I'm a little confused...

[gmans94]

I've known I was gay since I was a kid. There's no doubt about it.

I've only recently started coming out to my close friends, and all of them are totally okay with it!

However, I myself am a little confused.

I love guys. A lot. However, there are times when I catch myself liking a girl. As in "I want to be her boyfriend".

The thought of doing anything sexual with a girl is slightly stimulating (not as much as with a guy) but I don't think I'm bi.
For some reason I feel like I have to choose one or the other (straight or gay) because I don't want to be bi. I feel like if I'm bi I'm desperate, and a surprising amount of my friends are seemingly hypocrites because they don't really accept bi people.

I really don't mean to offend anyone here on the forums, I'm just really confused about my sexuality and I wanted to ask someone.

 

[Spiffy]

I've been stimulated by a girl before, but that's when they are like right next to me and I can feel there body heat or if they have distinct voices that just turn me on. I used to think about being ssome girls boyfriends before thinking we would be a good couple and I would enjoy it.

But other than that, I haven't really seen girls as attractive. Granted there are some girls that seem like they would be good to be in bed with..... and I probably wouldn't mind going ahead with it.

But in all truthfulness, at the end of the day I know I'm 100% mariah carey loving gay... I'm just more of the experimental type

I'm not going to lie, I don't believe there really is such a thing as a bisexual. I don't press that opinion on others though, Seeing how its something I don't understand my opinion on the matter is a bit naive/ignorant.

Oh and friends are supposed to accept you for who you are, bi or not.

 

[Rooster]

It sounds a lot like how I feel.

I figure it doesn't really matter. As long as I am happy with whoever I end up with, I could care less what their sex is.

 

[hylas]

dont worry. you can identify as gay and still be attracted to the occasional girl, no-one will really bother (and if they do, theyre stupid).

i think the same situation is, in some ironic way, more difficult for straight guys who are occasionally attracted to guys. they immediatly get labled as bi or gay.

but all those labels - gay, straight, bi - are just approximations anyway. use them if theyre useful (eg in politics), disregard them in situations where they only complicate things.

 

[BionicBoy]

You shouldn't feel the need to label yourself. A lot of people are too quick to jump the gun and say "I'm gay" or "I'm straight" or whatever, without giving themselves enough time to realise your orientation.

So what if you fancy the odd girl? If you find yourself in a position where your think you could get into a relationship with a girl, don't fight it if you want it just because you want to be labelled gay rather than bisexual.

 

[gmans94]

Thanks guys!

All of what you said is true.

It looks like I'm just gonna have to see where life takes me. I shouldn't fight who I am, and if it just so happens that I turn out bi, or gay, or (doubtful) straight, I'm going to have to accept myself before others can accept me.

 

[Eagle653]

Very few people are 100% gay or 100% straight. Even the straightest guy can develop a man-crush or "bromance." Very gay guys can find certain women attractive too, and even fantasize about them.

It's all good, especially if you believe (as I do) that positive feelings are good feelings. Enjoy the moments; it's good when people evoke those feelings in us.