I did something really shitty and I'm feeling guilty and unsure what to do. Here's the background, I'll try to keep the rambling to a minimum.
I have this friend, she's a a former coworker actually. Cool girl, really funny. We're in our mid-twenties and met while she was a long-term temp in my office. We're not super close but I like her a lot and we try to keep in touch and hang out occasionally. So last week I was out for drinks with another friend and I ran into this girl and her boyfriend who i don't really know. I met him one other time at a company christmas party. We all started chatting and my friends decided to call it a night but this girl and her boyfriend (we'll call them Sarah and Michael to protect the innocent) are staying out so i hang with them for a while. Pretty soon they're ready to leaving to hit up a party and they invite me to tag along. Initially i wasn't into it but they were both really pushing it, and Michael offered to let me crash at his parent's lake house so we wouldn't have to drive home so i figured why not.
So we head over to the party, this is a summer lake community and a bunch of people are up visiting over the pre-christmas weekend. The girl throwing the party is a friend of Michael's so Sarah doesn't know that many people. We hang out, have some laughs and shots, it's a good time. Nothing unusual. A little latter the two of them try to set me up with this guy they know. It's kind of a non-starter but it's the thought that counts. Later things are winding down we decide to leave so Sarah, Michael and I along with a couple others from the party head back to Michael's lake house to crash. At this point we're all a little trashed. I get set up in one of the guest rooms and pass out. A little while later I felt someone getting into bed with me. I'm normally not the kind of person to just go with it but i was in no state to make decisions. At first I thought it was the guy from the party so once again i figured why not. It took me a minute to realize that it was Michael but by that point he already had his hands in my shorts and I was not thinking clearly...so i went for it.
Naturally i feel terrible because I'm not a sociopath. In my defense we were both VERY drunk and he is a really hot, and i didn't really know what was happening at first. None of this is an excuse but i feel like it is a little bit mitigating. I'm not sure what to do here. Everyone was asleep by this point and when we...finished he went back to bed downstairs so i'm pretty sure no one knows what happened. I feel extremely guilty but I don't know if it's a good idea to confess. It could just make everyone's situation worse. These guys are friends but like i said we're not super close so i'm not sure how she would take it. I considered the possibility that she knows/doesn't care but i don't think that's possible. They're both a little crazy, but fun crazy not go hump my gay friend in the middle of the night crazy. I want to make it right and i want her to know what's going on behind her back but i'm a little worried about the shit storm of drama it would unleash. I can't even guess what his deal is. He didn't register on my gaydar at all until he was grabbing my cock. I hardly know him outside of group situations, I don't even have his cell number to give him a stern "WTF?!" text.
So what's my obligation here? And before you even ask. Despite his objective hotness I do NOT have any interest in having something like this happen again. Nor do I think i really encouraged it beforehand. I didn't see it coming at all. Thoughts?
TL;DR I accidentally slept with a casual gal-pals theoretically straight boyfriend. I have the guilt.
I have this friend, she's a a former coworker actually. Cool girl, really funny. We're in our mid-twenties and met while she was a long-term temp in my office. We're not super close but I like her a lot and we try to keep in touch and hang out occasionally. So last week I was out for drinks with another friend and I ran into this girl and her boyfriend who i don't really know. I met him one other time at a company christmas party. We all started chatting and my friends decided to call it a night but this girl and her boyfriend (we'll call them Sarah and Michael to protect the innocent) are staying out so i hang with them for a while. Pretty soon they're ready to leaving to hit up a party and they invite me to tag along. Initially i wasn't into it but they were both really pushing it, and Michael offered to let me crash at his parent's lake house so we wouldn't have to drive home so i figured why not.
So we head over to the party, this is a summer lake community and a bunch of people are up visiting over the pre-christmas weekend. The girl throwing the party is a friend of Michael's so Sarah doesn't know that many people. We hang out, have some laughs and shots, it's a good time. Nothing unusual. A little latter the two of them try to set me up with this guy they know. It's kind of a non-starter but it's the thought that counts. Later things are winding down we decide to leave so Sarah, Michael and I along with a couple others from the party head back to Michael's lake house to crash. At this point we're all a little trashed. I get set up in one of the guest rooms and pass out. A little while later I felt someone getting into bed with me. I'm normally not the kind of person to just go with it but i was in no state to make decisions. At first I thought it was the guy from the party so once again i figured why not. It took me a minute to realize that it was Michael but by that point he already had his hands in my shorts and I was not thinking clearly...so i went for it.
Naturally i feel terrible because I'm not a sociopath. In my defense we were both VERY drunk and he is a really hot, and i didn't really know what was happening at first. None of this is an excuse but i feel like it is a little bit mitigating. I'm not sure what to do here. Everyone was asleep by this point and when we...finished he went back to bed downstairs so i'm pretty sure no one knows what happened. I feel extremely guilty but I don't know if it's a good idea to confess. It could just make everyone's situation worse. These guys are friends but like i said we're not super close so i'm not sure how she would take it. I considered the possibility that she knows/doesn't care but i don't think that's possible. They're both a little crazy, but fun crazy not go hump my gay friend in the middle of the night crazy. I want to make it right and i want her to know what's going on behind her back but i'm a little worried about the shit storm of drama it would unleash. I can't even guess what his deal is. He didn't register on my gaydar at all until he was grabbing my cock. I hardly know him outside of group situations, I don't even have his cell number to give him a stern "WTF?!" text.
So what's my obligation here? And before you even ask. Despite his objective hotness I do NOT have any interest in having something like this happen again. Nor do I think i really encouraged it beforehand. I didn't see it coming at all. Thoughts?
TL;DR I accidentally slept with a casual gal-pals theoretically straight boyfriend. I have the guilt.
