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hi there, thanks for click this thread, i want share my story..

i have 3 older sister, i am the last child, my life seem normal until i was attacked from polio virus when i was 3. i'm survive.. i can walk, but the way i walk is not normal, people will stares at me when i walk in front of'em.. actually i dont mind if people say bad thing or underestimated me, i just do the best to live my life hapily..

but theres something makes me wondering, do someone will love disabled people?
 
Yes... there are many who do get involved with people with disabilities. I am deaf since birth, obese, and gay since 1975 (out) and have come to appreciate many people who liked me, got involved with me, etc. I do run into many people who were very shallow and others who took advantage of me and my generosity, etc. I wish you luck.
 
Of course people can and do fall in love with people who have disabilities..They are the type of person who looks way beyond the superficial and sees the person inside...So dont wory..love will find you!
 
There is someone out there that will love you for you! Good luck and please keep us posted...
 
harryaoi said:
hi there, thanks for click this thread, i want share my story..

i have 3 older sister, i am the last child, my life seem normal until i was attacked from polio virus when i was 3. i'm survive.. i can walk, but the way i walk is not normal, people will stares at me when i walk in front of'em.. actually i dont mind if people say bad thing or underestimated me, i just do the best to live my life hapily..

but theres something makes me wondering, do someone will love disabled people?
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Harri
My mother was striken with polio when she was 27 (1952). she was already married and had two children (I came along later). In my father she had someone who loved her and stayed with her thru 60 years of marriage. Yes, there are men out there who will love you for who you are.
 
Most certainly. Like most non-Adonises, you might find it harder to catch someone's eye from across the room and convince him to go home with you, which means you're stuck having to win gys over with your personality. And I'm happy to report that although it takes longer, it works just as well in the long run. :)

Lex
 
Yes they dont and there is nothing wrong with a person with a disability.

There is always someone out there for everybody.

Dont let the stares of others affect you, they are just ignorant of they they dont know or what they fear.

But never give up hope, as hope is sometimes all we have.
 
My brothers mother-in-law has polio and she is in her 50's. She has had it since she was born. She can walk short distances, but uses a wheel chair most of the time. However, she can drive herself and do really anything else that people would consider normal. Her only enemy is stairs! She was married for many years and had several children until her husband was killed many years ago in a working accident. There is a verse to a song that says "love doesn't ask why" I believe that! Well, sorry my story was a bit long. Good Luck with love!
 
Dear Harryaoi,

I understand your concerns, but as some of the other guys have said to you already, there is somebody out there for you. Don't give up hope. Years ago I was madly in love with a guy who was a thalidomide baby and deformed hands. To me, he was tall, handsome, funny, and caring and I could not keep myself off of him when we were together. I wish you all the best. It may take time in this all too- obsessed-with-beauty gay culture, but he's there for you. There are many of us who do love the person and not just the looks.
 
No one is perfect, there is enough love out there for you to find. Never think you aren't good enough just because you are disabled.
 
Disability wouldn't make a difference to me when interested in a person. Of course it would add a new factor to a relationship and there might be some awkward changes at first but really its a non issue.

No worries, just get out...
 
I had a Deaf bf and broke up with him because of issues not related to D/deafness.

Sure, there are plenty of guys that will ignore you, but there are also guys who will see you for what you are. (*8*)
 
G-Lexington said:
Most certainly. Like most non-Adonises, you might find it harder to catch someone's eye from across the room and convince him to go home with you, which means you're stuck having to win gys over with your personality. And I'm happy to report that although it takes longer, it works just as well in the long run. :)

Lex
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I love your posts Lex, You are such a warm person.
 
One of the nicest guy ever meet is disabled and moves around in scooter. I have meet him at the bath house on few occasions. He gets around enjoys the company and I enjoy his vistis.
 
thanks for the words guys..

so yesterday i came out to someone i like, and his reaction just only shock..
 
your disability will turn some guys off but who wants to be with someone shallow like that? you CAN find love. good luck dude and thanks for sharing!
 
im sure your disability is just one part of a whole list of characteristics to describe you.
Im sure there is someone out there who will see that it is a part of who you are, not solely who you are as a person
 
I have been a Special Olympics coach in the past and I see the barriers that people with disabilities face when trying to meet people. Allot of people have predetirmined assumptions about disabled people and don't take the time to get to know them or they try too hard and make the person feel self-conscience. Just be yourself and realize that it may take awhile for people to get to know you.

As for meeting other gay people, if you figure THAT out please PM me and let me know. My gaydar is broke and no one has shown me the secret handshake so I find it just as hard as you do to find someone that I really want to spend time with.
 
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