Im a lousy bottom. I need help

[m1thousand]

I have been with guys and they all say Im tight.
When I am with myself, I ride a Dildo about the size of a regular cock.
But when I get with a regular guy, I tighten up and Im not relaxed and he cant just put it in. It takes like a minute

I see guys in film and they can transition from one cock to the other but I can do that. How do I get to that point where one guys can fuck me and another guy can come in and fuck me no problem

I was at the baths and the guy was really hot and he could take on one guy after another
I want to be that way

What do I need to do to be more open?

 

[Harke the Boeotarch]

^ Poppers*! They'll relax you almost to the point you can wear your anus as a backpack.

 

[m1thousand]

Really. I have used poppers but not to the point where . . . I dont even know what that means. Backpack?
I feel like everyone knows something that I dont know

I used to bottom years ago and enjoyed it but the only time I enjoy it is with a Dildo

But Im not with guys enough for this to be a real issue. I think Im asexual (not interested in sex with males or females) only myself where I can do it and get it done and then watch my shows

But if I can find a guy willing to open me up, Ill give it a try (that wasnt a fisting reference)

 

[PrinceCory]

Backpack. You know, like kids going to school wearing a backpack. Or you go hiking with a backpack that has your supplies.

 

[Harke the Boeotarch]

Really. I have used poppers but not to the point where . . . I dont even know what that means. Backpack?
I feel like everyone knows something that I dont know

I used to bottom years ago and enjoyed it but the only time I enjoy it is with a dildo

But Im not with guys enough for this to be a real issue. I think Im asexual (not interested in sex with males or females) only myself where I can do it and get it done and then watch my shows

But if I can find a guy willing to open me up, Ill give it a try (that wasnt a fisting reference)

It was a joke. In the eighties there was a cartoon meant to sell a certain kind of stuffed animal with a backpack-like pouch that you could turn around and where you could stuff the whole stuffed animal in. The were called Popples. Jeff Koons did a statue of one once.

Poppers relax the muscles tremendously (hence their popularity in fisting). I doubt however that you could fit your entire anatomy in your anus with them.

 

[SeaCore]

But Im not with guys enough for this to be a real issue. I think Im asexual (not interested in sex with males or females) only myself where I can do it and get it done and then watch my shows

I wonder if exploring this further could help you with your goal? Are you wanting to bottom so you can record yourself, you mentioned watching your shows?
And who knows, there could be a mindset component that's missing? Maybe something about approaching sex that asexual people interact with differently.

What's your main goal with being a better bottom? Is it for your direct benefit; like you do it because it feels good, or is it more indirect, you get something related but separate from the act of bottoming, like it making a partner happier which makes you feel happier, or just proving what your body is capable of to yourself?

 

[DepravedMuscleFTL]

you need to upgrade your dongs in the girth department each month -

go buy the next largest one - slam it into your asshole and cry - do that for a week or more everyday until you stop crying - then go buy the next size and slam it into your asshole and cry.... repeat until you are a sloppy whore - then call me *wink *wink

 

[smoothmotion]

1st of all, it depends on what kind of gay porn you want 2 b like. Don't take the suggestions of some 1 that's telling you 2 hurt your ass. I empathize with you and I can offer a solution 2 your problem. The bottoms that I penetrate typically tap out b4 I can nutt deep inside them. They've told me that they take a very warm bath in Epsom salt in their bath water. This will sooth your ass. Pills aren't the answer in your specific situation. My BBD is 9.5" x 5" so it's not that big. There's NOT that many power bottoms in Black gay porn, due to Black men averaging around 9-9.5" x 4". Those White bottoms are being scooped out daily and this is how they take what YOU may say is big. Each nation has their own understanding of what big is in a dick. What the porn makers aren't telling you is that the final flick has been edited. It takes days to make 1 flick and between dicks, those bottoms are given dildos of larger sizes to get them ready for the next larger size. Please do NOT compare or want 2 b like those porn bottoms. It's trick photography in those flicks and what they're making look easy, takes day and a LOT of takes. The camera fools people with angles. I've seen 2" dick distorted to look like 12" and I've seen 12" made 2 look like just a couple of inches. So my suggestion to you is find you some Black tops that r n2 u and just take each upward size 1 day @ a time. Hope this helps.

 

[ShadowCat]

Maybe you are trying to take things too fast in the bedroom with guys you are second guessing, all your problems could be psychosomatic, as you say that by yourself you have no problems. It is quite possible you are actually a solosexual someone who prefers masturbation over actual sexual intercourse. Asexual means no sexual feeling or desires.

 

[Nealm1]

I'm quite tight too especially after cumming. If the top can't get access I usually sit on top and ride (and ride and ride mmmmmm)