I’m a trans man and the guy I currently hook up with likes to slap me around. He tells me it’s because he needs to feel a release then he fucks me really hard and strong. He tells me that because I’m his slave, I’m supposed to please him and I love it. It hurts and I’m bruised but he looks and feels so amazing when he breeds me. Am I stupid or am I just a good slave? He’s older and married too
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Im addicted To being abused
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BiBtm64
JUB Addict
I don't think you're stupid, but whether this situation is a good thing or is harmful for you (psychologically or physically), depends on whether you're doing this willingly and consensually, and whether you're allowed to stop or impose limits at any time. Or whether he's using the master/slave dynamic to justify non-consensual violence. You say the sex feels great, and I totally get that - I love rough hard sex as well - but only you know whether you're tolerating the slapping in return for the type of sex that you enjoy, or whether you enjoy the abuse as part of the overall slave role.
I think there's nothing inherently wrong with wanting and enjoying being hurt or degraded, if it's a healthy outlet for emotional release, the sense of control dynamics, even the sense of empowerment that you might feel in ceding control, which I also totally understand as a bottom. There might be harm being done if this is related to past trauma, low self-esteem, or a desire to be punished due to guilt or unresolved psychological hurt.
There's no dichotomy between being "stupid" and a "good slave". Whether you're stupid is a question of self judgement and whether you're making an informed choice about what's right for you. Only you can answer that. Whether you're a "good slave" depends on the dynamic of the situation you've agreed to, and how you operate within those limits (hoping that you've been able to set limits that are complied with). A "good slave" means you have entered into the slave role willingly, and you're honoring the agreement including fulfilling your role and also being aware of the boundaries, and also to understand what's best for your own wellbeing.
Being older, and married (I am presuming to a woman, and that she doesn't know), he may be seeking fulfilment of needs that he's not getting in his marriage, and getting it from you fulfils a need. Whether that's for kinky abusive sex, or whether he's a violent person by nature, we don't know from what you've told us. Maybe you're just meeting for his needs - like you said, he needs to feel a release. You might want to consider what he would do, and how you would feel, if she finds out. Women have an uncanny knack for finding stuff out.
I think there's nothing inherently wrong with wanting and enjoying being hurt or degraded, if it's a healthy outlet for emotional release, the sense of control dynamics, even the sense of empowerment that you might feel in ceding control, which I also totally understand as a bottom. There might be harm being done if this is related to past trauma, low self-esteem, or a desire to be punished due to guilt or unresolved psychological hurt.
There's no dichotomy between being "stupid" and a "good slave". Whether you're stupid is a question of self judgement and whether you're making an informed choice about what's right for you. Only you can answer that. Whether you're a "good slave" depends on the dynamic of the situation you've agreed to, and how you operate within those limits (hoping that you've been able to set limits that are complied with). A "good slave" means you have entered into the slave role willingly, and you're honoring the agreement including fulfilling your role and also being aware of the boundaries, and also to understand what's best for your own wellbeing.
Being older, and married (I am presuming to a woman, and that she doesn't know), he may be seeking fulfilment of needs that he's not getting in his marriage, and getting it from you fulfils a need. Whether that's for kinky abusive sex, or whether he's a violent person by nature, we don't know from what you've told us. Maybe you're just meeting for his needs - like you said, he needs to feel a release. You might want to consider what he would do, and how you would feel, if she finds out. Women have an uncanny knack for finding stuff out.
I don’t want to disappoint him. He exposes me in public which completely turns him on. He’s fucked me in front of people and required me to suck him while people watch. He does hit me but he always seems better after. I feel like I need to take care of him. He’s so sexy and I just feel like I can’t say no to him. He is married to a woman but he says he loves me. He says he wants an obedient slave. He says his wife is boring and he wants me to be exciting and sexy for him. The beatings are hard but he’s so fucking hot!
BiBtm64
JUB Addict
It sounds to me like it's a bit one-sided and maybe a bit toxic. Everything you describe is about him and his needs and wants: you don't want to disappoint him; exposing you and making you suck him in front of people turns him on; you feel compelled to take care of him; you can't say no to him; he wants an obedient slave.
He says his wife is boring, and yet he stays with her: why? For comfort, security, children maybe, an outwardly straight life, or because it costs to much to divorce, perhaps. He might be saying he loves you because it's what he thinks you want to hear. It sounds to me like he wants the best of both worlds: a wife at home and a slave on call to abuse and to meet his sexual needs.
Don't get me wrong - I understand that the sex is good, and that can be a powerful factor, but you should ask yourself what you want, other than a hard fucking. Sorry if I'm misunderstanding or misjudging the dynamic of the situation but I'm only going by what you've described here.
He says his wife is boring, and yet he stays with her: why? For comfort, security, children maybe, an outwardly straight life, or because it costs to much to divorce, perhaps. He might be saying he loves you because it's what he thinks you want to hear. It sounds to me like he wants the best of both worlds: a wife at home and a slave on call to abuse and to meet his sexual needs.
Don't get me wrong - I understand that the sex is good, and that can be a powerful factor, but you should ask yourself what you want, other than a hard fucking. Sorry if I'm misunderstanding or misjudging the dynamic of the situation but I'm only going by what you've described here.
Petallways
Porn Star
I’m totally the same way you are! I like it rough and getting fucked rough. I’m actually transitioning to being a woman, but I will keep my cock.
