IDK if he's straight????

[LahLow]

So there is this guy from my school, whom I have recently become friends with. We met in gym class, and I invited him to my birthday party as an ice breaker. And ever since we've been hanging out like 24/7. It's been about a month since our friendship began, and I am starting to feel attatched to him. Like I hate when we are apart.
Thing is he has a girlfriend, but I think he acts a little Bi.
I'm gonna list a few things that give me this suspicion and let me know what you think PLEASE!

1.He cries everytime he watches Toy Story 3.
2.He tells me when he cries.
3.We were at a pet store and we were looking at the puppies, he teared up and said "I'm not gonna cry" and his eyes got red and watery
4.He says he accidentally stole a "Legalize Gay Marriage" Lanyard from a store. (He's collecting Lanyards

And now everytime I seem him I just wanna hug or kiss him....PLEASE let me know what you think...Is he tottally straight? Gay? Bi?

 

[LahLow]

Anyone else ever felt like this? Or have the same Dillema?

 

[LahLow]

anyone? D=

 

[tipmyscales86]

Does he know you're gay? If not, and if you aren't ready to tell him directly, maybe strike up a conversation about gay marriage and see where it goes. If he stole the lanyard it must mean something to him.

(I'll tell you one thing about me that might relate, when I was a teenager deep in the closet, I stole a magazine from a store that had a story about gay teens on the cover. I didn't even want the cashier to know I was gay, so I stuffed it into my jacket. He might be going through something similar)

 

[evanrick]

he might not be gay, but just sensitive. i think "gay" men are more attuned to peoples feeling, and im not sure why. im sure there are 1000 reasons for this.

so he may be sensitive, and its up to you to be careful of what you do or say if you confront him about this.

i think hugging or kissing him may infact be a good idea. hes clearly struggling with "something" and your support will actually mean a lot to him, maybe enough to form a relationship, because that's what relationships are about.

if you just want him for sex, then that's a whole different story.

let me be clear! go support your friend! HE IS CRYING for gods sake!

because if it looks like he needs you, you should help him absolutely! just don't expect him to "turn gay" when he may in fact be straight. does he have to be gay as a prerequisite to help him? why would it matter if he was gay/straight?

help your friend before its too late. he is NOT getting emotional support FROM ANYONE! it IS up to you to help him IMMEDIATELY.

and please tell us how things go, you will have to track his progress, a friend in need is a friend indeed.

 

[SayWhat]

I wouldn't say that the signs above are an indication of his orientation at all.

It's becoming more and more acceptable for guys to be emotional and let down the macho man mask. It could just be that he's in touch with his feelings more than most guys.

I agree with evanrick... Go with the hugging and see how he responds. Hugs don't have to be an intimate thing, so it's easy to backtrack if he gets jumpy.

 

[shaker22]

i also agree with the hugging thing, maybe try it a couple times and then if you think it is safe to do so say something cheesy like 'this is hot' and see how he reacts - you can turn it into a joke if he reacts badly or he might respond differently. just dont get nervous and make it so obvious you are serious

another approach is to try to get him on his own and start asking about his girlfriend and his sex life. he might start telling you about what turns him on etc. dont be surprised if he talks about straight stuff, but the key is to get him to open up to you so you can get a better idea of what sort of way (or ways) he swings. it could work, but dont get your expectations too high.

trust me you are not alone!!!

 

[KaraBulut]

And now everytime I seem him I just wanna hug or kiss him....PLEASE let me know what you think...Is he tottally straight? Gay? Bi?

You can save a lot of time by either asking him or telling him about you.

But since he has a girlfriend, does it really matter?

 

[Lube]

He sounds gay-ish, but really that's scant evidence.

Does his girlfriend mention how good he is in bed. Are they kissing and having sex all the time. Can he not get enough of her?

Or is she his beard?

 

[Shawn1]

For myself I usually just out myself in some way, see the reaction, and then go from there. Being direct is (initially) difficult to do but is the most effective (and expeditious) way to find out stuff about others.

Good luck

 

[LahLow]

he might not be gay, but just sensitive. i think "gay" men are more attuned to peoples feeling, and im not sure why. im sure there are 1000 reasons for this.

so he may be sensitive, and its up to you to be careful of what you do or say if you confront him about this.

i think hugging or kissing him may infact be a good idea. hes clearly struggling with "something" and your support will actually mean a lot to him, maybe enough to form a relationship, because that's what relationships are about.

if you just want him for sex, then that's a whole different story.

let me be clear! go support your friend! HE IS CRYING for gods sake!

because if it looks like he needs you, you should help him absolutely! just don't expect him to "turn gay" when he may in fact be straight. does he have to be gay as a prerequisite to help him? why would it matter if he was gay/straight?

help your friend before its too late. he is NOT getting emotional support FROM ANYONE! it IS up to you to help him IMMEDIATELY.

and please tell us how things go, you will have to track his progress, a friend in need is a friend indeed.

Well I did help him, and we are always there for eachother. Whenever I go through a rough time, or he goes through a rough time we just talk eachother through it. He doesn't know I'm gay or anything. But since we've gotten closer ever since I posted this thread, he's gotten alot more in depth with our feelings. And I am deffinantly not in it for sex. I am 18 and still a virgin trust me I can wait.
Just a few signs I want you guys to see that I've been noticing.
The otherday I was working on an assignment, and he kept distracting me. He kept slapping my ass, once softly then once litterally as hard as possible.
Another day he kept getting really close to my face and whispering in my ear and poking my face with his nose, as I looked at the computer screen.
He always tells me he loves me. But it's never been clarified in what form, and I always return the I love you
He's kissed me on the cheek before, and we hug on ocassion.
(Even if he's gay or not our relationship is pretty good)
He always grabs my pecks, or grabs my nipples. Ocassionally he playfully runs his fingers from my bellybutton to my chest, and says my name in a seductive tone and then giggles.

All in all we are always there for eachother and either way we love eachother, romantic or not it counts. And sexual things are when you want to pleasure eachother, which maybe that will never come, or maybe it will in time.

Thanks for your I will keep you updated on the progress.

 

[LahLow]

I wouldn't say that the signs above are an indication of his orientation at all.

It's becoming more and more acceptable for guys to be emotional and let down the macho man mask. It could just be that he's in touch with his feelings more than most guys.

I agree with evanrick... Go with the hugging and see how he responds. Hugs don't have to be an intimate thing, so it's easy to backtrack if he gets jumpy.

Yeah definantley.
Cool thing is, is that sometimes we have the manly hugs were you pat eachother on the back. And on rare occassion it's a longer grasp hug.

 

[LahLow]

He sounds gay-ish, but really that's scant evidence.

Does his girlfriend mention how good he is in bed. Are they kissing and having sex all the time. Can he not get enough of her?

Or is she his beard?

He hasn't had a stable girlfriend since I've known him, he keeps jumping from girl to girl over a period of 3 weeks. And I don't think he ever gets it in ya know?
None of the girls ever seem to say much, and never talk to him again so I have no idea, and they are always from surrounding towns never our home town.

 

[LahLow]

Does he know you're gay? If not, and if you aren't ready to tell him directly, maybe strike up a conversation about gay marriage and see where it goes. If he stole the lanyard it must mean something to him.

(I'll tell you one thing about me that might relate, when I was a teenager deep in the closet, I stole a magazine from a store that had a story about gay teens on the cover. I didn't even want the cashier to know I was gay, so I stuffed it into my jacket. He might be going through something similar)

ooooh I never though of that!!!! Will definantley strike up that conversation, but when it seems appropriate

 

[LahLow]

You guys are so MUCH HELP! I will keep updating periodically and let you know how things go

 

[Charmander]

The ass slapping is cute. I think he has a crush on you.

 

[TX-Beau]

Oh for fuck sake, WE don't know if he's straight, and if you actually thought he was interested, you would be out there doing something about it, not in here fantasizing about it.

NO ONE IN HERE KNOWS A DAMN THING ABOUT THIS GUY!

This thread started in December and if he's been stroking you like you say all this time and you haven't moved by now chances are you never will.

You won't tell him you're gay, he's given you no real indication he is, so one is forced to consider this is all in your head, or you are just too afraid to do anything about it, which means the same damn thing, You get nowhere.

If you ever expect to get anywhere with any guy, grab your fucking scrotum and be honest.

I'm just sayin....

 

[Seasoned]

Hey bud, at the risk of changing our friendship I need to tell you I'm gay. I've known since____, but I really appreciate and enjoy our friendship. I'd be happy if it stays the way it is but if I had kept this to myself I'm afraid I'd be making myself more obvious to you directly or I'd start looking for a boyfriend. In either case I want to be as honest as possible.