if u find out new bf is virgin, you will be happy or sad?

[chrmd1]

someone with no experience who lasts 22 seconds.... wow.

virginity is nothing. it doesn't make someone a better person. and if they were older than early 20's I would wonder what is wrong with them that they are still a virgin.

My thoughts exactly, I am glad I read the posts before I answered.

 

[Oogleman]

all depends on his attitude - ifs hes horny and hungry no problem~!

 

[translation]

For me, sex is a big deal. And at 22, I have yet to find the person that I want to have sex with. Someone said that they would wonder what is wrong with someone my age who hasn't had sex--why is it my fault? Not to toot my own horn, but I have had plenty opportunities for sex, I just haven't taken them yet. I know it may sound corny, but I would rather wait for it to be special than just do it for the sake of doing it.

 

[teh_nathan]

To an extent, I care about my prospective partner's sexual history:

If it's vastly longer history than me, it would be intimidating (and that probably isn't even the word).
If it's equal to or less than me, I'd be more okay with that.

 

[sb]

For me, sex is a big deal. And at 22, I have yet to find the person that I want to have sex with. Someone said that they would wonder what is wrong with someone my age who hasn't had sex--why is it my fault? Not to toot my own horn, but I have had plenty opportunities for sex, I just haven't taken them yet. I know it may sound corny, but I would rather wait for it to be special than just do it for the sake of doing it.

and if they were older than early 20's I would wonder what is wrong with them that they are still a virgin.

22 is early 20's so no I didn't say I would wonder what is wrong with someone your age not having sex.

But if you get much older I would wonder why you think nobody is good enough for you to have sex with.... what issues do you have that you wont have sex.

 

[teh_nathan]

I wouldn't say it's corny, I would say it's an admirable quality.

For me, sex is a big deal. And at 22, I have yet to find the person that I want to have sex with. Someone said that they would wonder what is wrong with someone my age who hasn't had sex--why is it my fault? Not to toot my own horn, but I have had plenty opportunities for sex, I just haven't taken them yet. I know it may sound corny, but I would rather wait for it to be special than just do it for the sake of doing it.

 

[Soilwork]

I would never date a virgin.

Anyone who's old enough to date me who hasn't had sex yet has too many hangups to EVER be sexually happy with me.

 

[Soilwork]

Not to mention.. I hate being a teacher.

I mean, I dont mind showing a guy something new, but I want him to have something to bring to the table.

 

[teh_nathan]

Now that's the kind of attitude I expected.

Why would you call someone who prefers to wait, "someone with a hangup"?

I wouldn't mind dating someone who preferred to wait. Sex isn't a big part of my life. I can get plenty more satisfaction cuddling with someone and watching a movie than "fucking their brains out".

I also point out that if you base your entire relationship on sex, that's really not a relationship at all, now is it? ..not that I don't expect that kind of attitude around here.

I would never date a virgin.

Anyone who's old enough to date me who hasn't had sex yet has too many hangups to EVER be sexually happy with me.

 

[Comrad]

Hell YEAH! That's what i look for, virgin, i GO virgin hunting. There is NOTHING like stealing another guys virginity. Being somebodies first is awesome, and its really good if there horny. They will do some of the craziest things, and most are willing to do it how ever. That is unless you got your self one of those confused virgins who grew up in a religious home, now those can be a problem.

 

[Comrad]

Not to mention.. I hate being a teacher.

I mean, I dont mind showing a guy something new, but I want him to have something to bring to the table.

This makes you sound like a bore in bed, and also selfish at that.. That's just the vibes i got from that.

 

[teh_nathan]

You know, that's exactly my point.

I think I'd have mixed feelings. On one hand I'd be like, "Ooooo, cool, a virgin!"

On the other hand I might be a little apprehensive because I wouldn't want to steal his virginity unless it's something he really wanted and we cared about each other and all that fun stuff. I mean, you only give up your virginity once. And I'd hate to take it away if I would end up NOT being the one he wanted to give it up to after all.

Shit, did that make any sense?

I need an aspirin.

 

[starlight70]

Love it. Love virgins. ;p

 

[kurtwild]

i personally wouldnt have a problem!
if he is hot,he is hot,dosent change anything if he is a virgin or not!

 

[douseiai]

i'm 20 the last person that seemed interested in doing stuff reacted negatively when he found out i was a virgin... and trying to explain that i have never really had a boyfriend before, which is the reason, didn't seem to help...

 

[winterknight]

I'm still one myself, so no.

But that having been said, I kinda doubt it'll ever happen. I already feel past it at 27.

 

[Soilwork]

dont' be silly, buddy.

My last BF came out at 30. And he was a virgin when we met. Mind you, I was 23 at the time.

the more I think about it, I think I take back what I just said.

Although I'd prefer someone with a sexual history, you take what you get... If I fell for a guy and found out I was the first... I'd try to take it in stride.

 

[FREDDIE187]

Anyone who's old enough to date me who hasn't had sex yet has too many hangups to EVER be sexually happy with me.

As usual with Soil, harsh words, but if you think about it..........probably on the nail.

 

[Christopher123]

You know, that's exactly my point.

I guess I'm just wishy-washy