I'm 41 He's 18

[HartfordGuy]

I hear ya. I'm 41 and a 22 year old is driving me crazy. I just keep reminding myself that he sees me no different that he would his father. That usually snaps me back into reality. LOL.

 

[darrell]

I have a 23 year old driving me crazy calls all the time and wants to come over all the time

 

[WYSIWYG]

My bf is 30 and I am 61! He does not treat me as a father or dad. We like the same clothes, like the same music, and like the same foods. I am a very very lucky man!

 

[hothead]

I met a 43 year old man when I was 19; we fell deeply in love, a couple years into it, he began to make pretty snide remarks about my youth, and by the time three years had passed, there was a great deal of resentment. I know it might not happen to every couple, but I'll be careful about seeing older guys as love interests from now on. There will be many scars from the that relationship for quite a while.

 

[dodo2761]

I am 44 and live with a 22yr old- have done since he was 21

 

[brandonguy35]

Attraction is attraction--as long as it goes both ways. Age is just a number, relationships are based on the state of mind of both the younger and older man. Never let age be a HUGE factor in deciding on pursuing a relationship--or just having a good old-fashioned sex romp (of course you do have to keep in mind the legal age restrictions in your state/country). Otherwise, if both guys are willing, just have some fun and enjoy it!

 

[neruda]

Are any of you Sugar daddies - just curious - and no offense

 

[PhunkSpunk]

as i enter my 4th decade, i notice that guys 10-12 years younger seem to all look good. i suspect its their youth that looks good. however, i still have a reality check: what the hell would i have to say to an 18-20 year old. i mean, that is so young.

there's no crime in looking, fantasizing, or beating off to the thought of a hot tween. however for relationships, or even for casual partners, i think it's a good idea to stay within +/- 5 years. at least that's what i think

 

[LeoMikey]

Age has little to do with how we get along with another person, be it a sexual relationship or not. I'm almost 27 (August 11) and my boyfriend is 27, and we just clicked. I have had boyfriends who were as much as 15 years older, and we got on fine. When i was 19 i had a serious sexual relationship with a 44 year old, and he was an incredible lover, but he moved to France, and our lives were just not compatible. I would'nt hesitate to date someone older, or even younger. It all comes down to love and who you get along with the best. Sure, young guys look hot, but that can wear thin fast if he has nothing interesting to say.

 

[duncann]

I'm in my mid 40s and recently on several occasions have been hit on by guys aged 21, 22 and 23, all gorgeous (one was a marine recently returned from Iraq)and all demonstrably interested in only one thing. I was surprised. None of these particular guys struck me as being mentally or sexually less mature than me.

There is no way I was that sexually predatory at 21 and would never have approached someone obviously older than myself. It never occurred to me back then that guys my age would hit on the older guys, I assumed it was always the other way round. I never approach younger guys, I'd hate to be thought of as some desperate sad old queen with an unhealthy interest.

 

[uncuttboi]

????????????????????????????????????just stick closer to your own age circle -give or take 10 or so years.............

 

[alley]

????????????????????????????????????just stick closer to your own age circle -give or take 10 or so years.............

Remember you said that when you hit 40.

 

[vulgar_newcomer]

My bf is 30 and I am 61! He does not treat me as a father or dad. We like the same clothes, like the same music, and like the same foods. I am a very very lucky man!

You're a vey lucky man anytime you find any person to love & treats you as you describe.
I'm not getting the "trophy" drift here, but maybe you didn't mean it like that.
Would you not find the same worth with a man if he was 55 and you 61, or he 63 and you 61?

 

[springboksfan]

I hear ya. I'm 41 and a 22 year old is driving me crazy. I just keep reminding myself that he sees me no different that he would his father. That usually snaps me back into reality. LOL.

Ouch.....!

 

[JR]

Are any of you Sugar daddies - just curious - and no offense

You know, there was a time when I'da said that you're all crazy. But that's before I met my boyfriend of 6 years. Began 41 - 19; now 47 - 25.

Friends that didn't know us well assume he's 32ish and I'm 37ish. He tends to dress older than I do and he seems to be a bit more stable than the old fart. Our salaries are not that different. He makes about 40% of our income as a director of a university. He's the same age as many of the students, yet he's worked there for 4 or 5 years.

Sometimes age numbers are just that. Biologically we age and mature at different rates. He's had his wisdom teeth out for 6 years and mine are just coming in at age 47.

When he was 19, he was working 3 jobs so that he could live a higher quality life. We took turns and still take turns with paying restaurant tabs. When we go on vacation, I'll pay a larger portion because I make a little more, but if I pay the airfare, he buys the hotel and restaurants. If we get a rental car, I have had to be the renter because he's just turned 25. But mostly we pay as our salaries reflect...about 60/40.

The one area where I have not let him pay is in housing expense. I've been paying my mortgage and utilities for 20 years and don't really need a paying roommate to make ends meet. So I'm not going to charge him to live here. So at the very best, I'm probably the worst Sugar Daddy in the history of the world if this even qualifies.

Every once in a great while when it's my turn to pay for a restaurant tab he winks at me with his big green eyes and says "Thanks Sugar Daddy!" and we both have a laugh. I think a better title for me is "Lucky Bastard."

 

[Corny]

hi there,
i moved your forum to the co & relationships forum since the forum where you posted it in is more for the "nasty bits" as we say (adult content)

 

[darrell]

i met a boy he was 23 and i 47 never thought i could feel this way .he has my heart i look at him and i see happyness oh how i wish i could love him like i want to so see you all have no problems like i do lol

 

[Brer Fox]

First time I was with a guy he was forty and I was nineteen. I felt very comfortable with him, and I genuinely found him attractive, and if he wanted to make a relationship of it I can honestly say if I were more independent I might give it a chance. I am not ashamed to say I find some older men sexy, both in personality and appearance. Just because there is a great difference in age does not mean you cannot love each other.

That said, I do not know if I personally think those kinds of relationships are something you want to try to establish. I thought back on my association with this guy and realised that he was twice my age... that is like me seeing a baby right now and going 'When he grows up, I am going to date him.' That seems very odd to me. One might be able to get along in casual contact with their conversations and such, but to actually have a relationship where you must live with each other every day, it is hard for me to imagine that the generation gap won't come into play.

I mean, this guy witnessed Vietnam, the beginning and height of AIDS... things I can never personally know. But if it happens, it happens.

 

[1st love ron]

Reading this thread has given me hope, LOL

 

[bluedragon4]

My bf is 26 and I am 34. I had a huge issue with the 8 years when we met over 4 years ago. Being 30 and dating a 22 year old was not on my things to do at 30 list! He looks a little older and I look a bit younger so it works out. I can't believe how much I use to stress about it! love is crazy like that.