Im at my wits end.

[hotatlboi]

You need to stop talking to him. It's obvious what he is doing here. He's making the stupid threat of killing himself to keep you in his life because he figures you'll move on otherwise, and he needs the drama and the ability to keep hurting you because he's still mad about the breakup.

As you say, if there was even any chance it was real, you've offered the appropriate help. The fact that he isn't interested just shows you all the more that it isn't real.

 

[looseliam]

You can't fix him.

You can fix yourself.

Do yourself a favour and avoid this toxic person - it will only end badly for you.

 

[DeadRussianSpaceMonkey]

He has the resources you gave him- It's time for you to move foward with your life- you both weren't a good fit.- It's time to get yourself together and find someone that will make you happy and feel like the world. It's been two months and you still haven't cut the ties yet. Cut them, block his number and texts if you can.

Do yourself a favour and avoid this toxic person - it will only end badly for you.

You might not think you will get sucked in, but you are bait lined and sinked already. Save yourself some stress and worry. You told his parents, what he told you- You gave him resources. There is nothing more you can do for him. It isn't your place to fix, and there are people out their that will help him if he goes for it. I think it's just manipulation. I don't think you have anything to feel guilty about, you did more then what you could have.

Get out before you keep getting hurt.

 

[HunterM]

You did the right thing to inform his mother. It's up to his immediate family to take actions in dealing with his issues.

You need to focus on your new life and leave the drama behind.

Best wishes!

 

[KaraBulut]

The problem is that- while you feel you're doing the best thing- you're allowing a situation to continue that has no good ending.

By making you feel responsible for his problems, he is able to blackmail you emotionally. By allowing yourself to be sucked into this situation, you are allowing him to continue his abuse even after you kicked him out.

You have notified his family. His family is responsible for him now. It's time for you to end contact with him. If that means changing your phone number, where you live, your email address- whatever you must do- it is imperative that you do so because you're dealing with someone who is mentally unstable and has threatened to harm you and harm himself.

 

[HunterM]

^

 

[Rolyo85]

I just wanna address the possibility that he DOES commit suicide. If it happens (and that's a big if), it would NOT be on your head. Nobody has a responsibility for his life but himself. The very fact of him trying to make you shoulder that responsibility is what completely absolves you of it.

He's abusing you, and it's up to you to say stop. Let him try to commit suicide, let him see what his unstable tantrum really means. Trust me, people generally don't have the guts for it.

 

[ezwriter]

You also have the option of alerting your local police department the next time he threatens suicide. They can probably have him committed to a facility for a couple of days...which would a) push him towards getting the psychological help he obviously desperately needs, and/or b) stop the threats and emotional blackmail he's laying on you.