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I'm 41 He's 18

I'm 19 and my Man is 45. It's not a big deal. It's called love.
 
Age might be a vital issue to some and to the others, it plays little or no role. There is neither universal truth nor universal receipe for luck in this matter.

As soon as I reached my mid-20's, younger dudes started looking more attractive to me than my own peers. This has really never changed.

My BF of 5 1/2 years now is 17 years my junior.

I was determinedly look for a 'younger dude'. He, on the other side, was looking for a more mature, settled and stable guy. We soon fell for each other and are enjoying a cool, stable relationship.

Possibly, everything in life is some sort of a trade-off. You can be honest and your partner may choose to be honest and then, it really works.

SC
 
Brer Fox said:
... that is like me seeing a baby right now and going 'When he grows up, I am going to date him.' That seems very odd to me.

...it is hard for me to imagine that the generation gap won't come into play...
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Sorry but I disagree with the above statement. No, someone who is in his thirties, forties or fifties and is dating someone considerably younger cannot be equated to a person in his 20's dating a baby. :confused: You must have made the observation that formation of personality and level of maturity can already be quite advanced in the 20-30 age group.

How would an age gap cause problems when both parties love one another, have similar expectations and aspirations, etc. Even if the age gap should complicate an aspect of living together, if the relationship is strong enough and both partners are committed wouldn't it be possible to resolve things or find compromises?

Maybe I'm missing your point.
 
Personally, I love older men. Im 18 and i would love to be with a 40 year old man.
 
I'm 47, Brandon 22, I have never been more in love with any one before! We look forward to living a long and rewarding life together!
 
This an interesting thread. I have always believed that age is a state of mind. May be I have been fortunate. No one has ever believed or has been able to guess my age. I am 69 years of age and my lover of 16 years just celebrated his 57th birthday. The last 16 years have the best part of my life. Our lives have blended very well and our love for each other continues to grow...and yes there is life and great sex after 60!!
 
uclaboy said:
I'm considered pretty mature for my age (21) but I would still have more in common with some immature twinky 20 year old than a 50 year old who shares my intellectual interests. In a few rare cases like apparently JR's, age is just a number. But for the most part, it isn't. There's a generational gap. Older grew up without technology or outlook we have today. I can't imagine life growing up before the 1990's - it's just a different way of living that we don't share. I'm glad a good amount of you, at least in this thread, are respecting the importance of the age difference.
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My last boyfriend was about 20 years younger than I am, and he had less interest in technology than I do. It's too bad that you lack the imagination to envision what the past was like - however, it is not at all difficult to know what the present is like. I don't see how technology has that much of an effect on a personal relationship, unless one is a total geek. I don't have a problem with anyone who chooses to date within their own narrow age range, but they should realize that not everyone wants to limit themselves to that extent.
 
Whatever toots your horn.

I've dated guys 15 years older and 15 years younger than me. But my bf is within 5 years of my age.

That works for me. You may want something else. No biggie.
 
uclaboy said:
Lars fair enough, as I doubt your BF was 18 or anything. not saying intergenerational relationships cant work but too much of it is built out of trouble. 20 and 50 for example. 20 year old likes older men because he was abused as child and hasnt come to terms with it or lacked father figure. 50 year old likes 20 year old because of society/historical fetish for young people.

that doesnt work, since the older man is helping child relive abuse (which the child is programmed to enjoy at a subconscious level) or providing an a sexual father figure, which isn't what fathers are supposed to be.

it needs to be pure without the taint of psychological issues.

maybe 30 and 50 can, since 30 year olds arent young boys looking for fathers, and 30 is out of the kid phase. that i see an approrpiate 20 year difference.
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Those generalizations don't work in most cases. People are attracted to each other because they like what they see, in general. None of my relationships have had anything to do with how I related to my parents, and I have rarely noticed that influence in others, except in extreme cases of very oppressive Protestant upbringing, particularly in people from the Mid-West. See...I can make generalizations too!! It sounds like you may have been reading some outdated psychology books.
 
And to think that the 7yr. between "My" Kev, and I, me being the older, used to be thought of as an "age difference"! This has only been going on for nearly 25yr! (group):hurray:(!w!)

Keep smilin'!! :kiss:(*8*)
Chaz ;)
 
I wouldnt want to date a much older dude, I met a few, for me it's just not the way to be.
 
Yeehaw said:
I wouldnt want to date a much older dude, I met a few, for me it's just not the way to be.
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That's generally my view, but you never know. You could meet an older guy that is 1) gay, and 2) takes good care of himself and is 3) comfortable in his own skin (doesn't dye his hair or use "slang").
 
^ haha I've heard ppl tell me this before, but unfortunately those who fall in the descriptions, at least the ones I met, don't take younger guys seriously and only want sex. I much rather date a younger guy who doesnt have as much under the table and is on the same level with me... but its true that you never know.
 
Yeehaw said:
^ haha I've heard ppl tell me this before, but unfortunately those who fall in the descriptions, at least the ones I met, don't take younger guys seriously and only want sex. I much rather date a younger guy who doesnt have as much under the table and is on the same level with me... but its true that you never know.
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Oh so do I. I think it is much more natural to be with someone near your age. You'll both age essentially evenly and you can take to him (or her) about things as equals.

I just won't rule someone out because of his or her's age.
 
I'm 18 and I have been attracted to older men.

HANDSOME older men.

...For ME, it's not disgusting. But if I was 30-40 I don't think I would date someone as young as me.
 
Alabama79 said:
I'm 41 and usually only like guys in their 30s to 50s.

But this lifeguard at my town pool is driving my cock crazy. He just graduated HIGH SCHOOL! His body is so tight, his ass so cute.

I've beaten my meat many times dreaming of George.
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uhm OK... :##:
 
Hmm lots of interesting points here.... I've questioned it myself, I really think if I was attracted to someone, not just physically but just in general my 'type,' the age wouldnt really matter.... but that's in theory.

its funny cuz the other day i went with my mother to pay bills and the bank lady was all, what are you doing out of school, she thought i was in high school still she told me i look like a sophmore or something! i've ALWAYS looked young, but funny thing i really am a 40 yr old trapped in this body, least thats how i've always felt. so the age thing is tricky, I would say I'm pretty mature but then i have my selfish young moments where i just wanna flirt with older guys, or have a sugar daddy! since i'm a broke college kid...

but overall it really depends on the person - can they handle it, can i?
 
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