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I want to come out, but I dont

chobbs said:
No, there probably isnt the "right" time, but there are times when I feel it is appropriate. Of course, if I were out to the world as you are, I wouldn't give a fuck who knew about me and when they found out.

I am just going through this at my own pace, and if you have a negative opinion about that you are more than welcome to share it, but I doubt it will make a difference.
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Um.. ok.

why so defensive?

I'm not sure that telling you that there is never going to be a "right" time is a "negative opinion." It's pretty much just the conclusion that I came to when I was looking for the right time.

You think I was born wearing a rainbow necklace? (not that I'd ever wear anything that tacky... but i digress)

Of course there's "wrong" times but in my experience there's seldom a "right" one.
 
alright.

So I came out to my other friend last night, and he also was awesome about it.

FUCK YEAH
 
Good for you.

It's seldom the big deal to them as it is to us.

And we get that euphoric feeling of having that weight off our shoulders.
 
congrats chobbs! i'm glad that your stepping out.

you just have to go at your own pace...
 
Congratulations Chobbs! What an accomplishment! That is sooo cool.

I'm glad you are having positive experiences and that your friends are supportive. You are a very brave guy and I think you'll reap the rewards for that bravery.

Oh, and I noticed that you changed your orientation to Gay recently. Sounds like you're quietly coming to terms with your sexuality. ..|
 
awww....how touching

*im not being sarcastic if thats what it sounds like*
 
choobs u pretty much summed up everything im goin through.

i almost did today but just couldnt coz she had enough on her plate with her family but ive decided tomorrow is the day!

congrats bro!
 
congratulations Choobs! you've taken some big steps, and it's all downhill from here.

I grew up in a pretty small-minded conservative town where it was not a good idea to come out, so I didn't. I had to move to Toronto before I felt like I was in an environment where it was "safe" to come out. I went through everything you described, and it was just a matter of me getting to a point where I could break through that mental barrier you talked about. You have to be able to come out to yourself before you can come out to everyone else. In my experience, everyone was great about it, and I don't think anyone was really surprised.

The point is coming out is highly personal and only you know when you're ready. Now that you've got those first steps behind you, you can really get on with living and enjoying your life!
 
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