I Want Him, Waaaaaaah

[The_Reaper]

As some of you may know, I recently got a part time job.

I didn't get the job looking or hoping to stumble across some attractive co-workers, but apparently I've gotten a few of them.

Despite this, there are maybe 6 guys which are incredibly attractive...But, only one who impresses me.

Since his name is rather generic, I won't worry about posting his first name; which is Adam.

Anyways, when I got called in for a shift I wasn't scheduled for last weekend...Adam was working, and it was the first time we got to work together...Although, I was bartendering and he was just a lounge worker. But from time to time he would pop behind the bar and take over for a little bit.

This led to a nice little conversation between the two of us, the introduction of pleasantries...Even though I already had committed his name to memory so he didn't have to give me his name.

We talked about how we both hate weddings, and agreed that there's too many happy people at weddings. He said he'd rather work a funeral, which provided a nice laugh for both of us. And I commented it wasn't the happy people that bothered me, rather the happy couple. He nodded in agreement, then ended up getting pulled away to go do some more lounge duties. We never got to talk again for the rest of the night.

Anyways, I go in early today and surprise surprise he's working the shift before me. So, he hangs around outside the main banquet hall with me for a bit as we talk about what's going on for the event and make some jokes at the expense of the blueblooded rich investors in the next room. But perhaps the best part of it, he actually remembered my name...

So, he gives me his radio for the night as he gets ready to leave..His marker, and a so forth. So we go down to the storage room so I can get a set of keys, and we're joined in the elevator by a few other people.

Despite the room in the elevator, Adam remained somewhat close to me rather than a more open space.

As we walked, he also told me about a few tasks that needed to be done rather than any of the other guys. So we get to the main office and wait for him to be allowed to leave and for me to get my keys.

My other shift worker and myself are told to double count two money trays, and despite him being allowed to leave, Adam stays to help me count my tray.

Anyways, I also noticed a few glances from him over in my general direction...Or at least I think they were glances in my direction, I certainly know I was glancing in his.

So now I'm torn between two very stupid areas:

1.) He's being friendly and just making sure that I know what needs to be done, despite us both being hired at the same time. (so he doesn't have any seniority above me.)

2.) Maybe, just maybe...He's interested in me in some way.

Just to refresh memories, this is also the guy who made this comment:

After I complained about people not going to the male bartender, and then the bride and her bride maids coming for tequllia shots from me...He turns to me and says:

"And you said no one goes to the male bartender. Those girls were all like, (Falsetto voice) Ooooh, Mr. Sexy Bartender."

So, he has driven me to a loop before.


Thoughts, suggestions, comments?

Or does anyone wish to bitchslap me back into reality and say he's only being friendly?

 

[argomac]

It sounds promising! However I would agree that you may be reading into it. If he's just being friendly, then what's the harm, he sounds like a great guy, and you get a great new friend out of it. If he is interested, even better for you. Awoohoo. WHat you have is a win/win situation. What's the trouble?!
Don't push the curiosity. Don't give him a reason to back off, let him hang around, let him chat with you etc, and see where it goes. I think if he is interested you'll soon know. Perhaps he's having the exact same thoughts about you!

 

[Nonimus]

^^ What the lady said - and hope all goes well!

 

[argomac]

^^^ Lady?!

 

[Nonimus]

Sorry, the whole Jessica Fletcher thing threw me there...

 

[kotosal]

Don't mix work and love/sex.

 

[Chinesemontreal]

It all sounds very promising BUT, it's easy to convince yourself that there is more going on than there really is when you find someone attractive.

I've been in similar situations several times over the years, sadly more often than not they have turned out to just be friendly straight guys. Couple of times they weren't though .

I hope that it's the latter for you in this case

Yup, that's what i want to say.

 

[Spiff]

Maybe he kept glancing at you because he was watching out for the new guy handling the company money . . . ?

 

[Nonimus]

Maybe he kept glancing at you because he was watching out for the new guy handling the company money . . . ?

Yeah, kick the guy when he's down why don't you.

 

[sheep]

There is an old line "don't get your meat where you get your bread". Having said that, what could possibly be wrong with inviting a co-worker out for a drink after work?

 

[Rand]

There is an old line "don't get your meat where you get your bread". Having said that, what could possibly be wrong with inviting a co-worker out for a drink after work?

out-side of work sounds like a great idea - get to know him and see if there are more common interests

be a friend first and always

 

[sheep]

out-side of work sounds like a great idea - get to know him and see if there are more common interests

be a friend first and always

....and then give him a blow job just to show you care...

 

[SilverRRCloud]

Yeah. I would be also reluctant to mix work with sex, bread with meat, whatever.

Yet, we are not talking someone having a position of power and influence trying to gain sexual favors from someone, who might not be his peer. No disrespect meant, but we are also not talking jobs that require national security clearance either. I do not see much of a problem here.

Only Adam really knows, what Adam thinks. Nuf said.

At times, str8 dudes are just so forthcoming and helpful that they even manage to mess up the best gaydars. Why? Who knows? Some of it might be just playing out a deeply buried instinct, a desire to get some more support at work, even pushing some agenda that might not be that obvious at first.

Yeah, he just might be 'curious'.

He also might be as gay as they get but not willing to let everyone know, being new at this job and all...

So, you tread cautiously, make friends and talk. And you pick it up from there.


SC

 

[GL]

Hey Scott. There may or may not be something there with your co-worker. The only way you will really know is if and when you both get to know one another. I suspect that once he knows you're out you will find an answer fairly quick. I hope its in your favor.

 

[mac_twck]

Don't dip your quill in company ink.

 

[Muscles4daze]

I think the way to tell is this: If a guy specifically asks you to spend time with him, he's interested in you. If he doesn't specifically make that request, he's just being friendly or polite. It's when they ask you to spend time with them, that is a clear indication that they are interested.

Yeah I agree, if he invites you to hang out then you may have an interest in you. The "sexy" comment would have raised a brow with me too though.

 

[The_Reaper]

I'm still confused, and I do have to agree with a lot of the things said here.

If he isn't on the level, then one of us would have to quit considering the odds of sharing shifts are pretty high.

If he is, there is also the chance that he's not interested and just being friendly and then there's an awkward thing with the two gay guys at work...Especially when one is attracted to the other without reciprocation.

The thing is, I have been toying with the idea of asking him out for coffee or drinks after work...

But the next time we work together, we also share a shift with the guy who does have seniority over both of us. And if it's a large event, and a fair amount of us are working, he usually suggests hitting a bar.

Adam went with them last time, a night I didn't work, and apparently he's a bit of a lightweight when it comes to drinking.

The thing is, I'm surprised I even worked up the courage to chat with Adam in the first place. Going out with all the co-workers would be nerveracking, even if alcohol is involved... (Mainly because I tighten up to prevent the "By the way, I'm gay" comment from slipping out.)

But asking just him out for drinks would be a pretty clear indication of something, I think...Reguardless of how innocently I ask him.

Of course, to add fire to the inferno, I have another option I don't wish to execute.

Due to the nature of the job, we have a contact list that gives us the phone numbers of all the people we work with.

Although tempting, it would highly inappropriate to use this list to contact him to find out if he wanted to do something that day (like go to the mall or whatever.).....Right?

 

[sheep]

Of course, to add fire to the inferno, I have another option I don't wish to execute.

Due to the nature of the job, we have a contact list that gives us the phone numbers of all the people we work with.

Although tempting, it would highly inappropriate to use this list to contact him to find out if he wanted to do something that day (like go to the mall or whatever.).....Right?

Don't go there! That would be inappropriate. But its OK if he does