tell us who we should and shouldn't be attracted to, but we are NEVER allowed to question his sexual proclivities.

Sugar, I would entertain a conga line of down-low brothas before considering a "transman." Gay is gay, and I don't know what that other thing is. It's not for us. "On the night before Christmas, when the chitlins are cooking. Anyone one of us without a man lined up, needs to start looking."

 

[bankside]

Whatever, transmen imo still have a bigger set of balls than the closet urchins you're chasing.

You know, sometimes it's not just "in your opinion," it's just a fact.