I'm Feeling rather down

[Pushyourluck]

I don't normally post threads but i'm in a situation where I don't really have anyone around me to turn to.

To cut a really long story short, me and my partner moved to Turkey last October and i'm not enjoying living here. The turkish people are great and the country itself is beautiful but it's like I have this yearning for home. Neither of us can work over here and I guess that's part of the reason i'm down as I have way too much free time on my hands. When I did work I would have killed to be complacent about having free time but the reality is, it's pretty boring. I've joined a gym here and sauna and taken up swimming but it's not filling a void I seem to have developed since we moved here. I've told my partner about my feelings but they get pushed to one side because he loves it here. I feel horrible for thinking it but sometimes I wish I could just book a flight and go home.

Sorry if i've gone on a bit but I think I just needed to share and if i'm honest rant a little.

 

[TheHeraldMage]

Do they have volunteer work you could maybe do over there? Would that be allowed?

 

[Pushyourluck]

I haven't really thought about it. I know there is an animal shelter for homeless dogs but it's way out of town behind a mountain so i'm not sure i'd be able to get there. That's a really good suggestion though, I will look into it.

 

[Antoine.]

so why are you both there if you both can't work?

 

[Pushyourluck]

so why are you both there if you both can't work?

My partner had bought a holiday home out here years ago and our business in the UK did well so we thought a break from the stress of our jobs would be perfect.

 

[Antoine.]

lol do you hear how Ironic that is?

 

[Alpha1851]

I personally hate moving and I dislike change in general. Adapting to a new environment always takes me a bit longer than other people. Your partner should listen to your needs and concerns and help you find your niche there. I'm surprised that he's not listening to you. Are you a workaholic by chance?

 

[Pushyourluck]

lol do you hear how Ironic that is?

LOL believe me the irony isn't lost on me. Funny how you think the grass is greener on the other side. invariably it's not greener at all.

 

[Antoine.]

my suggestion, since the money is not a problem, go out and discover that beautiful country.

I've never been, but both my parents have and they told me beautiful things they saw there...

just go out and do what tourists do...

 

[giorgiobaby]

I'm sure there is some kind of volunteer work other than the animal shelter...closer by. Have you tried a hospital or an orphanage or shelter perhaps? Good Luck, I hope you find something that will be meaningful for you

 

[swerve]

Don't allow your partner to push your feelings aside...

Thats NEVER a good idea...

You are BOTH EQUALS in your relationship...

jmo -- sorry that you're not having fun -- it sounds EXCITING and EXHILARATING from where I'm sitting..

 

[Antoine.]

I'm sure there is some kind of volunteer work other than the animal shelter...closer by. Have you tried a hospital or an orphanage or shelter perhaps? Good Luck, I hope you find something that will be meaningful for you

I'm sorry to say, but your suggestion is unrealistic. you're giving him suggestions that would work in an English-speaking country.

They do speak some English in Turkey, but I don't think he can do some kind of volunteer work, there will be lack of communication.

 

[rareboy]

They do speak some English in Turkey, but I don't think he can do some kind of volunteer work, there will be lack of communication.

D'uhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh.

He must know Turkish. It isn't totally difficult.

It is a problem with ex-pats though, who end up living their holiday idyll day after day, but don't really live in the country they're in.

So, yes. Find some volunteer work you can do. Or get out there and really travel and get to know the entire country. It is one fucking amazing place.

 

[GL]

it it were me and money was not an issue, i'd be out traveling and sight seeing. i'd do all the touristy things one can do and just enjoy the hell out of it.

 

[giorgiobaby]

I'm sorry to say, but your suggestion is unrealistic. you're giving him suggestions that would work in an English-speaking country.

They do speak some English in Turkey, but I don't think he can do some kind of volunteer work, there will be lack of communication.

You assumed he only spoke english? Narrow minded attitude....not many people move to another country and don't know some of the basic language phrases

 

[Pushyourluck]

Hi i'm sorry I didn't respond more yesterday as there was a complication with the electricity here (it went off for hours). I do speak basic Turkish and can understand more than I actually can say.
The trouble is I haven't really heard of volunteer programs out here (maybe they're posted all over the place but I just can't read them)
Money is an issue though, there is no bottomless pit. We have enough to survive on if we don't go mad for a year or two.
We've travelled all around this region and love the place but again I don't feel like making this my home. I miss England and my family and friends terribly. The local ex pats over here only seem to be interested in drinking in the bars until 4am every night. I just ask myself there must be more to life than this.
What frustrates me even more is knowing fully well how lucky I am to be out here but I don't seem to be able to be happy here anymore.