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If you could choose to be straight or gay, what would it be?

If you had a choice, would you:

  • Choose to be gay

    Votes: 71 45.5%

  • Choose to be straight

    Votes: 64 41.0%

  • Choose to be bi

    Votes: 21 13.5%
  • Total voters
    156
The question is stupid. Yes I know that hurts some people's opinions here, but don't get offended yet and hear me out.

You can't choose your sexuality, by the time you are a teenager it is set. There is nothing you can do about it.

Saying it should be X it should be X, my life would be better, or I won't be treated as badly by society, or God will love me if its X, won't change your sexuality. Keep on focusing on life saying it should be X, instead of accepting the reality and then moving on and maximizing the reality, just leads to sadness, depression, and a feeling of helplessness in this life.

Saying something should be X doesn't change reality.

You will be happier once you move on and accept reality, once you embrace reality.

Now you are allowed to get offended, angry at me, or feel sad.

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Remember my brothers and sisters, all through your life you will experience, pain, sadness, and euphoria these feelings are temporary sensations and thus are fleeting. Joy and Suffering are permanent though for they aren't feelings but instead a state of mind which embraces either the good or the bad.
 
I disagree that it's a stupid question. Just because you can't change something doesn't mean the mental exercise of considering it isn't useful. In many ways, this question serves as a sort of yardstick for how comfortable somebody has become with their sexuality. I suspect that if you asked the same question at age 14 to those of us answering affirmative to staying gay now, you'd find a very different set of answers.
 
I wouldn't choose to be straight if I could. You couldn't pay me enough money to go straight. I love who I am and every bit of myself just the way I am. I don't need to be straight. I'm already gay, and that's good enough for me.
 
i'd pick straight but look forward to a day when it really wouldn't matter to me.
 
drhladnjak said:
...I suspect that if you asked the same question at age 14 to those of us answering affirmative to staying gay now, you'd find a very different set of answers.
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Absolutely. My answer at 14, even 17 would have been straight.

I think the point of the question is more that if you were to start your life over (or start your next life if you like) and you choose beforehand, which would you choose.
 
Heck I'm sorry women, but I'm too happy with my gender prefference to give in to being straight. I like being this way. It feels right. I wouldn't have it any other way.
 
i would choose to be who i am now.. which is a gay. Proud to be a gay gay.
 
i would like to be straight, if i can. i can't bear to break my parents hearts and disappoint them if they do find out one day. this coupled with my mum who always mention about getting married and stuffs especially with my sister and my cousins and close friends all getting married near the same time. Too much pressure.

Besides, i feel like i'm the kind that is the outcast of the gay community. Even my best friends who always introduce his other gay friends to me but i never keep in touch with them. Just can't click with them. Felt awkward in their company as 99% of my friends, especially close friends are straight, which i feel more comfortable with.
 
Seriously, I would choose gay a hundred times. Not only am I proud and glad to be gay, but I would cease to exist as "myself" if I was not gay anymore. It's part of who I am...
 
If I could chose to be straight, I would, as life wouldn't be such a struggle. However, I can't, so I try to be proud of what my Creator has made me. My sexuality isn't the totality of me & I refuse to be judge by anyone who assumes they "know" me just b/c I'm gay
 
Perhaps strangely, I don't feel like my life would be any easier or less complicated if I were straight. Straight people certainly have their share of problems too. When I was younger, I struggled a lot with my sexuality, but now that I feel like I'm largely over that and living in a city, working a job and just generally existing in a time and place where my sexuality isn't a handicap on a daily basis.
 
I chose red because, being totally objective, being gay is simply better than being straight

-No pregnancy scares
-No pressure to get married (people used to always nag me about when I'm getting married until I came out)
-Gay guys in general, put out more than women
-Gay clubs>Straight clubs
-If your bf's the same size, you automatically double your wardrobe
-There's no gender divide in relationships

Really the only thing I don't like about being gay is having to deal with homophobes. And that gets a bit easier as you get older.
 
I think if the question was worded "would you rather have been born x, y, or z", the VAST majority would pick straight. You all make it seem that since you are happy with the way you are now (which is great), you would not be happier as a straight man. It is a lot easier to live as a straight person. Personally, I think it's bullsh*t when people say that going through hard times "made me a stonger person" and therefore it was worth it.
 
I'm still not convinced that it's so much easier to live as a straight person, at least not in gay-friendly places like big cities in the US, Canada, Australia and western Europe. Moreover, even if it is truly easier, why does that matter? It's easier to just sit on the couch and watch TV, but yet there are tons of people who run grueling marathons every year for the accomplishment of it all. In school, it's easier to just get all C's and not really care, yet there are still tons of students with serious ambition that go way above and beyond that. Easy is not always better. There is a lot to be said for struggling to achieve something.

Now for those who live in places which are very oppressive to gay people, the situation shifts somewhat. When being gay equals death or imprisonment, it's hard to argue that being born straight wouldn't have been better I suppose.
 
i couldnt see myself being anything but gay. its the only way i could be and its what makes me happy the most. i couldnt trade that for anything.
 
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