I'm a straight, very curious married man I need help

[Dirtydom57]

Hi im 25 married. Love my wife to death. We have a child that I love to death. But I'm extremely horny and curious.

Im pretty sure I've made up my mind that I'd like to try somethings. I just don't have a clue on how to go about this safely and discrete.

I don't want to do craigslist. I've tried and it's just a bunch of extremely pushy guys. I want to chat with a dude get to know him a little bit atleast. I want to know that everything is safe and I can explore without worrying.

So anybody have some suggestions for starting off. Websites. Apps. Anything.
I'm mainly looking to jack off with a guy and watch porn. Maybe have it lead to more. Just depends. Maybe a full on gay guy to show me the ropes.

 

[bi4rightguy]

Good luck, and sounds like you want the same as i do,,,, i am worried about distraction and finding someone not pushy all my replies are "i'm free tonight," even when i put not looking for a hookup tonight or today want to get to know you first.
Honestly i have always turned down married guys, but honestly im not sure why, i guess cause i don't want to help someone cheat. but everyone looks at cheating different... my girl knows i talk about hooking up with a guy and ive had a guy feel me up in front of her it was a gay friend of ours he was drunk.. I always get scared and nervous and chicken out when i do find someone who might be the one.. i don't know some people hook up w/o any thoughts i guess for me i would end up needing be in the right place at the right time, a lil drinking to looses me up be great.
good luck

 

[crosbyplace]

Check out Adam4Adam online

 

[Dirtydom57]

I'm the same way for sure. I've chickened out twice now.

But yeah every guy I've talked to is just way to pushy. Let's do it tonight I hate hearing that.

Idk I hope I'll figure it out. And I know cheating is wrong but my sexual desires eat at me. I have to release. It can't be good to bottle it all up

And I'll look up Adam4 Adam thanx

 

[Dirtydom57]

I'm in Colorado just thought you all would like to know

 

[hardup4ya]

Nice. So am I. What part? I'm always down for chatting.

 

[bicuriiousvan]

Yup, I have had my fair share of let's fuck tonight or I want to fuck you hard responses.

I have had some success with Craigslist when I post an ad saying specifically what I am looking for, what I want to do etc. I also include that I want to correspond a few times before deciding if it will work. It seems to limit, but not eliminate the let's get together tonight types.

 

[heir-to-the-wind]

Try squirt.org

I had a lot of casual hook-ups from that site.

 

[sixthson]

I'm sure you will find guys to advise you on the best way to cheat on your wife, but I won't be one of them. You are only 25, why didn't you explore this before you committed to another person? You didn't wake up having gay urges yesterday afterall. I will suggest that you ask your wife how she feels about it. At least give her the choice of leaving you before you bring home a nice STD for her or finds out someway else. She and your child are supposed to be the most important people in your life, right? Remember, this kinds of things never stay a secret. Maybe you'll luck out and she'll say go for it. Would you be okay with her hooking up with other guys online?

One other thing: what happens if the gay sex is so much better than sex with your wife? You going to leave your wife and child that you love to death?

 

[LuttleOne]

I'm sure you will find guys to advise you on the best way to cheat on your wife, but I won't be one of them. You are only 25, why didn't you explore this before you committed to another person? You didn't wake up having gay urges yesterday afterall. I will suggest that you ask your wife how she feels about it. At least give her the choice of leaving you before you bring home a nice STD for her or finds out someway else. She and your child are supposed to be the most important people in your life, right? Remember, this kinds of things never stay a secret. Maybe you'll luck out and she'll say go for it. Would you be okay with her hooking up with other guys online?

One other thing: what happens if the gay sex is so much better than sex with your wife? You going to leave your wife and child that you love to death?

This so much!

Seriously if you had these fantasies before getting married and having children, maybe you should have explored them prior? Perhaps tell them you are curious about this side of your sexuality and want to explore it... maybe suggesting a threesome?

 

[inbed]

On behalf of the bi community, I would like to remind every one that hindsight is 20/20 and many of us are frightened to be out. I will not judge you for your behavior. Just be careful and do not bring home an STD or an attitude. The one you love above all others does not deserve these. Cheers.

 

[Dirtydom57]

Honestly had no thoughts about it till about a year ago. Random drunk moment I jacked off with a buddy. It was great. That's all and every can judge an look at it how you want. But that's all I really want is a friend to jack off with

 

[inferno]

Just jack off with another guy, and perhaps give each other handjobs. It's safe.

 

[sixthson]

It is highly unlikely that it will stop at jack off buddies. Curiosity rarely works that way. What happens when curiosity leads to oral sex, then full on butt sex. Please don't say that won't happens. It's the natural progression of things.

Hind sight really doesn't matter either because he is living in the here and now. The OP has a wife and doing things behind her back, sexual or otherwise, is just wrong. They are supposed to be partners in life...all of life.

Anyway, might as well save my breath....cheaters gonna cheat.

 

[USEDCAR]

Maybe you should hang out with your buddy you jacked off with and see where it goes if he's down to going further or you could just make a blank grindr account and say your straight and curious.

I know throughout the years i always have that "magic conversation" with curious straight guys and we end up messing around.

 

[Steamer]

I suggest trying swinglifestyle. On your profile, you can list yourself as straight, but open to meeting males. You can always say something like 'open to new things', etc.
Good luck, play safe and don't do anything you're not comfortable with. And meet in a public place first.

 

[GayGHOF]

My wife and I met many frustrated bisexual married men over the years. Each one found a sexual hunger that only another man could fulfill. IMHO cheating is not healthy for the marriage and personally i would not go down this road without the wife being on board. Stick with the fantasy; reality can be very addictive.

 

[Justmarc]

Hi im 25 married. Love my wife to death. We have a child that I love to death. But I'm extremely horny and curious.

Im pretty sure I've made up my mind that I'd like to try somethings. I just don't have a clue on how to go about this safely and discrete.

I don't want to do craigslist. I've tried and it's just a bunch of extremely pushy guys. I want to chat with a dude get to know him a little bit atleast. I want to know that everything is safe and I can explore without worrying.

So anybody have some suggestions for starting off. Websites. Apps. Anything.
I'm mainly looking to jack off with a guy and watch porn. Maybe have it lead to more. Just depends. Maybe a full on gay guy to show me the ropes.

I understand why people are pushy... I am not looking but my friends are, and they all complained about guys that chicken out, so they come up with an idea now or never(pushy), or they move on and not wasting any time... Out of curiousity, all you want is to have sex and not having relation with other guys anyway, right? Why you have to build up the relation for? Is it better just do it and get out of the way? Unless, you are more than just curious, you want more... (just curious).

 

[FPNY]

/\ and if you're curious what's wrong with acting on it now? Either you're curious or you're not.

 

[novastar]

(SIGH) ....please don't cheat on your wife.

Is it safe to assume she would not at all be cool tonbe a lot of this. Now THAT would be awesome....having a wife eager to encourage exploration of all sexual ideas...