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I'm being blackmailed - Please Help

TyMckay

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Ok, this is a long story, the truth is that i have allowed for this to be to long but well, hope you read it and give me your opinion and what i should do.

PS: By the end of this you're going to think I am an idiot... Well I am...

Here it goes, I've had a boyfriend for 4 years now, his name is Anthony, I really love him, we've lived together for two years now.

But, after a year of living together, I'm not proud to admit I started cheating on him; I started having sex with random guys I met online every once in a while until I met this guy called Mauricio (Mau). He is not the best looking man ever (he's really ugly) but has a really big dick and well, money; at the time I was figthing a lot with Anthony and this guy listened to me, took me to places and payed for everything so it became more than just a random guy.

After a few months my relationship with Anthony got better and i realized how ugly is Mau (on the inside and outside) so I tried dumping him, however Mau started boceming more and more of a stalker, one time he asked me to meet him and showed me photos of us that i have no idea how or when he took, he also had my MOM's number and address, and also the address where Anthony and I live.

He told me that he wouldn't show any of the pictures to Anthony and my family with the condition that he and I met once a week to go out and fuck. I said yes... I went the next day to the police and tried putting a harrassment complaint, but the police officer's response was: "get the fuck out you fag" (I live in Peru, not the most advanced country when it comes to gay stuff). I thought that seing him once a week and letting him buy me stuff wasn't that bad.

This lasted about six months but i grew a hate for Mau, I'm not a violent person but I started having thoughts of killing him, he noticed I was starting to hate him so he decided to "change the rules" of our "agreement", he asked me my facebook password and took me to his computer and made me delete all my accounts on various websites (manhunt, bakala, etc...), I gave him my facebook password and I've tried changing it but when I do he starts calling my family and Anthony and he records the calls and then makes me listen, he passes himself as a salesman for who knows what and warns me that if i do something to annoy him again he will post all the pictures, he also talks to my co-workers.

Yes, I'm an idiot, but I need help, any ideas what i should do, I really don't want to admit to Anthony that I cheated on him and lose him forever, I know him, he would dump me for good, that's the only reason I'm still in this mess.
 
You really don't have a choice. This is clearly escalating and it might get ugly. You have to tell everyone that this creep could get to. Explain to Anthony the whole situation and face the consequences like a man. It's that or becoming a victim of a predator that might end up hurting not just you but also your family.

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He can't do anything if they all know. Also, whatever Peru thinks on gay rights, rape is rape.
 
1. Fess up to Anthony; and family.

2. Accept responsibility for your behavior.

3. Hope all turns out well but accept it may not.

4. Tell Mau to fuck himself.

(Where was Anthony during this long triste?)
 
Blackmail trumps cheating. Explain to Anthony your predicament. Seek counseling from whatever LBGT resources are available in Peru. What would happen if Mau's friends and family (if he has any) would find out what he's up to?
 
Rolyo85 said:
You really don't have a choice. This is clearly escalating and it might get ugly. You have to tell everyone that this creep could get to. Explain to Anthony the whole situation and face the consequences like a man. It's that or becoming a victim of a predator that might end up hurting not just you but also your family.

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He can't do anything if they all know. Also, whatever Peru thinks on gay rights, rape is rape.
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Yep, start telling everyone including Anthony about that Mau.
 
All of the above. If you are honest with Anthony and your family, you take away the only thing that makes Mau have power over you.

Be prepared--being honest will have it's repurcussions. You may be in a no win situation, but the current arrangement is clearly not working out.
 
Well, you reap what you sew..... but I agree with everyone above. Swallow your pride and tell everyone what's going on. Take the power away from this guy. It's going to be tough at first, but a hell of a lot better than the mess you are in now.
 
You need to own it...now. He can only have power over you when you give it to him...so take it away.

You might lose a few things in the process...but you will gain some dignity and respect for yourself.

One other thing...when you talk to your boyfriend...be explicitly honest with him. Tell him exactly what you said here. You might lose him...and you have to be prepared for that... but if you lie to him to "spare his feelings" you will be starting the whole thing all over again....

....one thing you have going for you is that you aren't lying to yourself...so don't start now.
 
I agree with everyone that you need to come clean. That's the only way to get out of this.

From what i know of south American countries the law won't care that he's getting raped. He's gay so everyone will be biased against him. He'll have trouble getting this anywhere near a court. It'll just get swept under the rug.
 
Thanks a lot guys. I mean, all of the stuff you wrote, i already knew it but it's somehow different when someone else tells it to you.

The worst part is that i know it is all my fault, I'm going to seek some help from an LGBT community here and tell my boyfriend everything, I hope it is not the end for us but well...
 
Sorry, but cheating on one person and then using someone else for their "body" and money.....sounds like karma to me. You deserve what you get.

The only way out of the mess is to come clean to your boyfriend and your family. Don't be surprised when your boyfriend leaves you. Hopefully you learned your lesson. Let this be a lesson to everyone else.
 
I don't have any advice to offer. Such a tricky situation. But, I am interested to see how it goes. I hope it works out for you!
 
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