If you're being bullied or suicidal please read.....

[jknightuk]

In all honesty, folks... I'm not sure where exactly I stand with him. I can't move out as I have no family (long story which I would rather avoid... still upsetting for me to talk about), no real friends so cant stay with anyone.

I'm stuck with a man who says he loves, and cares about me... yet I have never felt so damn alone in my entire life.

Oh crikey... I'm posting all this in the wrong area, aren't I? I offer my apologies to the original topic starter

 

[maxer343]

9. I remember when I was a child, I had a cousin Glenn. No one spoke of him “aloud”. He was no longer part of the family. I was to be the next Glenn. I grew up on a farm so I was able to fight and defend myself from the people who accused me of being a ”fag.” I remember the “You’re so gay.” Years later, I remember having only gay friends as defense mechanism.\ Come to think it before you think of suicide, you’re welcome here 7242560579

 

[maxer343]

you're safe here.

 

[Lawshack]

aww thanks to everyone posting help lines

 

[benjdirect2u]

It's not easy being bullied. Despite the obvious reasons, like being on the wrong end of a joke, insult, or a group laugh, being bullied takes a toll on the self-esteem. Those that have been bullied know better than anyone that it picks at you until you can't take it any more. And worst yet, even if you told someone, who would understand?

The fact is there are plenty of people who do understand and are willing to help. But first you have to reach out and tell them what's going on. Worried about their reaction? Start with your closest support system (a friend, sister, brother, parent, or teacher).

 

[AndrewC88]

I was bullied when I was kid and it did get better...amongst every other hardship in life. IT DID GET BETTER.

 

[Danny001415]

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[JC2008]

When I was at boarding school I had my first experience with a guy who went on to bully me for 3 years until he was finally expelled. I was angry with the school for letting it go on soo long. I found out via facebook that he died last year but no one will tell me how he died but I think he drank himself to death, he was aged 26. He never did come out as I saw some homophobic Facebook wall posts nor did he ever talk to me again. Another guy who also bullied me at school hung himself a few years ago aged 20. Not sure what he was though I never remember him having a girl. They were both physically violent. When I was in college, I finally came out in my second year, all my friends supported me bar 1 who turned his back completley on me. He wrapped his car around a tree aged 21 and died instantly 2 years ago. I did attempt suicide aged 14 and my friend who caught me said to me "don't die a virgin" lol. I'm glad I was caught and never tried that again.

 

[JC2008]

^ wow. there are some pretty "interesting" stories in there. Sounds like people who fuck with you in some way don't end up very well at all.

lol I wasn't responsible for what happened to the guys mentioned in my post. I guess two were unhappy and one was unlucky! But it does also show that life is too short, we should enjoy it while we can.

 

[metta]

The holidays can be the toughest time of year for many...

Suicide Makes the Puzzle Incomplete

http://www.cuemagazines.com/2011/11/22/suicide-makes-the-puzzle-incomplete/

 

[slnattak]

Gay men: You're being bullied because you're bullying them. Your very existence threatens them. You are naturally different and have different brains so that's why they pick on you so much. It's their way of trying to handle it.

Acting like a victim 24/7 about it helps nobody. If you weren't scaring the shit out of them, they wouldn't be trying to scare the shit out of you. Gay men are naturally bullied... how else could I relate so much to what you're saying? And you're all gay like me.

I was treated so badly in high school, like ones of the worst ones. And I hear soooo many gay men report EXACTLY the same thing.

I never let it make me suicidal though or anything. So that's why I think suicide isn't related to this issue and if a gay teen is suicidal it's more to do with the fact that he has non-supportive parents. My parents are supportive.

 

[Kulindahr]

Gay men: You're being bullied because you're bullying them. Your very existence threatens them. You are naturally different and have different brains so that's why they pick on you so much. It's their way of trying to handle it.

Acting like a victim 24/7 about it helps nobody. If you weren't scaring the shit out of them, they wouldn't be trying to scare the shit out of you. Gay men are naturally bullied... how else could I relate so much to what you're saying? And you're all gay like me.

I was treated so badly in high school, like ones of the worst ones. And I hear soooo many gay men report EXACTLY the same thing.

I never let it make me suicidal though or anything. So that's why I think suicide isn't related to this issue and if a gay teen is suicidal it's more to do with the fact that he has non-supportive parents. My parents are supportive.

Our mere existence "bullies them"?

That's ludicrous. They're not harmed by our existence, not disturbed at all except in their own minds. The only bullying going on with them is what they are doing to themselves -- deluding themselves that there's a threat, and purely fantasizing that there's some sort of harm.

Gay guys, the ones bullying you don't count as people. They're behaving with their hindbrains, like animals. They're beneath you -- so don't let it get to you.

 

[Lostlover]

This thread is reminding me that I can be nicer to people. You never know what they're going through.

 

[Yomaga]

I hate bullying. It pisses me off so much when i see people bully other people

 

[mikey3000]

AS a married guy with a wonderful wife and two little kids, realising my need for male affection was devastating for me. Suicide was (and still sometimes is) a daily thought. Would my family be better off without me? But in the last year I've had two suicides hit close to home and I've learned how truly devasting suicide is. I'm comming to terms with my sexuality a little more every day and learning how to fit it in to my current situation. But still, every day is a struggle.

 

[xxxMAD376xxx]

I'm just so sick of hearing about LGBT suicides! I can't stand the fact that we don't make more of an effort to fight back! I'm also sick to death of the "Turn the other cheek" approach! It obviously DOSE'NT WORK! Let's try "Fight fire with fire", or "Eye for an eye"! Let's see some of those nazi scum kill themselves! Yes I'm filled with rage. I've been filled with rage my whole life because I'm less than & second class to the government & "society". What I don't understand is how calm everyone else can be during a time like this! I'm not always like this, but it just kills me every time I see that another brother or sister has fallen to hate.

 

[nathanielby]

OMG this really bothers me that people committed suicide cause of bullies, smh this is terrible

 

[Kulindahr]

OMG this really bothers me that people committed suicide cause of bullies, smh this is terrible

Be glad that people pay attention now. When I was a swimming instructor, one of my students didn't show up one day. He'd finally had enough of "getting picked on" at school, was the guess; at any rate, he went and hung himself from a tree.

No one talked about it. It was hushed up. I was told to never mention it. The staff at the Y pretended it never happened.

 

[wonderwort]

Jason you're post seems pretty down. Call this number if you need help.

Call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255

 

[frankfrank]

Jason, you have found a place here where there are a lot of [unseen] people who care about you and wish you the best possible kind of life, and I'm one of those. Do you have hobbies or other things which keep you busy, such as gaming, spending time with media, etc.? Are you "fulltime or mostly" working and/or in school? Being busy with things doesn't solve the underlying issue, but it can break the vicious circle of worrying about things and having that become a cycle which grows by feeding on itself.

Just ask, and there are people here who will gladly talk to you, perhaps even on the phone, as well as there being other general resources which are quoted through this thread.