If it hurts why do you do it??????

[oak999]

I just have a curious question. I have read 2 times from some guys that when you bottom it hurts. Now I have never done that but I just have a question about it. If its hurts why would you do it? I thought sex was suppose to have some pleasure not pain? Just wondering thanks.

 

[beatleshead]

search around and you will find PLENTY of info on it. but i summarized what ive learned about anal from here.

It varies person to person. Some will always feel pain. Some will feel pain for a short while. The point is its whoever you are.

Most people can enjoy it, you just have to use alot of lube. someone else will post something better than this probably.

 

[Luka]

Wel ive bottomed once and it hurt like hell, ive also been fingered which also hurt, but im gonna keep trying a few time to see if it still hurts after a while...

 

[Telstra]

I just have a curious question. I have read 2 times from some guys that when you bottom it hurts. Now I have never done that but I just have a question about it. If its hurts why would you do it? I thought sex was suppose to have some pleasure not pain? Just wondering thanks.

its a fine line between pleasure and pain by the band " the Divinals" (spelling)


i still haven't try anal sucessfully yet but i will keep trying.

 

[Richardodessa]

Simple.....It's tremendously pleasureable and not in the least bit painful to lots of guys.

 

[luminum]

A lot of guys never get past the pain to feel the pleasure. True, anal when you're unprepared or too uptight can be painful, but anal when you're with a patient partner, going slow, and relaxed can be immensely pleasurable and sometimes, if done right, absolutely painless from step 1 to the end.

That's why people do it. Girls usually feel pain on their first time, too, but they still have penetrative sex.

 

[oak999]

Wel ive bottomed once and it hurt like hell, ive also been fingered which also hurt, but im gonna keep trying a few time to see if it still hurts after a while...

Thats what I am talking about. To each their own I am not knocking or at least not trying too. Its something that I am curious about. But if it hurts and its not fun why the hell would you go back to it?

 

[tonyboy]

Thats what I am talking about. To each their own I am not knocking or at least not trying too. Its something that I am curious about. But if it hurts and its not fun why the hell would you go back to it?

I never did like it. I let it happen a few times, but it was never pleasant.
I've tried to do it a few times but never felt pleasue in doing it either.
So the way I look at is just be with you partner and kiss, cuddle, have oral sex.... rimming is great, and I still love to finger a guys ass.... and have it done to me.
All the world figures that gay guys are bum buddies.... and I think most gay guys do engage in anal sex.... but not all.
From what I read ^ I think that most of the guys were with a partner that they figured they'd spend a great deal of time with. Never the case with me.
So, if you meet a guy and you fall in love and expect a ltr then of course it'd be worth investing in the time it might take to accept anal sex. But if it's only a short term thing I say why bother.
There is much more to be enjoyed than going through the pain of anal sex for a short term realationship.

 

[luminum]

While I agree that anal sex isn't for everyone, if one's previous experiences with anal sex have been absolutely nothing but painful then one hasn't ever done it correctly or well.

 

[versatastic]

Oh my Lord, I love bottoming! You can call me a power bottom, haha. Guys don't ride my ass; I ride their cocks! I love topping too, but getting fucked so good and hard that it alone makes you cum is a whole different experience.

But yeah, if you or your partner don't know what you're doing, then it can be a very unpleasant experience. I don't anally bottom often, so I definitely have to prep in advance if I don't want to take the pain or have the patience when I'm finally in bed with the guy.

Also, the pain can be quite stimulating especially when mixed with the euphoria of a big thrusting cock in your ass. Like stretching a sore muscle full of lactic acid, it's painful and incredibly relieving at the same time. And then when the pain subsides, it's pure heaven. Seriously, a well-planned bottoming experience with he right top will leave you absolutely dazed, you have no idea. One of my friends used to fuck a bi guy who turned completely gay after a few really good bottoming experiences. It's probably not the same as or anywhere close to having a vagina and a clitoris, but physiologically the friction against your sphincters activates nerve endings that stimulate relief and pleasure centers in your brain. That's why drugs like poppers and crystal meth, which act on receptors in the brain can severely amplify the bottoming experience.

 

[oak999]

While I agree that anal sex isn't for everyone, if one's previous experiences with anal sex have been absolutely nothing but painful then one hasn't ever done it correctly or well.

Ok so let me ask this. What makes it done "correctly"? Lets say that it can be pleasureable. How do you make it that way?

 

[versatastic]

There's lots of threads on anal and first-time anal. Check them out.

 

[luminum]

Like versatastic mentioned, the sticky threads at the top of the Health Forum area great guide.

General things are that you want enough foreplay to relax both of you, a partner who will go slowly, lots of lubrication, some smaller penetration by fingers gradually increasing number or size to allow the sphincter and intestines to grow accustomed to penetration, and given all that, gradual penetration by his dick allowing you to pause when you need to and adjust and keep going. Even after you've been fully penetrated, he should slowly move in and out to allow your body to get used to the motion and if he's any good, he can angle it to hit your prostate.

Ideally, not only will his contact with your prostate feel good, but the massage from his shaft in your intestine should build toward relaxation and pleasure and the friction from his cock to your anal ring should provide pleasure, too.