idea for an orgasm denial club

[subobj]

So I've got a huge orgasm denial/chastity fetish, and though I'm mostly a bottom, I've got a bit of a top side as well. I also love building community with like-minded people, and I think I've stumbled across an idea that scratches all of those itches.

The idea is this. Find a group of similarly-inclined people. Each person, with the help of the others, devises a chastity contract concerning when/how/if he's allowed to cum, how often/how much edging and teasing is supposed to take place, etc. The contracts must be approved by either a majority or unanimous consensus (the group can decide ahead of time). Most contracts will only be valid for a specified duration, but if someone wants to enter into an indefinite/permanent contract, that option is there too.

Each day (or agreed-upon interval), you have to update the group on your progress. If you've failed to meet the terms of the contract, the group gets to decide your punishment and either carry it out or watch you carry it out on yourself. This part may be difficult to coordinate, so a variation would be for each person in the group to have a "brother" who is charged with deciding on and carrying-out the punishment. But in either case, the entire group must know of your failure and at least allowed to be witness (if not participate in) your punishment.

Of course all punishments must be safe/sane/consensual and limits should be discussed beforehand. But the punishments should be unpleasant enough that you regret having broken the contract and that fear of punishment (and humiliation in front of the group) motivates you to stick to the contract, no matter how horny and in need of release of you think you are.

When I started this post, I was thinking that the group would ideally meet in person, but it occurs to me it could also take place online with webcams/etc. Interested? If so, send me a message -- maybe we could make this happen!

 

[JupiterFlorida]

Interested!!!!

 

[bulge]

Great idea

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[csb999]

what a stupid and unnatural idea . Orgasms are the nicest thing that will ever happen to you .

 

[subobj]

what a stupid and unnatural idea . Orgasms are the nicest thing that will ever happen to you .

Yes. Yes they are. That's exactly why they're fun to play with in this devious way.

BTW, I think it's part of the rules of this forum that you don't go around calling other people's fetishes "stupid and unnatural."

 

[csb999]

there is a difference between postponing an orgasm for very long periods as a part of sex , karezza , and just avoiding orgasms entirely . A fetish implies an orgasm in some way uncommon or unusual , not no orgasm at all , and that is clearly what you are proposing here , a 12-step anti-sex group .

 

[csb999]

and calling this " unnatural" was quantitive rather than qualitative : if sex isn't natural I don't know what could be . Granted "stupid" was just an insult .

 

[subobj]

there is a difference between postponing an orgasm for very long periods as a part of sex , karezza , and just avoiding orgasms entirely . A fetish implies an orgasm in some way uncommon or unusual , not no orgasm at all , and that is clearly what you are proposing here , a 12-step anti-sex group .

IMO you're really reading my proposal in the most uncharitable light possible and then getting angry at the strawman your uncharitable reading inevitably generates.

I was simply proposing that a group of people who share a fetish for short or long term orgasm denial get together to a) help one another go a bit further than they'd be able to on their own (provided they want to go a bit further) and b) have some BDSM-style fun while doing it.

I don't know how you read anti-sex into this. For example, it could be part of someone's contract that they must bring a certain number of other people (not in the group, obviously) to orgasm within a certain time period. It could include things like being required to edge to the brink of orgasm every day, or it could specify that certain orgasms would be ok under certain circumstances. I was also assuming most people would make relatively short contracts, though there are probably orgasm-denial fanatics out there who would probably jump at the chance to make a long-term, indefinite, or even permanent contract (which of course would only exist for as long as the group exists).

If this sort of play troubles you, then I think you're in the wrong forum -- contracts stipulating sexual services, things to do and not do, sadistic requirements imposed by someone in authority over you . . . these are all extremely common among fetish/BDSM enthusiasts. (And I do realize there's a difference between someone with a fetish and someone who is into BDSM -- it's just that there tends to be a lot of overlap, in my experience). And hopefully this goes without saying: most people who voluntarily do these things do them because they like them and find them deeply erotic.

I suppose you could argue that the nature of BDSM itself is anti-sex, but if you want to make that case, then, again, I think you're in the wrong forum.

 

[csb999]

so what you are proposing is not then actually denial per se , a participant could have as many or even more orgasms but only under strictly maintained externally applied conditions , a sort of discipline thing ? ( BDSM being both outside my experience and inclination ) . Thinking of Orwell 1984 , The Anti-Sex League " dedicated to the destruction of the orgasm " .

 

[subobj]

so what you are proposing is not then actually denial per se , a participant could have as many or even more orgasms but only under strictly maintained externally applied conditions , a sort of discipline thing ? ( BDSM being both outside my experience and inclination )

Yes, exactly. Those details would all be spelled-out in the contract. Of course, some people (like me) would love a contract that stipulated something like "for the next 4 weeks, I am not permitted an orgasm at all, and I am required to give orgasms to at least 4 different guys, either through being fucked or sucking them off."

And for what it's worth, I feel like I should mention that I find being denied orgasm to be one of the most powerfully erotic experiences I've ever had. I was interested in it long before I worked up the nerve to try it, though -- and when I first encountered the idea, it sounded absolutely awful, something I'd have to be crazy or self-hating to try. And I may be a bit crazy, but I can assure you that there's nothing anti-sexual or self-loathing about it. It's so deeply sexual and intensely hot that I don't have words for it.

 

[KptnLine]

Subobj,

I don't know if I qualify for your group, but I 100% agree with you - orgasms are amazing things, and being denied orgasm for a certain period of time is highly erotic. You stay horny almost 24/7, and when you finally do cum, the orgasm is just that much more powerful. I am currently in a D/s situation where my orgasms are restricted. I am usually allowed to cum once every week to ten days. I never realized how much I masturbated until I stopped. I've also discovered that feeling horny for days and days before finally being allowed release is an amazing experience. Best of luck to you.

 

[subobj]

And you too, KptnLine! Glad you're discovering the joys of chastity play!

 

[otkboy]

Hi. I'm into chastity play and I find this idea very exciting.

But even better (in my opinion) would be an arrangement where all of the club members wear a chastity device and the keys are kept in a locked box at the club house. Then once a week the members get together for some sort of game with the understanding that the winner(s) will get unlocked and get to have an orgasm but the loser(s) will remain locked in their chastity device. If desired the losers could also get some sort of punishment (spanking, etc.). I suspect with rules like this guys would really play to win!!!

This sort of arrangement would even work well for just two or three guys.

 

[subobj]

Damn, that's hot, otkboy! I'm usually not too into devices, but I would totally give this game a try.

 

[bulge]

Hi. I'm into chastity play and I find this idea very exciting.

But even better (in my opinion) would be an arrangement where all of the club members wear a chastity device and the keys are kept in a locked box at the club house. Then once a week the members get together for some sort of game with the understanding that the winner(s) will get unlocked and get to have an orgasm but the loser(s) will remain locked in their chastity device. If desired the losers could also get some sort of punishment (spanking, etc.). I suspect with rules like this guys would really play to win!!!

This sort of arrangement would even work well for just two or three guys.

Yyeaaaaaaaaaaaaa, with the possibility for the winner to give it away to a looser of his choice of course.