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PalacePaul

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This is one of those evenings when I feel lonely and I wish I could go out, meet nice guys and finally date someone. But the only way to meet guys in this boring place is sitting in front of your computer for hours and I've already given up on this.

Sorry, I just had to tell someone.
 
I know, it gets very depressing when there isn't much of a choice.

What kind of date are you looking for?

A hug for you (*8*)
 
You could just go out and meet people the old fashioned way. Go to bars, parks, anywhere there are cute guys..

If you stay home and wait for some guy to fall into your lap, you're going to cycle through being lonely forever.

Don't wait.
 
As someone said in another thread, the kind of guys who make the first move and start a conversation have more friends and more sex than the shy ones. Unfortunately I'm on the shy team.
 
tarallucci said:
I know, it gets very depressing when there isn't much of a choice.

What kind of date are you looking for?

A hug for you (*8*)
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Thank you tarallucci(*8*) My ideal date would be just having a romantic dinner with a guy I like.
 
On the shy note, I'm also very shy and couldn't look people in the eye for many years.

A friend gave me this advice: Talk to people you don't care about. Make it a habit to practice small talk with at least 5 people a day.
Even if it's just asking how their day is.
It sucks at first and you will feel really nervous, but it will grow to be a skill that makes talking to cute guys much easier. :) You can even compliment a guy on his looks if you want to be flirty. Little things count.
 
It's a good advice, but I don't have much problem with small talk (anymore). Just this morning I helped a lady at the supermarket and asked for advice at the drugstore. But I can't see this situations leading further. Even if the cashier was a cute guy :(
 
vidarr said:
On the shy note, I'm also very shy and couldn't look people in the eye for many years.

A friend gave me this advice: Talk to people you don't care about. Make it a habit to practice small talk with at least 5 people a day.
Even if it's just asking how their day is.
It sucks at first and you will feel really nervous, but it will grow to be a skill that makes talking to cute guys much easier. :) You can even compliment a guy on his looks if you want to be flirty. Little things count.
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That is exactly what a therapist would tell you. Expose yourself to the fear in a controlled manner and escalate until comfortable. Talking to a person who isn't intimidating is a great start. People see that and will be more apt to approach you.
 
offthewall14420 said:
That is exactly what a therapist would tell you. Expose yourself to the fear in a controlled manner and escalate until comfortable. Talking to a person who isn't intimidating is a great start. People see that and will be more apt to approach you.
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That is exactly what he taught me 13 years ago. The problem now is not fear.
 
There is no "gay scene" where I live, I don't know where to meet guys. And the ones I met online in the past didn't look very interesting.
 
So you're shy and make assumptions about people? These guys wouldn't even be worthy of your friendship?
 
Friends are great for having other friends who may not be publicly out or on apps.... particularly where there's no scene.
 
offthewall14420 said:
So you're shy and make assumptions about people? These guys wouldn't even be worthy of your friendship?
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All my life I've been struggling with friendship. As a teenager I felt miserable for not having friends. Over the years I've learned that I can't force people to be my friends. It just happens. We need some common ground to develop something. In my opinion, where there is no mutual interest, there can't be no friendship. If I'm not interested in someone I'd rather let him go than desperately try to be friends.
 
I understand exactly where you are coming from. I'm an extroverted introvert so functioning at work is ok but meeting people is difficult and no gay scene here also.

I probably have hundreds of acquaintances but only a handful of friends.

Hugs man!
 
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