Ambition92
On the Prowl
I'll be the first to admit that my 2014 has been going fairly well. I've had the courage to come out to two very close friends of mine and it's been a great experience. It's a slow burning process and there's still a ways to go, but for now I'm content. I've also had the opportunity to meet a couple of nice guys over the last few months. One was purely a hookup, the second I thought had potential to be more (and still might…). So at the risk of this turning into a long post:
Back in January I started chatting with a guy online. He's got his shit together, really nice, funny, etc… Not my "ideal" type, but a great guy nonetheless. I'm somewhat of a shut in so taking it upon myself to leave my comfort zone and go downtown to meet this guy took a lot. With that said we had an amazing night together. Dinner, drinks, dancing, and more (let your imagination run wild with that one). The next day we woke up and it was all roses. Our second school semesters were just starting to pick up but we managed to consistently text each other for the next 3 or so weeks until it became my duty to text him. I'm not going to fall into that category of person so I cut my losses and stopped texting. Actually that's not entirely true, a few weeks ago I decided to shoot him a text just to see how he's been doing and got no reply. Fast forward to last Wednesday; I get a text from him explaining why he hadn't texted (phone got fried, school's hectic, etc…). So we text back and forth for the day and then I proceed to text him on the Friday as well because it seems like we were picking up where we left off. After our Friday conversation I haven't' received a text from him.
Now, before you go on thinking this is a relationship post I should tell you about Grindr…
So after my experiences with the guy I wrote about above, I decided to finally give Grindr a shot. I know it's not necessarily the best method of meeting people, but it's a hell of a lot better demographically (i.e., people my age) than a lot of the other dating sites I've been on. Since frequenting the app I've made what I thought are some decent connections to people on there. Guys who I even think might be out of my league. We exchange photos and they seem positively receptive, often responding with "cute!" or something along those lines. We talk for the day usually before contact just shuts down between them. I message the next day to no response. For the life of me I cannot understand why this is the case because I know if I find somebody "cute" or there's some sort of connection, then I'll try to pursue them further. Then again it is a hookup site. Now I'm not without my possible faults. Usually at the end of the day/conversation I'll tell the person that I've enjoyed chatting with them and proceed to give them my number. Does this freak people out?? I just don't go on Grindr every day so the best method on contact is by text.
Anyways, thanks for reading this if you got this far. I know it's kind of petty, but I've been racking my brain the last couple of weeks over-thinking this. If there's any advice you could shoot my way go for it. It's funny how much I'm still learning about dating/meeting people.
Back in January I started chatting with a guy online. He's got his shit together, really nice, funny, etc… Not my "ideal" type, but a great guy nonetheless. I'm somewhat of a shut in so taking it upon myself to leave my comfort zone and go downtown to meet this guy took a lot. With that said we had an amazing night together. Dinner, drinks, dancing, and more (let your imagination run wild with that one). The next day we woke up and it was all roses. Our second school semesters were just starting to pick up but we managed to consistently text each other for the next 3 or so weeks until it became my duty to text him. I'm not going to fall into that category of person so I cut my losses and stopped texting. Actually that's not entirely true, a few weeks ago I decided to shoot him a text just to see how he's been doing and got no reply. Fast forward to last Wednesday; I get a text from him explaining why he hadn't texted (phone got fried, school's hectic, etc…). So we text back and forth for the day and then I proceed to text him on the Friday as well because it seems like we were picking up where we left off. After our Friday conversation I haven't' received a text from him.
Now, before you go on thinking this is a relationship post I should tell you about Grindr…
So after my experiences with the guy I wrote about above, I decided to finally give Grindr a shot. I know it's not necessarily the best method of meeting people, but it's a hell of a lot better demographically (i.e., people my age) than a lot of the other dating sites I've been on. Since frequenting the app I've made what I thought are some decent connections to people on there. Guys who I even think might be out of my league. We exchange photos and they seem positively receptive, often responding with "cute!" or something along those lines. We talk for the day usually before contact just shuts down between them. I message the next day to no response. For the life of me I cannot understand why this is the case because I know if I find somebody "cute" or there's some sort of connection, then I'll try to pursue them further. Then again it is a hookup site. Now I'm not without my possible faults. Usually at the end of the day/conversation I'll tell the person that I've enjoyed chatting with them and proceed to give them my number. Does this freak people out?? I just don't go on Grindr every day so the best method on contact is by text.
Anyways, thanks for reading this if you got this far. I know it's kind of petty, but I've been racking my brain the last couple of weeks over-thinking this. If there's any advice you could shoot my way go for it. It's funny how much I'm still learning about dating/meeting people.
